Speaking for myself, I have never said that the Church should or will change.
What I do know is that secular society changes all the time. When I was a kid, divorce was something people talked about in whispers, now there are greeting cards. Living together outside of marriage was something “nice people” didn’t do.
The Church isn’t going to change and we know that-so in light of that how do we continue the mission that Jesus gave us to reach that world as it changes?
First, we must tell people that God loves them. That God so loved the world that He sent His only Son to die as a sacrifice for sin, and that He is the way, and the truth and the life. He is our Lord who loves us and who guides us through Scripture, Tradition and the teaching authority given to His bride, the Catholic Church,
The question we need to ask ourselves is: Why does secular
and Catholic people change? Over the last 40 years, I observed the reasons why people, Christians in particular, changed.
The “nice” people went to Church, were mostly good neighbors, and among those good neighbors, a lot were good role models. Something we no longer have. The media respected and reflected our values. Something we no longer have. Young men and young women dated, and had relationships, and the planning behind getting engaged was no trivial thing. That now occurs a lot less than before. No, life was not perfect 40 years ago - we had crime and all the rest. We had a lot of “good” girls and guys in high school but there were a few who did sleep around. We were told to be polite to those girls but to not get into a relationship with them. Marriage was “until death do us part.” Cohabitation without marriage was called “living in sin.”
So, if there were “nice” people who lived functional lives in a society that respected their values, then there were “bad” people who wanted the exact opposite and
that is what we have today.
Late 1960s - The Sex without love Revolution. No strings attached sex with anybody - married, single, it didn’t matter. Christians were able to continue their traditions for the most part, but these other people had a plan. They told us to reject all authority. Mom, dad? Forget them! We want to give you a freer life. I actually heard the following at the time: “You want to have sex with your girlfriend, right?” They told us that we needed freedom and that all authority was wrong and oppressive. “Don’t trust anyone over 30!”
In short - have sex with whoever, use lots of illegal drugs, like marijuana (which as you may have noticed, is regularly promoted as OK, and should be legal). So, it was about losing control of the desires of your flesh for pleasure.
The birth control pill would give women the freedom to have sex and pursue a career, which young women were taught
they needed to do. After all, women were being oppressed by men.
In the late 1960s, in my Catholic school, we were taught, illegal drugs are harmful - all of them. By my last year in school, one of the people who did not want to follow Church teaching, began to sell illegal drugs in our high school. One day, he came up to me with an envelope and asked me to “hold it” for him. I asked what was in it and he said, “Crystal T,” which was the pill form of THC, the active ingredient in marijuana. I said, no. Later, I found out he was living with his girlfriend. When I politely reminded him that we were taught that was wrong, he angrily said, “But we love each other!” I then said they should get married.
And there were “intellectuals” inside and outside the Church who convinced some that we had no right to tell them how to live. They wanted to openly, not privately, live sinful and harmful lifestyles AND BE ACCEPTED by the community as being just like us, but they obviously were not.
They were shameless, rude in public, liked to cuss and swear, smoke dope and live with their “old lady” cause they didn’t need “no piece of paper ta live with my old lady.”
They wanted their openly sinful lifestyle to be accepted and open scandal to cease to exist.
“Hey man. If it feels good, do it.” That was their guiding philosophy. Porn? We love it. Divorce? Two or three divorces? We should stop caring.
And the traditional family, it had to be destroyed. So that any mix and match combination of sex partners could be called a "family.’
But to answer your question about reaching people:
catholicvu.com/inactive%20catholics.htm
focus.org/on-campus/campus-impact.html
cultivationministries.com/home/resources/ministry-products/engaging-a-new-generation-description/
Remember, each one of us is the sower of the seed. By others observing our own good (by the grace of God) behavior, we sow a seed. Whenever we tell someone, “I’ll say a prayer for you.” plants a seed. When others in our family don’t see us drinking in excess, having multiple kids with multiple women, living with our girlfriend with no plans to get married, using illegal drugs, and controlling our tongues by not cussing and swearing - we are planting a seed. When we remind people that there are clean and worthy ways to enjoy life - as opposed to going to see the next immoral movie - we are planting a seed.
Hope this helps,
Ed