Catholics that say they'd never have any biological children for this reason

[manualman]

Are we wrong to consider using NFP permanently?

If it helps, I’m one who had a problem wrapping my mind around the OP’s scenario. Yours is not the same as the issue is not just your own fears about the chance of tragedy for the conceived child, but the needs of the kids you already have and the health of your husband. My only advice would be to change your mindset away from thinking in terms of “permanently.” Amazingly little in life is permanent except the love of God. Take it month by month and it that turns out to be a lifetime, then it is.

God bless.

 

[Rau]

… My only advice would be to change your mindset away from thinking in terms of “permanently.” Amazingly little in life is permanent except the love of God. Take it month by month and it that turns out to be a lifetime, then it is.

God bless.

I think that is a good suggestion. But note I suspect people will often use words like permanently or indefinite when they really mean “until the situation/circumstances change”. But it’s good to ask the question from time to time - “have things changed, how do I feel now”?

 

[jmcrae]

“Are we wrong to consider using NFP permanently? We would, of course, welcome any children we would conceive, but I’m not sure it is right for us to seek to have biological children. Our 3 adopted children, as well as this situation with his health, have pushed me to limits that I didn’t think I would ever cope with. I don’t think I could cope with a baby as well…but I am sinning? Am I not trusting God enough? Helpful answers please, please do not judge me as I really am seeking advice and to follow God’s plan, but I am struggling with everything just now x”

You don’t need to make any permanent decisions right now. You can keep reconsidering and reweighing this periodically from now until menopause. The only thing you can be sure of is that things are going to keep changing. You’ll be getting older, but at the same time, your adopted children will also be getting older and more capable. Also, there may well be some medical breakthroughs that will change either your husband’s situation or your hypothetical biological children’s situation. Don’t feel like you need to decide now and forevermore what you’re going to be doing for the next 10 years–you don’t have to do that.

Best wishes!

Good point. *Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. * Don’t worry about tomorrow.