Celebrating Confirmation of one child and Baptism of sibling at same Mass?

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Wondering anyone has insight into this situation.

Our oldest daughter will be confirmed this May and we are currently expecting baby #8. After contemplating our Godparent situation, we decided to ask our Parish priest if he would be the Godfather, to which he happily agreed. We told him that he could pick the date of the Baptism as he would need to arrange for another priest to say Mass while he’s participating as the Godparent. He told us after Mass today that he asked the Bishop (?!) if HE would say Mass and perform the Baptism and the Bishop agreed. The one issue is that the Bishop is very busy and we don’t want to delay the Baptism for too long for obvious reasons but also because our current priest is being moved to a different parish in another province and will likely be leaving sometime after June 2. He wants to ask the Bishop to perform the Baptism at the same Mass that the Confirmation will take place because he will already be at our parish. I’m wondering if anyone knows if this is ok or is it a liturgical no-no?
 
While it is a good idea, remember all the other youth who are being confirmed at that Mass are celebrating a special day too. If it were me, I would have the baptism after the Mass rather than interrupted the rite of the confirmation Mass.
 
Horton said:
While it is a good idea, remember all the other youth who are being confirmed at that Mass are celebrating a special day too. If it were me, I would have the baptism after the Mass rather than interrupted the rite of the confirmation Mass.
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Why? They are actually designed to go together, at the same mass. The Baptism(s) comes first and then the confirmations(s)
 
I do not see how a baptism at a confirmation mass takes anything away from those children being confirmed. I think it is more important to follow the Bishop’s lead on how to do it best.

To the OP:. I think it is all together really cool.
 
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Yep - here it comes, all the criticism because I feel different than others do. Nice to be able to have and express an opinion (sarcasm intended).

Do you know a confirmation Mass has a certain rite? There is a structure to the Mass that centers on the actual confirmation. How do I know this? I am the director of youth ministries in my parish and I plan the confirmation Mass every year within the confines of the rite.

Of course the OP is going to follow the lead of her priest and bishop. I’m just saying there are other families who are celebrating what is a very special day for them and they should be sensitive to that.

I’m done here now, said my piece and won’t be coming back so further criticism is not wanted or needed.
 
As we are encouraged to have the same sponsor for Baptism and Confirmation to emphasize the link between the two Sacraments, how much more the symbolism at this Mass 🙂 Beautiful!
 
With all due respect, I believe you are overreacting. No one was overally critical of you, we simply had a minor disagreement. If you read in my post anything beyond a simple disagreement, I apologize. It certainly was not intended.
 
Horton said:
Do you know a confirmation Mass has a certain rite? There is a structure to the Mass that centers on the actual confirmation. How do I know this? I am the director of youth ministries in my parish and I plan the confirmation Mass every year within the confines of the rite.
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The ritual doesn’t prohibit other sacraments, though, does it? It certainly doesn’t read like the Roman Missal, outlining the Mass in its entirety. Therefore, insertion of another rite (such as baptism) wouldn’t be illicit.
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I’m just saying there are other families who are celebrating what is a very special day for them and they should be sensitive to that.
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It’s a really odd notion – and one that isn’t uncommon among Catholics! – that a ‘special’ Mass is somehow the ‘property’ of the people celebrating the ‘special’ event. Families are generally aghast at the notion that their child’s baptism might take place in the context of Sunday Mass (even though the Church, in her rites, suggests that this is eminently appropriate!). People balk at the notion of going to “someone else’s” funeral Mass.

It is altogether foreign to Catholic sensibilities to exclude the community from communal celebrations! And yet, for some reason, we think that it’s “insensitive” not to do so! 🤷‍♂️
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Yep - here it comes, all the criticism because I feel different than others do. Nice to be able to have and express an opinion (sarcasm intended).
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So… you’re allowed to express an opinion, but others aren’t? 🤔
Horton said:
I’m done here now, said my piece and won’t be coming back
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Umm… nice dialoguing with you, then, I guess?
 
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It’s a really odd notion – and one that isn’t uncommon among Catholics! – that a ‘special’ Mass is somehow the ‘property’ of the people celebrating the ‘special’ event. Families are generally aghast at the notion that their child’s baptism might take place in the context of Sunday Mass (even though the Church, in her rites, suggests that this is eminently appropriate!). People balk at the notion of going to “someone else’s” funeral Mass.

It is altogether foreign to Catholic sensibilities to exclude the community from communal celebrations! And yet, for some reason, we think that it’s “insensitive” not to do so! 🤷‍♂️
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Imagine me standing up and applauding!
 
Tell me about it! I’ve even heard parents complaining that they should have a separate Confirmation Mass for the parish school students that excludes the PSR students because it “supposed to be a special day for OUR kids”. Like, they literally expect the bishop to come to the parish twice to have two separate Masses so they don’t have to deal with the public school and homeschool families making it awkward with their presence. (And taking up parking.)
 
I had two God daughters baptized and one confirmed at Easter Vigil.

They were mother and daughter. Mom wanted her daughter to come into the Church at the same time. It seemed like a good thought.

Our priest was fine with it, but made it clear that if she had her daughter baptized during or outside of of a normal Mass, there would be a special blessing for the mother (and father.) And there would be an individual introduction of her daughter.

During Easter Vigil, the baby’s baptism would be just one of many.

All of that was fine for my God daughter. And they were both welcomed to the Church on the same night.

All of that to say, if this baptism is handled similarly, that would be fine.
 
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