Which brings up a question: is it OK to change rites because you don’t like NO, and want to get away from unorthodox Latins?
This would be up to the priest and bishops to decide.
In my opinion, being neither of the above, it would not be a sufficient reason to request a change of Church. I could understand how someone who felt he had no other viable options would attend an Eastern Catholic parish despite it not being a perfect fit for him, but in that circumstance I would expect him to accept it for what it is and not to use it as a substitute. It could be that after spending time there he would come to love it for what it is, independent of his feelings toward the Novus Ordo, in which case it would be a different issue. Overall, it is best left to the person, priest, and bishops to decide.
Which brings up a question: if you are changing rites, are you bound to the old one until the old bishop releases you, or can you start in the meantime in the new one? I ask honestly, because besides being in good standing, I don’t get the requirements on switching rites
Under the letter of the law, a person is bound to a particular Church and all of its canons. That person would be bound by those canons unless and until he was released from them. For a Latin going eastward, there is very little the west requires that the east doesn’t already do. For an easterner going westward, there is more required that fellow Latin parishioners would not be bound to.
The practice of this can be vary from the letter of the law under economia. It is best guided by one’s priest and/or confessor.
Examples of some differences include:
Regulations regarding weddings
-In the west, the theology of the couple being the ministers, the allowance of deacons to preside, and the allowance of having a wedding outside the church by a non-Catholic with a dispensation. In the east, the requirements for a church wedding presided by a priest.
Regulations regarding ordination
-First, one must seek permission to be ordained through the rightful authority. So an easterner can’t be ordained by a Latin bishop or religious order without his Eastern bishop’s approval. Second, eastern married men may be ordained in the eastern churches while western married men may not be ordained without recourse to the Holy See.
Regulations regarding fasting
-The required days and times of fasting are different, and correspond with the different liturgical calendars. It can be difficult to maintain fasts when disconnected from the liturgical life that sustains them.
Regulations regarding the initiation of one’s children
By the letter of the law (which is not always followed), Roman Catholic babies are only to be baptized in infancy. If one is still a canonical RC, his child is baptized into the Latin Church. If one is living the Eastern faith and expecting, one might desire a change of enrollment before the baby’s baptism so that the baby is also chrismated and communed.
Regulations regarding one’s children’s enrollment
-If a change of Church is processed after a child’s baptism, that child may return to his original Church at the age of 14. If done before a baptism, there is no “original” and “subsequent” Church, but one Church the child has always belonged to.
Unity with one’s fellow believers
-When a way of life becomes so ingrained that it does not make sense to keep up obligations and papers for another Church, one wants to have the fullness of unity and expression of faith that comes with a formal transfer. One no longer feels as if he has a foot in two camps, but knows he is fully based in one theology, spirituality, and parish home.