Nope, you’re not wrong. Some of us prefer the more quiet and reverent type of worship. I know of only one out of 35 or 40 local parishes that are heavily Charismatic. You should be able to find a Catholic parish that has a more reverent type of parish.
Sorry. I’ve been following this thread since the beginning and I just can’t stay silent any more.
I attend a parish that is considered a “personal parish of the bishop” and has been granted special permissions to incorporate several “charismatic” elements into our worship - primarily this means that we have approximately 60 seconds of free-form worship twice during mass: once at the end of the Gloria and once in between communion songs, after everyone has received. During these times people are free to sing/pray in the Spirit (in whatever language they feel led to use) - or pray silently. On the whole, a good portion of our parishoners raise their hands as they feel led
during the music. Many, but not all, have prayed in tongues at some point in time or another.
HOWEVER - all that being said, we have one of the most REVERENT parishes I have ever found. We have a
deep love for the Eucharist (including those gestures that many associate with this reverence - many choosing to fully genuflect before receiving, many receiving on tongue, most receiving under both species, etc). We have the only perpetual adoration chapel in the area. Our tabernacle is located centrally, directly behind the altar. Everyone serving on the altar kneels briefly when the Eucharist is reserved, and many people in the congregation remain kneeling until the Eucharist has been reserved.
Few, if any, people in our parish hold hands during the Our Father. Few use the Orans position for that matter- recognizing that it is reserved for the priest. Our music is a mixture of gregorian chant, traditional hymns, modern (but very beautiful and reverent) compositions (often by parish members), and a few reverent and theologically sound non-Catholic songs. I’ve heard more non-Catholic songs at Non-Charismatic parishes than I’ve heard at ours. Of our settings of the ordinary, at least 25% are in Latin/Greek (and during most liturgical seasons at least one of the parts of the Ordinary is in Latin). Our Kyrie is always in Greek. We make use of a wide variety of instruments and musical forms, but the music is always beautiful, always lifting us closer to God. It is never noise for the sake of noise or modern for the sake of being moern.
We have all the smells, bells, and trappings of a traditional parish. Our church is beautiful, with plenty of room for stained glass (we couldn’t afford it when it was built, but there are a number of planned projects when we can) and with architecture that was intentionally and explicitly Catholic. We have a larger-than-life Crucifix in a VERY prominent place. We have absolutely beautiful vestments, altar cloths, etc. We regularly utilize incense. Bells are rung during the consecration every week (again not true in many parishes I’ve been to that are not charismatic). Our altar servers are all male. Most if not all bow during the appropriate part of the creed. Many women choose to wear headcoverings of some sort. In fact, in part due to all the reasons I just stated, when I mention what church I go to to others in the community, they say “oh, you go to that conservative, traditionalist parish” - it kind of blows me away really. I think to myself “no, I go to an absolutely orthodox parish” (not Orthodox as in the Eastern Church, but orthodox as meaning “of, pertaining to, or conforming to the approved form of Catholicism”).
We are absolutely faithful to the Vatican - and to the Apostolic faith it represents. Father frequently references papal encyclicals, church documents, the Catechism, etc. in his homilies. Everything we teach is completely in line with church teaching (again, not true in many parishes I’ve visited). Last Lent, our parish mission was geared to studying the documents of Vatican II - helping people understand what was, and was NOT, part of that wonderful council. We have deep respect and reverence for our bishop, the bishops, and especially the Bishop of Rome. We produce the most Seminarians in our diocese.
Our parish life is vibrantly sacramental. We have, for example, the most time in our area set aside for Confessions - because it is necessary to accomodate everyone wanting to go to confession. We are also a deeply contemplative parish: we have a third order Carmelite group closely associated with us, and, as I said earlier, a Perpetual Adoration chapel as two examples. We are constantly being called to fall more deeply in love with Jesus.
A Priest once visited our parish and later told the congregation: “I used to tell everyone I met that you cannot be both Charismatic and Reverent. After visiting your parish I realize that I am wrong and need to go apologize to everyone I said that to and correct my mistake.”
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