Is it ok to use sex toys?
Is it ok to read erotica to each other as part of foreplay?
Is it ok to “talk dirty” during sex?
Is it ok to take pictures of each other naked or wearing lingerie, provided that they are never shown to anyone else, are not used by one spouse for masturbation, and are kept somewhere where no one else would ever find them?
every answer is No.
i’ll try to make this simple, all those acts you speak of are lustful, and what the church teaches is that we are all Obligated to practice chastity according to our state in life, and in the case of married people - Chastity regulates the use of sex for married people, which is “To control or direct according to rule, principle, or law.”
now you may ask, well what are the rules?
mainly the rules for intercourse are that it may be engaged only in the natural manner, between husband and wife, with their proper marriage partner, and
only in a manner that leaves open the conception of a child.
that should spell it out quite clearly,
but let me address each question individually now,
Is it ok to use sex toys?
think of it this way, lets say you went ahead and used them, with the intention of ending in the natural manner as you’re meant to, what’s the difference if you did it with or without ending in that manner?
can you honestly believe that the one action could cancel out the sin of another?
if you can make sense of that to yourself, then explain it to me, otherwise don’t give into it.
but i think it’s safe to say that one action will definitely
not cancel out the sin of another action.
Is it ok to read erotica to each other as part of foreplay?
The catholic church forbids impure reading, and that is no exception for married people, it will put dirty thoughts in your head, and also lead to a perverted mind, if not already perverted.
Is it ok to “talk dirty” during sex?
this i will explain with a quote from the catechism book “this is the faith”, since it explains it so well.
" “But now put you also all away: Anger, indignation, malice, blasphemy,
filthy speech out of your mouth.” (Col. 3:8 ).
An immodest tongue is the devil’s carriage because it carries souls to Hell for him. With our lips we are meant to praise God for ever, for all eternity. How wrong it is, therefore, to defile them now by impure talk, which often involves the souls of others in sin!."
**Is it ok to take pictures of each other naked or wearing lingerie, provided that they are never shown to anyone else, are not used by one spouse for masturbation, and are kept somewhere where no one else would ever find them? **
well lets say you both died unexpectedly, then how could you prevent them from being found?
although that’s besides the point, it’s wrong for even married people to look at each other lustfully,
you really have to understand what lust is and what it does to you,
the point is, when you look at pictures of your parter naked, you are looking at their private parts, correct? well of course, but now answer yourself this, when you look at their private parts, can you honestly say you’re looking at them with love?
well, it should be obvious that when you look at someones private parts, it’s lustful.
what you need to do is get yourself a good Catechism book, and make sure it’s approved by the church,
but the main thing you need to know is, if you don’t know if somethings a sin or not, don’t do it.
because by doing something that may be a mortal sin, you show that you are willing to greatly offend God by doing it.
chastity is a very important thing to practice, because sins of the flesh are most offensive to God, and send more souls to hell then any other sin.
it’s one thing if you do something unknowingly or unintentionally, but never take lust lightly, it’s something you should always be serious about and be on guard with.
