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It is interesting that you posted this link. A few months ago, when my depression and anxiety were at a peak, I did a Web search for “Catholic” and “depression” and found this link. At first I thought it might be really good for me (and much of his advice is sound and worth some real thought), but upon further reflection on pages such as this:
chastitysf.guidetopsychology.com/treatreq.htm
I determined that his treatment strategy is too extreme, at least for me. For example, during the treatment, he advises even married people not to have sex, and says to negotiate this with one’s spouse. As a wife, I cannot see asking that of my husband, unless there is a really good reason (health, good reason to use NFP to avoid pregnancy, etc.). We are not to deny each other the “marital right” without good reason, or to be selfish in demanding it. I don’t see how treatment for depression – by itself – is a good reason, unless sex is related to the cause of the depression. Also, this method advises against sports (!) and even though I’m not into them, I’m happy to see my husband and others watch a game now and then. I don’t see the harm. Etc. As someone who struggles against scrupulosity, I think that this advice could really endanger the faith and well-being of those who tend this way.
Rather, I would recommend, as a starting point, Greg Popcak for such advice. He has an excellent book, “Life Shouldn’t Look Like This,” and another good book on parenting called “Parenting with Grace.” For more information about his ministry, it’s here:
exceptionalmarriages.com/
chastitysf.guidetopsychology.com/treatreq.htm
I determined that his treatment strategy is too extreme, at least for me. For example, during the treatment, he advises even married people not to have sex, and says to negotiate this with one’s spouse. As a wife, I cannot see asking that of my husband, unless there is a really good reason (health, good reason to use NFP to avoid pregnancy, etc.). We are not to deny each other the “marital right” without good reason, or to be selfish in demanding it. I don’t see how treatment for depression – by itself – is a good reason, unless sex is related to the cause of the depression. Also, this method advises against sports (!) and even though I’m not into them, I’m happy to see my husband and others watch a game now and then. I don’t see the harm. Etc. As someone who struggles against scrupulosity, I think that this advice could really endanger the faith and well-being of those who tend this way.
Rather, I would recommend, as a starting point, Greg Popcak for such advice. He has an excellent book, “Life Shouldn’t Look Like This,” and another good book on parenting called “Parenting with Grace.” For more information about his ministry, it’s here:
exceptionalmarriages.com/
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Kristen:
You’ve answered the question so thoroughly that I can’t really add to it.
I know that Fr. Joseph Fessio still loves the “City by the Bay” as that’s where the St. Ignatius Institute was and St. Ignatius Press and Campion College are, and that St. Ignatius Church is one of the largest and most beautiful churches in the USA.
That’s not to say that San Francisco doesn’t have more than its share of problems.Those who went on the San Francisco “Walk for Life” last year can talk about being sworn at, spit at and threatened. It was not one of “The City’s” better days that days.
YBIC, Michael
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I guess that DH and I will have to bring ponchos next weekend, then.
We’re going to the Walk for the first time after moving from Arizona. I think SF is beautiful (of course, I love the water!) and interesting, especially Alcatraz, the Presidio, etc. It’s too bad that the best parts of this state seem to have been taken over by the clueless/Godless, but we’ll do what we can to shine some light!- Status