Cheating on your significant other adultery?

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well…

if my S/O and I made a formal commitment between the two of us to be exclusive, not to mention engaged, and he did end up sleeping with someone else during that time frame, I’d consider it cheating, yes.

maybe it’s just me but just because a situation is not explicitly addressed in the Bible, doesn’t make it not adultery or unfaithfulness.
 
vbarrios,
What do you mean by “cheating?” As you have not explained the nature of the contemplated behavior, there is no way anyone can give an answer. So far all you have garnered on this thread is smoke.

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Whether it’s physical cheating or emotional if any of the people involved aren’t married then it’s not adultery. It’s still a sin against charity ,honesty and justice though.
 
Gamera said:
Right. But suppose you bring the other woman flowers, take her to a romantic restaurant, hold hands during dinner, make out with her in the parking lot, then go your separate ways. That’s cheating, even though no sex happened.

I just don’t understand why anyone would think that a sex act is required for it to be cheating. That’s basically saying that you haven’t gone on a date with someone unless you had sex with them.
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I don’t think holding hands necessarily makes something a date, I’ve held hands with girls I’m friends with completely not a date like if we’re walking round the park or sat next to each other or something. Though in that context I agree it would and certainly the making out would be wrong in that situation, though the morality of it on a date full stop is questionable. Flowers isn’t wrong in itself but I guess it depends on the context
 
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Is cheating on your boyfriend or girlfriend considered adultery?
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IV. OFFENSES AGAINST THE DIGNITY OF MARRIAGE

Adultery

2380 Adultery refers to marital infidelity. When two partners, of whom at least one is married to another party, have sexual relations - even transient ones - they commit adultery. Christ condemns even adultery of mere desire.171 The sixth commandment and the New Testament forbid adultery absolutely.172 The prophets denounce the gravity of adultery; they see it as an image of the sin of idolatry.173

2381 Adultery is an injustice. He who commits adultery fails in his commitment. He does injury to the sign of the covenant which the marriage bond is, transgresses the rights of the other spouse, and undermines the institution of marriage by breaking the contract on which it is based. He compromises the good of human generation and the welfare of children who need their parents’ stable union.
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To the OP.

Don’t care about definitions… care about loving another person as you would love your self.
Respect people and their feelings and their dignity and don’t treat them like things to be used and thrown away… you will stand infront of the Judgement Seat one day and tell the Lord Jesus what you have don’t to his sisters in this world.

You know when you treat people like ****… then you sin. Go and repent and confess and stop doing it.
Care not about definitions… but like Padre Pio said to one young man: Go and clean yourself.
 
It isn’t adultery, but it is treachery. Marriages are not only based on chastity, but on trust.

That doesn’t mean a person you’re dating owns you. It means that they should be able to expect that you are on the up and up. If you’re not exclusive, say so. If you are, talk to him or her about the conditions under which contact with members of the opposite sex are in keeping with the exclusive nature of your relationship, as you two understand it. I don’t mean you can’t have friends of the opposite sex or that you can’t define what your rules are for you, whether the person likes them or not. I mean that there are to be no surprises, no false impressions given…and no false impressions given to the others you spend time with, either!

The habits of courtship become the habits of marriage. Don’t even slightly get into the habit of “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her” or “I will be the judge of whether it is wrong.” Your friendships with others should be discussed and carried out in a way that honors the relationship with the person to whom you are most committed. If you foresee so much as having a coffee with a potential rival, you should have discussed that ahead of time.

And please, none of this “she knows what I do and she’s a big girl.” Your “arrangements” should be respectful, not humiliating, regardless of what your significant other is willing to put up with.

As for fornication, your body is not your own. Do not forget that your relationship with God must be honored in these choices, too.
 
If you cheat on your significant other (by having sex with another person) you are committing adultery against your future wife.
 
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