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Sarpedon
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All of these maritial examples are merely manifestations of the same desire. People always have a desire for intimacy that does not change, even if the individual manifestation of that desire changes over time.It has been replaced by the desire to continue and strengthen this particular marriage. Like everything else desire is impermanent and changing.
And since it changes, then it cannot form a strong basis for law, social order, family ties, the moral order, or anything else for that manner. What if certain human groups change and become subhuman? What if certain humans change and become superhuman? When a universal and unchanging human nature is rejected in favor of an undefined and changing generality, you open the door to a lot of things.You are correct that Buddhism rejects all concept of a permanent nature for anything. That does not mean that Buddhism rejects the concept of humanity, it is just that the Buddhist idea is changing and impermanent rather than the Platonic-style permanent and unchanging Ideal.
By “desire nothing” I mean “have no desire.”To desire nothing is as bad as to desire something and leads to suffering as well.
I know, which is why Buddhism is not conducive to love, friendship, marriage, family, and the social order. By rejecting the concept of real individual people, Buddhism rejects the concept of real human interaction.The four Buddhist virtues (brahmavihara) are love, compassion, sympathetic joy and detachment. This love is ideally detached from desire. When a Bodhisattva helps innumerable beings to enlightenment he has no attachment or desire for those beings because he can see no real beings to desire.
Totally aside from the Buddha, is the method of elightenment the elimination of all desire? If so, how can an elightened person desire to love?All questions about the state of the Buddha after death are unanswerable. During his lifetime he helped many others through love and with detachment.
Which is not any better. Realizing that you aren’t actually here is kind of depressing. Realizing that your wife is not real is kind of depressing too. Same goes for your children and your friends. While Catholicism upholds individual human dignity be upholding the concept of individual people, Buddhism rejects this.We do not lose our identity, we come to realise that what we, incorrectly, thought was our identity actually was no such thing. We cannot lose what we never really had in the first place. We were mistaken when we thought we had it.
Yes, but a chasm now exists between us the object of desire. Love as some temporary non-human thing which is totally independent of us and totally disconnected from us is a strange kind of love, and it certainly does not affect us. Since Buddhism rejects universals, this doesn’t even have a fixed nature. It’s just some changing generality that is stripped of all its potency.We can eliminate the desire for X without eliminating X. I can eliminate the desire for cookies, that does not mean that all cookies are also eliminated. Love, compassion etc. will continue to exist after the desire for love, the desire for compassion etc. are eliminated. The desire for an object is not the object. The object will remain after the desire has been eliminated.
What practical steps does this entail?We need to realise that our perceptions are deceptive and to treat them appropriately. That is not to ignore them but to treat them correctly. We may perceive a mountain as permanent; we can still perceive the mountain but we need to treat it as impermanent rather than permanent.
Can you describe what “appreciation” means in the total absence of attachment and desire?Buddhists can appreciate beauty as much as anyone, witness the numbers of beautiful artworks produced by Buddhists. It is just that the appreciation should not include desire. It is not the beauty, transient though it is, that is a problem. It is the attachment to the beauty that is the problem. Because the beauty is transient then any attachment to it will result in suffering when the beauty is gone.
Sure, but we are still fulfilling our desire to temporarily appreciate the passing sunset. You are replacing “desire for an eternal sunset” with “desire to appreciate a beautiful sunset as temporary.” While this might be a boat, you are still steering towards a point where you don’t even desire to appreciate a temporary sunset for what it is.We can all appreciate a beautiful sunset. If we desire the sunset to last forever then we will be disappointed when the sunset ends. Without that desire we can appreciate the sunset for its transient beauty and move forward without looking back once it is over.
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