Christian Teachings on Sex

[rotlex]

None of the many Protestant churches I have attended regularly, nor Assemblies of God, of which I am currently a member, teaches anything at all with regard to what specific bedroom activities a married couple may engage in. If you’re married, anything consensual goes. Nor have I ever heard any teachings on contraception, one way or the other.

I am a very happily married Catholic, with two beautiful children, and I openly admit I am in disagrement with Church teaching on “non-abortive” contraception within marriage. However, with that said, statements such as the one above always baffle me.

Honestly, I do not mean to judge, made snide remarks, etc., but how can ANY protestant not understand, or at least know, ALL Christian denominations teachings on the use of contraception before the famed 1930’s Lambeth conference? Google it. It’s pretty eye opening, and something I have discussed numerous times with my protestant brethren, and usually receive only blank stares. Why is that?

 

[Izdaari]

I am a very happily married Catholic, with two beautiful children, and I openly admit I am in disagrement with Church teaching on “non-abortive” contraception within marriage. However, with that said, statements such as the one above always baffle me.

Honestly, I do not mean to judge, made snide remarks, etc., but how can ANY protestant not understand, or at least know, ALL Christian denominations teachings on the use of contraception before the famed 1930’s Lambeth conference? Google it. It’s pretty eye opening, and something I have discussed numerous times with my protestant brethren, and usually receive only blank stares. Why is that?

Why would I care what Protestant churches taught before 1930? They taught a lot of things that were not biblical, based on nothing more than the popular culture of the time.

 

[rotlex]

Why would I care what Protestant churches taught before 1930? They taught a lot of things that were not biblical, based on nothing more than the popular culture of the time.

Because for 2000 or so years contraception was condemned by all denominations maybe? What happened in the last 70 or so years, to change the views on that?

Again, I am FOR contraception, non-abortive\barrier type, WITHIN marriage of course, but I still wonder sometimes what God really thinks or wants.

 

[JHow]

…At this point, we in the U.S. still have not accepted sex for children, but we are getting closer to acceptance. Many media sources present the idea of the “sexuality of children” and even the “sexuality of babies”. We are seeing more and more sexualization of very young children from the fashion industry. Our society views children as “miniature adults,” and this opens the door to encourage children to enjoy sex and practice it frequently. We are on the road to accepting child sex…

One of the results of the church sex scandals, IMO, is that there has been some push back on this front. It is inconsistent for people to be indignant about the scandals and at the same time accepting of the arguments of NAMBLA, for instance.

 

[cooterhein]

I am a very happily married Catholic, with two beautiful children, and I openly admit I am in disagrement with Church teaching on “non-abortive” contraception within marriage. However, with that said, statements such as the one above always baffle me.

Honestly, I do not mean to judge, made snide remarks, etc., but how can ANY protestant not understand, or at least know, ALL Christian denominations teachings on the use of contraception before the famed 1930’s Lambeth conference? Google it. It’s pretty eye opening, and something I have discussed numerous times with my protestant brethren, and usually receive only blank stares. Why is that?

Could you please take a look at post number 40, which is just above where I’m quoting you from? It has to do with marriage rather than contraception, but other than that, it’s the same type of question coming back in your direction. I’m hoping that one gets something better than a blank stare, too.

 

[JHow]

Could you please take a look at post number 40, which is just above where I’m quoting you from? It has to do with marriage rather than contraception, but other than that, it’s the same type of question coming back in your direction. I’m hoping that one gets something better than a blank stare, too.

I think your suppostion that the unitive purpose of sex was not there in some time past is not really correct. Not sure how you understand, “leave parents, cleave to wife, two become one flesh”, but there needs to unity in marriage since that state best supports the outcome of sex: children. They go hand-in-hand.

 

[Sandde_G]

Please do not seek other faiths.
Celibacy does not equal naivety! And that does not in any way, imply celibates have failed in their celibacy!
The Holy Spirit works in these leaders of our faith for our greater good and we must ask the Holy Spirit to guide our thoughts as well. Understanding there is reasoning that goes beyond our reason, having faith those put in charge were put there for good reason, and living in faith until we have all the answers in eternity, is True faith the Catholic Faith.
These leaders speak with an unbiased opinion and have no agenda but God’s alone! We cannot say the same. What is your’s and mine’s agenda?
One can learn from the Holy Spirit about any matter conceivable without physically experiencing it, we must trust in Jesus’ Bride’s decisions. His Bride is His Desire. The Church/us and Her teachings is the desire of Jesus.
There is much to be learned by these faithful servants/leaders of our beautiful faith!

 

[jediliz]

a Christian marriage should be Christ Centered, NOT SEX centered.

 

[Lapey]

Point of clarification, how long has it been that the CC had the two-purpose teaching? It used to be primarily for reproduction with a secondary goal of being a remedy for concupiscence. When and how did the unitive purpose make it in there? And how do you sell it as development rather than innovation?

Since Genesis…“the two become one flesh.” The Catholic Church has always held that a marriage is not valid and complete until it is consummated, I.E., they have marital sex. The result of this act should include the possibility of producing life. Thus the line in the wedding ceremony, “…shall accept children openly.”

My wife and I were sold a bill of worldly goods 16 years ago. We chose to have her tubes tied after the birth of our second son. We have since adopted a teenage girl; we have a 19 year old son who is in seminary to become a priest, a 17 year old daughter who is adopted and a true blessing, and a 16 year old son who is nuts but we love him…. (Don’t tell him I said that.)

My point is, please do not look at this issue as a “human right” given to us by the society or government that we may live in, it has to be seen as God would see it. God asks us to give Him everything, and we do for the most part, until He asks for something we are not ready to give Him, that is when we cut Him out; of our bedroom, of our checkbook, of our vote in the voting booth, of the way we live our life. We must learn that being a disciple of Jesus, means exactly what it says, trust and follow Him, not on Sunday at church, always and in everything we do.

If we and our spouses have sex, and do not bring God into it, then I say we need to go and learn the truth. God MUST be in the act of “becoming one flesh.” He created it, not society.

The hardest thing for my wife and I to do is to look at our beautiful family and in awe see how good it is, then in anguish think of how great it would be if WE had not chosen to do the work of God instead of doing it for Him. This has been one of the hardest things I have had to do in my life; forgive myself for forgetting who I am, a child of God.