Civil Ceremony now. Convalidation/reception next year?

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As Catholics, we understand that only God has the power to confect a marriage. The State has no authority in this area, (even though it claims to). A “marriage” in a courthouse is no marriage at all, health insurance or no. You need to be lawfully married in the Church and receive the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. This can be done tomorrow. It costs nothing to get married and receive the sacrament. The whole invented edifice of wedding dresses, cakes, receptions and all that nonsense is just that, and edifice. It has nothing to do with the sacrament at all. You can go, receive the Sacrament, and then do whatever you want later. Just don’t go to the courthouse, (the very same court that says two men can be married) and whore yourselves out to Caesar. You’re better than that, and God wants more for you.
Let’s be careful here. The bold applies only to Catholics with no dispensation from form or for members of the Eastern Churches. For others a marriage at the courthouse is very much a marriage if there are no impediments.
 
Let’s be careful here. The bold applies only to Catholics with no dispensation from form or for members of the Eastern Churches. For others a marriage at the courthouse is very much a marriage if there are no impediments.
Nope. Christ said, “What God has joined together…” Period. Caesar has no authority over marriage. Were it otherwise, there would be no need for convalidation when a civilly “married” couple comes into the Church. The Church does not recognize the validity of state-sanctioned “marriage.” The Church does recognize the marriages of persons in other religions and cultures as “presumptively valid” assuming they are of one man and one woman and there were no impediments, but beyond that, any “marriage” confected by the state is invalid, and is therefore no marriage at all. This is the authentic teaching of the Church. Don’t take my word for it, look it up.
 
Another question along these lines… why is all this marriage stuff so hard for Catholics to understand? Through the Catechism and her Catechesis the Church has bet over backwards to explain this to people. Why are Catholics so ignorant of Church teaching in this area?
 
Well, actually, no, it generally can’t. Most parishes have a “six-month” policy – .
That’s true, but that’s a “policy” not a matter of canon law and certainly not a requirement of the sacrament. In Mexico, in the 1920s, people flocked to receive the sacrament before the sacraments were outlawed. There was no “six-month” waiting period. The sacrament can be conferred at anytime, witnessed by any priest or deacon (because it is the man and woman who confer the sacrament onto each other). The whole six-month thing is an attempt to help prepare people, but it is not a requirement of the sacrament. And to hell with paperwork…Christ turned water into wine at Cana. He didn’t wring his hands and whine, “Oh, gee…I think we better wait six months for all the paperwork to go through…”
 
Nope. Christ said, “What God has joined together…” Period. Caesar has no authority over marriage. Were it otherwise, there would be no need for convalidation when a civilly “married” couple comes into the Church. The Church does not recognize the validity of state-sanctioned “marriage.” The Church does recognize the marriages of persons in other religions and cultures as “presumptively valid” assuming they are of one man and one woman and there were no impediments, but beyond that, any “marriage” confected by the state is invalid, and is therefore no marriage at all. This is the authentic teaching of the Church. Don’t take my word for it, look it up.
You’re wrong, I’m afraid.

The Church does not require convalidation for converts unless there was an impediment to the original marriage. You can’t convalidate (make valid) a marriage that is already presumed valid. And civil marriages of non-Catholics are presumed valid because it is the bride and groom who confer marriage upon each other, not the State.
 
You’re wrong, I’m afraid.

The Church does not require convalidation for converts unless there was an impediment to the original marriage. You can’t convalidate (make valid) a marriage that is already presumed valid. And civil marriages of non-Catholics are presumed valid because it is the bride and groom who confer marriage upon each other, not the State.
I’m not sure about that. The Church presumes that marriages that took place in other faiths or cultural traditions are valid (assuming it’s one man and one woman, and there were no impediments), and thus no convalidation is necessary, because the marriage is “presumptively valid.” At issue here is whether the State has the authority to validate a marriage in the eyes of God. My read of Church teaching is that it does not, for the reasons mentioned above. Caesar has no authority over the sacraments.

Now, in the case above. This person should not seek a civil marriage for the purposes of getting health insurance prior to receiving the sacrament of Holy Mtrimony, UNLESS given a special dispensation by her bishop to do so, and I can’t imagine a bishop ever saying, “yeah go on down to the JP…”
 
I’m not sure about that. The Church presumes that marriages that took place in other faiths or cultural traditions are valid (assuming it’s one man and one woman, and there were no impediments), and thus no convalidation is necessary, because the marriage is “presumptively valid.” At issue here is whether the State has the authority to validate a marriage in the eyes of God. My read of Church teaching is that it does not, for the reasons mentioned above. Caesar has no authority over the sacraments.

Now, in the case above. This person should not seek a civil marriage for the purposes of getting health insurance prior to receiving the sacrament of Holy Mtrimony, UNLESS given a special dispensation by her bishop to do so, and I can’t imagine a bishop ever saying, “yeah go on down to the JP…”
I would argue that the Church has indeed given authority to the state in the sacrament of marriage. That is part of the reason we are in the confusion about marriage we see today. When the Church requires something from the state to even look at the validity of one of Her sacraments (You must file for divorce to have a tribunal to look at your marriage) then what the Church has done is released authority to the state in regards to a sacrament and the Church’s proceedings. If I want to find out the validity of one of the sacraments of the Church, I must get something from the state to do so. If that is not a relinquishing of power I don’t know what is. I agree with you theologically, but in reality the Church has put herself in a dangerous position with one of Her sacraments. And this issue will lift it’s ugly head in the very near future.

Being debated is communion for the divorced and remarried. This would be the ultimate relinquishment of authority by the Church, to the state expanding into other sacraments as well.
 
Well, actually, no, …getting married in the Church…] generally can’t …be done tomorrow…]. Most parishes have a “six-month” policy – they want at least six months’ notice before marrying a couple.
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Now, it’s possible that, once the OP and her fiance talk to the priest and explain the situation, he might accelerate the timeline and do away with some or much of the six-month prep time.
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Let’s add one more piece to the puzzle: in general, priests are (explicitly) told that this kind of plan to have a non-Catholic wedding now and a Catholic convalidation later is impermissible. If the Canon Law office of the diocese gets wind of such an arrangement, they might refuse to allow it.
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If the OP is saying “we want to marry in order to get insurance,” I can’t imagine that a priest would say, “great! let’s get you two hitched in church!”… rather, he might counsel that they discern whether Christian marriage is what they really want, and ask them to spend some time discerning this question.
All this is what I was thinking.

The OP needs practical knowledge in order to make an informed decision.

We all agree that a Catholic marriage is the ideal and that the state of one’s soul is more important than affordable insurance. If the OP has not already spoken to the pastor of her parish then this needs to happen right away.

She probably can’t have a simple Church wedding as soon as she could have a civil wedding. But if she goes the civil route first she may end up delaying reception of the sacrament much, much longer.
 
That’s true, but that’s a “policy” not a matter of canon law and certainly not a requirement of the sacrament.
Bureaucracy is bureaucracy, whether we are taking about the Church or the State. I think my likelihood of winning a million dollars in the lottery today is probably better than the likelihood of the OP getting sacramentally married in the Church tomorrow.
 
Bureaucracy is bureaucracy, whether we are taking about the Church or the State. I think my likelihood of winning a million dollars in the lottery today is probably better than the likelihood of the OP getting sacramentally married in the Church tomorrow.
Yep. My marriage was rushed through by the priest because my husband was shipping out on military orders. It still took 3 months and we had no wedding–just said our vows at a regularly scheduled Mass. Look, they have a baby that needs and deserves married parents. Marriage matters. If the Church was not run by imperfect humans than this would not be an issue, but it is and unfortunately it makes it not feasible to always follow the protocol asked of us. There are reasons why in many places to separate marriages are required if you want your marriage recognized both civilly and religiously. Honestly I think it would be wise to require that here as well. It would solve many issues in terms of marriage going on here
 
That’s true, but that’s a “policy” not a matter of canon law and certainly not a requirement of the sacrament. … The whole six-month thing is an attempt to help prepare people, but it is not a requirement of the sacrament.
Agreed; that’s why I characterized it as an ‘exception’ – and a rare one at that!
And to :blushing: with paperwork
Right. Why should we bother investigating whether the couple is actually free to marry, or has no impediments? Nah… let’s just get them to the altar, and let it all sort out later! :rolleyes:

(In other words, the paperwork exists not just to get a signature or have someone stamp a document – it’s to ensure that the wedding will result in a valid marriage!)
 
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why is all this marriage stuff so hard for Catholics to understand? Through the Catechism and her Catechesis the Church has bet over backwards to explain this to people. Why are Catholics so ignorant of Church teaching in this area?why is all this marriage stuff so hard for Catholics to understand? Through the Catechism and her Catechesis the Church has bet over backwards to explain this to people. Why are Catholics so ignorant of Church teaching in this area?
Why, indeed?!? In fact, I think you’re misinterpreting things yourself:
The Church presumes that marriages that took place in other faiths or cultural traditions are valid (assuming it’s one man and one woman, and there were no impediments), and thus no convalidation is necessary, because the marriage is “presumptively valid.” At issue here is whether the State has the authority to validate a marriage in the eyes of God. My read of Church teaching is that it does not, for the reasons mentioned above. Caesar has no authority over the sacraments.
No, that’s not at all what’s going on here. For a Christian wedding to be valid, there must be the consent of the spouses, a lack of impediments, and adherence to the form of marriage.

For Catholics, our ‘form of marriage’ includes a church building and a deacon or priest witness. In exceptional cases, or if a dispensation is obtained, a marriage can still be valid, but in the absence of such a situation, these are the requirements for a valid Christian Marriage of Catholics.

To my knowledge, no non-Catholic Christian denomination has requirements of form; therefore, the marriage of non-Catholic Christians is valid not because “Caesar has authority”, but because their denomination does not prescribe a particular form. Their marriage is valid (and not just ‘presumptively’ so) if it is characterized by consent and lack of impediment.
 
Yep. My marriage was rushed through by the priest because my husband was shipping out on military orders. It still took 3 months and we had no wedding–just said our vows at a regularly scheduled Mass. Look, they have a baby that needs and deserves married parents. Marriage matters. If the Church was not run by imperfect humans than this would not be an issue, but it is and unfortunately it makes it not feasible to always follow the protocol asked of us.
Just to be clear.

I think there are good reasons why the Church delays marriage until a proper investigation and marriage prep can be completed. The OP’s situation is one that raises a few red flags.

However there is no denying the fact that the delays themselves cause problems.
 
I’m not sure about that. The Church presumes that marriages that took place in other faiths or cultural traditions are valid (assuming it’s one man and one woman, and there were no impediments), and thus no convalidation is necessary, because the marriage is “presumptively valid.” At issue here is whether the State has the authority to validate a marriage in the eyes of God. My read of Church teaching is that it does not, for the reasons mentioned above. Caesar has no authority over the sacraments.

Now, in the case above. This person should not seek a civil marriage for the purposes of getting health insurance prior to receiving the sacrament of Holy Mtrimony, UNLESS given a special dispensation by her bishop to do so, and I can’t imagine a bishop ever saying, “yeah go on down to the JP…”
You do know that once a dispensation from form is given the marriage can be celebrated anywhere, even by a JP, don’t you? It doesn’t matter where a non-Catholic’s marriage takes place. Barring any impediments, if their own faith tradition recognizes it – and as far as I’m aware only the Orthodox Church would not recognize a civil marriage or, in fact, a Catholic marriage celebrated by a Deacon – the Catholic Church presumes it is valid.
 
Nope. Christ said, “What God has joined together…” Period. Caesar has no authority over marriage. Were it otherwise, there would be no need for convalidation when a civilly “married” couple comes into the Church. The Church does not recognize the validity of state-sanctioned “marriage.” The Church does recognize the marriages of persons in other religions and cultures as “presumptively valid” assuming they are of one man and one woman and there were no impediments, but beyond that, any “marriage” confected by the state is invalid, and is therefore no marriage at all. This is the authentic teaching of the Church. Don’t take my word for it, look it up.
If the couple are not religious a civil wedding is still considered a valid marriage, to my knowledge.
 
Not religious? What does that mean. Catholic law binds baptized Catholics. “religious” or not.
By that I mean someone who was never baptized and did not consider themself a member of any particular church.
 
By that I mean someone who was never baptized and did not consider themself a member of any particular church.
I does not matter what one “considered” themselves. A baptized Catholic is bound by the Church and her sacraments. A Catholic who married civilly to do so quicker or for insurance would be compounding the sin of premarital sex/adultery with sacrilege of a sacrament.

Civil or not, it would not be valid.
 
I does not matter what one “considered” themselves. A baptized Catholic is bound by the Church and her sacraments. A Catholic who married civilly to do so quicker or for insurance would be compounding the sin of premarital sex/adultery with sacrilege of a sacrament.

Civil or not, it would not be valid.
Indeed, you are correct. Maybe I mistyped. What I meant was that a civil marriage is considered valid IF the couple are not Catholic (i.e. never baptized or received into the Catholic Church). I would expect that one of the more common situations in which a civil ceremony is chosen would be the case of a couple who are not members (baptized or otherwise) of a particular faith.
 
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By that I mean someone who was never baptized
I does not matter what one “considered” themselves. A baptized Catholic is bound by the Church and her sacraments.
Umm… Helpmeet wrote ‘never baptized’, Hoosier. 😉
 
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