The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
James 3:6
You control yourself well, when you don’t insult back.
I have a friend, who often just out of ease uses phrases, which were popular in the 70s and 80s, the starting time of liberalism and “do, whatever feels good”. He is a nice man, but when it comes to free talk, he is as bad as a pagan. God forgive him.
These people often seem still hypnotized by the influence of fashion and media seen on TV. That makes a person say things without even knowing, what he or she says, not being aware of the damage they do with their tongue.
Me personally I am silent in most cases, but angry inside. Often I wish to express myself in a gentle way, but can’t, out of fear to show sympathy with what just happened out of his mouth.
As a prayerful person, you will find many occasions to correct the one that made insults, often even in the same conversation. Often we should not let them feel our anger instantly. This anger is a holy anger, but we even have to control holy anger.
The Holy Ghost will tell us when it is time to speak and what to speak, but we therefore must be in constant prayer, at all times fearful of offending God.
Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, now and forever. Amen
