Thatâs just not true. Parishes are geographic territories. A Catholic is only a member of the parish where he lives.
Yes, people can attend and visit any parish, but to be a member of a parish, one must actually reside in that parish territory.
True. furthermore, the pastor of your residential parish is the one who has formal canon law responsibility for your soul as far as sacraments are concerned, and who should be asked if you seek to celebrate first communion, confirmation, or marriage elsewhere. In many dioceses and parishes this distinction is observed loosely, if at all, and formally registering in another parish is enough to make you a member of that parish. Be aware that some pastors do adhere to this rule closely when it comes to things like support for Catholic school tuition or enrollment so it is best to ask what is the practice in your area.
For instance our two neighboring parishes are strict about parish boundaries and registration when it comes to CCD enrollment, because their space is severely limited due to ongoing building projects. We accept children and adults for CCD and RCIA classes from the entire city and school district (which is a big one) because we can accommodate them, and so that no one is delayed in their sacramental preparation. Our school however is regional and accepts anyone from any parish in the area (including some Mexican nationals, as do other Catholic schools in the Valley, they commute over the bridge every day).
Our St. Vincent is strict about boundaries when it comes to distributing food from the local Food Bank, because that secular organization has divided the various churches and organizations that distribute their food into regions so that people donât âdouble dipâ. however aid of other kinds is offered to anyone who asks, until funds run out, within guidelines, but a reserve is kept to assist our own parishioners in emergencies.
I cannot make it a rule that CCD students attend Mass in this parish, although I strongly recommend it, for one thing so that parents get the bulletin announcements, and in fact I give families a sheet with mass times of surrounding parishes so there is no excuse to miss Mass (but I would if I could). We are not allowed to use any system of tracking Mass attendance.