If Catholic grandma validly baptizes her infant grandchild, then I see no way to say anything except that the baby is Catholic. Church law applies to the baby.
Practically, if the fact of the baptism is “secret” such that nobody but grandma knows about it and she goes to her grave with that knowledge, then the child would never be held bound to canon law. If he marries at the courthouse with an unbaptized person, and then divorces, no one would think that the marriage was invalid because of a lack of form. If he then wanted to marry a Catholic, he would not submit a lack of form case. If he did, it would not be successful since there is no evidence that he is Catholic.
In practice, an obligation to observe canon law arises when there is a record of Catholic baptism/reception. Or, at the very least, the fact of the baptism is “public.”
Dan
Let me run a scenario past you, if you will, please.
Forget everything that’s already been said in this thread. Ignore it all completely.
Just read the scenario I’m posting right here and tell me what you think:
It’s 2016. A man named Wrigley decides to become Catholic.
Wrigley was born in 1990 to parents who “didn’t believe in that religion stuff.” They raised him completely agnostic and wouldn’t even allow him near a church building. They named him Wrigley after their favorite chewing gum.
In 2011, he married a woman who was raised much the same way. She was never baptized. They got married at a perfectly legal (don’t ask me why) Big Purple Lizard Casino & Wedding Chapel just outside Las Vegas. After about a year, they divorced amicably. No children.
Wrigley learns about Catholicism and decides he wants to join the Church by starting RCIA as a catechumen. He has a meeting with the pastor (a nice, kind, priest who is solid both liturgically and canonically–he doesn’t mess with stuff). The pastor asks him some routine questions just to understand his state in life.
Were you ever baptized? No.
Are you married? No
Were you ever married or did you ever attempt marriage? Yes. Married, then divorced. (insert other details I already posted).
Did you ever re-marry? No.
At this point, the pastor tells him that while there’s no obstacle to him being baptized and becoming Catholic at the next Easter Vigil, there’s still that issue of the previous marriage, and if Wrigley (who’s only 26) ever wants to get married, he’ll have to deal with this situation.
Wrigley now goes to visit his grandparents who he hasn’t seen in years because his parents wanted nothing to do with them (for some reason he never understood). He tells his grandparents that he has decided to become Catholic. They are overjoyed. They tried their best with their daughter, but since she grew up in the 70s and the local pastor was one of those “Vatican II says whatever I say” sorts, the faith just never took-root in her and she declared herself an agnostic. When Wrigley was born in 1990, parents absolutely refused to even talk about baptism. Once the grandparents learn that Wrigley has decided to become Catholic all on his own, they’re very happy. They tell him that he’s already been baptized. One day, when his parents were away, the grandparents baptized him at home. They used a bottle of Holy Water (which didn’t come from that ‘Vatican II says’ priest) and the exact Trinitarian formula that they first learned as children. They never reported it to the priest because he once told them that he didn’t agree with the Church’s practice of baptizing babies (he told them “Vatican 2 says we don’t do that anymore!” and he only baptizes babies because the nasty bishop told him he has to do it.) They even made a VCR tape recording of the event. Immediately, Wrigley asks “what’s a VCR?” They explain it to him and actually show him the video of his own baptism.
Wrigley borrows grandma’s VCR and takes the tape over to his hometown Catholic pastor, who watches the tape and realizes that everything about the baptism was done proper, only that it was never recorded. They also share the tape with the current pastor of the place where the baptism occurred and the pastor duly records it in the parish register, along with a notation that he wasn’t notified until 26 years after the fact.
Wrigley (who can’t wait to take a saint’s name at Confirmation), together with his pastor complete all the proper forms (including a baptismal certificate properly notated from the parish) and submit them to the local Catholic diocese chancery in a petition for a administrative declaration of nullity based on lack-of-canonical-form for Wrigley’s civil marriage.
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What, do you think, would happen next?**
Again, please read this post as if you had never read anything previous in this thread. Only go by the information you see here.
How do you think the chancery would respond to the petition?