Clarity in Mortal Sin

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I just had a confession last Sunday and went to mass today. I’ve been fighting hard against my temptations and was doing great until today… I let myself go. . . . I’m 16, discerning priesthood, and been suffering from laziness which has caused my lust. I’ve been suffering from lust for a long time and this past 4 days have been a crowning victory + I have many strategies to fight it: Rosary, St Michael Prayer, moving around more, etc m. But today after mass and deep prayer, I relaxed and all of this happened. Is this a mortal sin? I don’t feel in anguish or loneliness but slight emptiness and slight pain.
 
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No one here should be trying to tell you whether something was a mortal sin in your individual case. That’s something you should discuss with your confessor. Bring your question to him. The vast majority of young men struggle with this. He’ll almost certainly have experience in advising on this issue.
 
Masturbation is a Mortal sin. Just go back to confession and next time choose to say the rosary when you get the urge. Also talk to the priest.
 
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Bring up this question the next time that you go to Reconciliation. Your confessor will have a much better look at your situation than any of us here. Also, since you are discerning the priesthood, I would strongly encourage you to seek a spiritual advisor. Your parish priest may be able to help you himself or direct you to someone who can become a spiritual advisor to you. A spiritual advisor can help you develop a stronger spiritual and prayer life that includes help and accountability with your spiritual struggles.
 
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Masturbation is a Mortal sin.
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Masturbation is not necessarily a mortal sin. It’s grave matter, which means it can be mortal sin. We shouldn’t be making these determinations as anonymous strangers on the internet.
 
Many, many young men have done precisely what you did. You have received some good advice in this thread. Follow it.

If Snapchat is a near occasion of sin for you, then don’t use it. Young men have to practice a certain custody of the eyes, that older men and women in general don’t have to practice, or at least not as aggressively.
 
As others have said, take it to your priest in confession.
Our “feels” as in whether we feel in “anguish” or in “loneliness” do not determine whether we have committed a grave, possibly mortal sin. I probably committed hundreds of serious sins and usually I felt just fine afterwards. It didn’t make them less of a sin. It just meant my conscience had gone numb.
 
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I think that way of thinking is dangerous to those around you. It is a mortal sin to anyone who knows the catholic faith, which on a catholic forum is to be expected that he knows something about the faith. Now he does know its a mortal sin, and that better helps him to live his faith.

Dodging the question doesn’t help anyone.
 
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Thank you all for your comments and advice. I do have a spiritual director and he is the pastor of my parish. I’ll try to head on down for confession soon. I just wanted to some clarity first since I cannot contact him atm. Additionally, thank y’all, I’ve been discerning for the past 3-4 years and know that this defeat. Will only make me stronger after the sacrament of Confession :muscle:t3:.
 
Praise God! An excellent way to think about and live your faith!
 
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Why are you looking at a “hot girl” in the first place? Hello???

That is the trigger of your sin - that is a near occasion of sin, as it lead you to sin. We - men in particular - are visually stimulated. Overly so in many cases. Things we see are imprinted in our memory banks for years, decades - the rest of our lives Some of your sins are probably habitual, but God’s grace smashes bad habits.
  1. Make an act of contrition the moment you are aware of sin.
  2. Confess regularly and inquire about help resisting sin.
  3. Disconnect yourself from all triggers of sin that you have control over. Yes, even social media and all the rest: TV, radio, web, blah blah blah.
  4. Yes, all of it. Until you are back in control of yourself.
  5. Beg God for the grace to turn from your sin.
  6. Drop down and pray each time you feel that sinful sensation.
  7. Learn and practice the “custody of the eyes.”
  8. That “Hot girl” has human dignity and is made in the image and likeness of God. Do you sin when thinking about God? No? Then why sin when contemplating a creation made in His image?
A lot, I know, but turning the tide on mortal sin takes effort, and God appreciates that. Even if you fall, God will work with you and call you back. Always.

But, the ball is in your court.
 
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I think that way of thinking is dangerous to those around you. It is a mortal sin to anyone who knows the catholic faith, which on a catholic forum is to be expected that he knows something about the faith.
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We have had this discussion on here many times in the past. Roland’s answer is the correct one.

We do not know the state of mind of the person committing the sin, and are not in a position to judge whether it was mortal. Also, such judgment is above our pay grade; we’re not in a position to be judging the sins of other people, including random internet posters.

The OP has committed a grave matter sin, it is serious and he needs to tell his confessor, who will give him whatever advice he needs about a sin being mortal or not.
 
And deliberately putting yourself in a near occasion of sin is itself a sin…
 
Is Masturbation a mortal sin or not? If you choose to do it, and you know that it is not right, and it is grave matter it IS a mortal sin! Taking a wet noodle approach at telling a young Catholic man what the proper teachings of his faith are is wrong. There are too many fallen away or weakly catechized Catholics for us to simply let these things pass, especially today.

I too encountered a very long period of sin like this, so I have personal experience in this matter and I am entitled to tell him that it is wrong. Especially on a Catholic forum where everyone is entitled to post what they wish as long as they adhere to the forum rules. You are also entitled to your opinion. . .

Have a good day.
 
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I’m sorry you don’t like my response, but it is still incorrect to presume you know if someone else’s sin is mortal or not, unless you are their confessor.
Have a nice evening.
 
I did that actually haha last Sunday after my confession with a priest friend. I unfollowed “friends” with immodest posts and tried to use the strategies you listed essentially. I let my arrogance blind me after going on Snapchat and totally understand it’s my fault. Thank you for the advice and I’ll definitely use the act of contrition one for sure
 
Thanks bro, like many have stated before I have all the tools, weapons, and people to aid me. But, it’s simply up to my will. If I harden my will and more ambitious, I know I can over come this.
 
You certainly can. saying the rosary daily helped me overcome “the passions” and everything that comes with that. I’m also discerning please pray for me, I will pray for you.
 
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