Co-worker getting married?

[Sina]

Then again, maybe I am too trusting!

 

[marybee]

Not all registered sex offenders are creepy in the way that you might imagine. As someone already mentioned, he could have had an inappropriate relationship with a girl who was say 16, when he was 18 or whatever and the father or mother of the girl pressed charges. Who knows what the situation is or how long ago it was.

I am glad you told your friend, Catholic79, and I am glad your friend already knew! What a relief. Maybe she is relieved you know? Although I guess you aren’t her best friend. I am sure she knows she can count on you to keep it on the down low from other coworkers and such right?

We shouldn’t judge on the creepiness factor. We don’t know what their relationship is like.

This all may be the case BUT-how do you explain to others…say your kids friends and friends parents. You don’t think that you and your family would have the attached stigma of being a “sex offender”? Think about it this way…if your kid wanted to play at someones house where the registered sex offender lived…you probably wouldn’t say “hey he might not be that creepy”. Youd take your kid and run.

It is odd that the friend didn’t say “hey that was a mistake he made when he was 18” or anything. So I am always more cautious when it comes to these kinds of things.

 

[dixieagle]

We shouldn’t judge on the creepiness factor. We don’t know what their relationship is like.

The OP has given enough information that it raised my eyebrows; 10 years? Hand-holding and no dating alone? To me, that qualifies as weird no matter how you look at it.

 

[Sina]

I just had a look at one of those US sex registry websites and I thought it was … just awful to look at the faces and the offences. So many against children…

There were very few cases where it was with someone who was 16-17 years of age. Plus it did list what the offence was… I just can’t believe people behave this way.

 

[catechumen08]

Well I talked with her, she said she did know and that she had looked into it. She thanked me for my concern and that was that. Much much much better then I had imagined. Thank you to all who shared advice.

Well done, catholic79. Glad it went well.

 

[stbruno]

I had a wonderful nun teach me in high school, that says…love is blind and marriage is an institution therefore marriage is an institution for the blind.

You did all you can do, now keep her in your prayers and hopefully he has been healed of this horrible tendency and crime against others. People can change.