Co-worker says I'm not saved because I'm Catholic?

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It would have been much easier if this woman had openly asked you if Catholics were Christians rather then informing other people in your office that she is worried about you. Perhaps you could casually bring up the fact to her that some nonCatholics do not consider Catholics Christian and then you could hear first hand her thoughts on the matter. At that point you could charitably answer her concerns.
 
You’ve already gotten lots of good advice from others here as to handle someone who questions your faith. I just wanted to mention again (as some have) that the woman who said this about you is gossipy. But the woman who told you about it is also trying to stir up trouble. Did she really need to tell you? Just make sure not to jeopardize your job by getting involved in all of this extraneous talk.
 
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D.Demsky:
I have a website that may be of help it compares Catholocism to Scripture in several different areas,Salvation being one.
scripturecatholic.com/index.html
YOU’RE the Scripture Catholic guy? Let me be one of the first here to give you a gigantic papist THANK YOU. Your site rocks. I relied heavily on it while prepping for some apologetics classes I taught last year.
 
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shannin:
I work with a very nice woman that attends a non-denominational Church. In the past we’ve shared our common Christian beliefs - I’m a devout Catholic. One time I even told her how nice it was to work with another person that was such a good Christian. She often refers to others in the workplace that she claims are “not saved” but never told me how she felt about me.
Since she gossips to you about others who are “not saved”, use that as an opening. Just ask “do you think I’m saved?” and take it from there.

After that, you shouldn’t let her gossip to you about the state of other people’s souls. She seems to have a great need to locate all those around her who are “not saved”, and to point them out to others.
 
I shouldn’t perhaps repeat this, because it amounts to gossip about a very sweet and holy person, but in the interest of furthering Catholic-evangelical understanding (perhaps a transparent excuse). . . .

A good friend of my family’s–a gentle and lovely elderly lady of a Wesleyan-Holiness persuasion–had the habit of asking from time to time of such and such a figure in church history, “Did X know the Lord”? What was funny is that these were not what most people would consider borderline figures. She would ask things like “Did C. S. Lewis know the Lord?” or “Did Dietrich Bonhoeffer know the Lord?” I was just beginning to study church history at the time, so I was usually the one to try to field these questions.

As I said, this was a very warm, kind, charitable person. That was the problem–she was bothered by the idea that these respected Christian figures might not *really *have been Christians.

It sounds as if your friend’s concern for others’ salvation takes more problematic forms. But this is a real evangelical obsession. I agree entirely that it’s an unhealthy one.

Edwin
 
I think the fact that she has pretended to share a spiritual connection with you - and then went and said something so hurtful to a 3rd person shows her lack of character.
People like this feel superior to the “unsaved”, and therefore justified to treat them like this.

I would treat her with professional courtesy - and keep my personal life and spiritual beliefs to myself.
 
SMILE…and say despite your belief I shall pray for you in my prayers this night, for enlightenment.
 
Being around many people who attend Non-Denom Churches, I can say some, not all can be like that where they ask you things like “have you been saved” I will say that the Non-Denom’s I know, at least their particular church DOES NOT!! believe in “once saved always saved” I think that is a fundie Baptist belief!!

On the other hand, they do believe really hard in the Bible only. I mean big time!! If you question them on that as well as faith alone, they get really uneasy and defensive. That is where they come across with the belief that Catholics aren’t Christian’s.

As some of the previous poster’s said, I would not bring it up to her. If she wants to gossip which is something Non-Denom’s REALLY look down upon then be the TRUE Christian and leave it at that. If she has questions for you, I’m sure you will be well versed and prepared. Good luck and GOD BLESS!!
 
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montanaman:
YOU’RE the Scripture Catholic guy? Let me be one of the first here to give you a gigantic papist THANK YOU. Your site rocks. I relied heavily on it while prepping for some apologetics classes I taught last year.
I’m Sorry wrong wording, it is not my personal site.Sometimes I do not make myself clear. I agree,it is the single best Catholic website I have ever seen
 
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D.Demsky:
I’m Sorry wrong wording, it is not my personal site.Sometimes I do not make myself clear. I agree,it is the single best Catholic website I have ever seen
Oh, man…That bums me out. I thought I met a celebrity. 😉

I’ll have to console myself with the fact that I gave the sign of peace to a popular Catholic senator at Mass this morning.

And there’s my totally shameless pseudo-name dropping moment for the day. Thank you, and good night!
 
To #1:

This is why I don’t usually talk about my Faith at work. I wouldn’t be ashamed to if someone asked about Catholicism, but I’ve found it’s not a good idea to base one’s work relationships on common faiths or beliefs.

If she is one of those over the top, convert everyone type of “non-denominationals”, and thus it’s impossible to avoid conversations about religion entirely, that’s another story. Assuming that’s the case, the next time she brings up the topic of Christianity in general, ask her where her Bible came from. It’s an inescapable fact of history that the very Bible “non-denominationals” use to form their belief came from the very Church they usually disparage. That should probably at least shut her up quick, generally speaking. She probably won’t want to talk about religion at all. Which, IMO, is fine. After all work isn’t supposed to be about “converting” people, it’s supposed to be about getting work done.

As an aside, I’ve always found the moniker “non denominational” rather amusing. That’s because every group of Christians that holds to a set of beliefs is, IMO, a “denomination”. They just don’t know it yet.
 
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shannin:
I work with a very nice woman that attends a non-denominational Church. In the past we’ve shared our common Christian beliefs - I’m a devout Catholic. One time I even told her how nice it was to work with another person that was such a good Christian. What should I do? Should I (1) just forget about it or (2) explain how Catholics feel about "once saved, always saved in order to defend my Church? Any suggestions or ideas? I’m a little annoyed about this but I do have to work with this woman.
Let her know that you have a very personal relationship with Jesus Christ and that He is indeed your Saviour and invite her to find out more about the Catholic Church.

Here is a Tract that I print out and give such people:
Thank you so much for your concern for my soul. I deeply appreciate it, however with all due respect and all charity, the fact is that in spite of your misunderstanding, we Catholics are Christians, and part of the same Christianity that the early Apostles practiced. Our faith is the same one that began with Our Lord Jesus Christ and has endured for 2,000 years. We Catholics believe that the Bible is the inspired Word of God; that God is a Trinity that consists of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and that we are saved by a personal relationship with the risen Lord Jesus Christ. We are “born again” and we do our best to live out that relationship by producing fruit worthy of repentance. None of us are perfect; we’re still all too human , but we confess our sins to God in obedience to the scriptures and make a moment-by-moment effort to be the best Christians that we can. There are differences between us…They are the result of a division that occurred about 500 years ago called the Reformation. Prior to that we were all Catholics, and can be verified by the letter of Ignatius, the Bishop of the church of Antioch that he wrote to the church at Smyrna in about 107 AD. (Remember Antioch, the church in Acts 11:26 where we were first called Christians to begin with) This name stuck in order to differentiate between the church of Christ and other heretical groups such as the Gnostics. The difference between us is simple and fundamental. The first has to do with the verifiable fact that the early Christians relied on verbal tradition until the 4th century when the Council of Carthage settled the matter of the canon of the Bible with the 73 books that consist of the 46 books of the Alexandrian text of the Old Testament (also known as the Septuagint,) which was in Greek (not Hebrew) and the 27 books of the New Testament. As a result, the Apostles encouraged the early church to hold fast to the traditions that had been taught to them either by word or letter. Keep in mind that the last verse of Saint John’s Gospel says that not all that Jesus said and did is written down and that the entire world could not contain all the books if they were. Sacred Tradition helps us properly interpret the Word of God. It is not the “traditions of men” that Jesus condemned, since it in no way sets aside the laws of God, but along with the Bible confirms what they mean and helps to guide us into right doctrine. 2nd Thessalonians 2 :14 “Therefore, brethren, stand fast; and hold the traditions which you have learned, whether by word, or by our epistle.” 2nd Thessalonians 3 :6 “And we charge you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you withdraw yourselves from every brother walking disorderly, and not according to the tradition which they have received of us.” The other is the doctrine that we are saved by “faith alone” and that our works have no merit before God, the only place where the words “faith alone” are used together is in James 2:24 where it says, “You see that a man is justified by works and not by faith alone.” Most of the confusion between Catholics and other Christian churches is “trickle-down effect”. This Rest assured that if you are willing to do some research into authentic Catholic writings like the Catechism of the Catholic Church you will find that there are very good reasons for what we believe and practice. You can also check out Authentic Catholic teachings online at Catholic.com and Vatican.va (The official Vatican Website!). For the truth about the Catholic faith, ask us, we have nothing that we want to hide. We do not attempt to evangelize people who are already part of a Christian church though we will readily dialog with others and try to answer any questions they may have concerning Catholicism. Our focus is on our families and those without a faith or church. The harvest is indeed plentiful, so let’s be about Our Father’s business.
 
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shannin:
I work with a very nice woman that attends a non-denominational Church. In the past we’ve shared our common Christian beliefs - I’m a devout Catholic. One time I even told her how nice it was to work with another person that was such a good Christian. She often refers to others in the workplace that she claims are “not saved” but never told me how she felt about me. I’ve recently been told by another co-worker that the non-denom worker told her that she worries about me because I’m not saved because I’m a Catholic. :banghead: :bigyikes:

What should I do? Should I (1) just forget about it or (2) explain how Catholics feel about "once saved, always saved in order to defend my Church? Any suggestions or ideas? I’m a little annoyed about this but I do have to work with this woman.
Here’s a link to the tract that Ignatius gave you! I agree…it’s a good idea.

Print This Tract!
 
Preach the Gospel at all times; when necessary, use words. --St. Francis of Assisi
 
If you enjoy such things, you can tie them in knots.

I once had a lady tell me, “I read a history book, and the Catholics took over when Constentine became emperor.”

I said, “Took over from who?”

“The real Christians.”

“Name one.”

Eventually (with a little coaching) she allowed it was from the Arians. Then I asked if she believed in the Divinity of Christ.

“Of course!”

“Well, the Arians specifically denied the Divnity of Christ.”

Shame on me.http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon10.gif
 
vern humphrey:
If you enjoy such things, you can tie them in knots.

I once had a lady tell me, “I read a history book, and the Catholics took over when Constentine became emperor.”

I said, “Took over from who?”

“The real Christians.”

“Name one.”

Eventually (with a little coaching) she allowed it was from the Arians. Then I asked if she believed in the Divinity of Christ.

“Of course!”

“Well, the Arians specifically denied the Divnity of Christ.”

Shame on me.http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon10.gif
There should be Catholic Apologetics badges for things like that.
 
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