Committing Sins every 10 Seconds

[PePPaR]

It is natural for humans to desire the opposite sex. It is our instinct to be attracted to them. Attraction leads to sexual desires (it cannot be ceased). Constantly in our lives, we see the opposite sex and desire to make love to them; even in all types of sexual acts - anal sex, oral sex etc. We cannot stop these hormonal intuitions. It is part of us and we have been created that way. Of course, not all of us desire sexual acts which are regarded ‘unatural’ such as ‘anal sex’ and ‘oral sex’. But the mere fact of wanting to ‘screw someone’ plays a part in our lives CONSTANTLY - especially in youths and earlier stages of life.

So therefore, why is the desire to have sex with someone you are not married to a sin?

ISN’T IT NATURAL TO THE HUMAN BODY???!!

 

[Pete_1]

It is natural for humans to desire the opposite sex. It is our instinct to be attracted to them. Attraction leads to sexual desires (it cannot be ceased). Constantly in our lives, we see the opposite sex and desire to make love to them; even in all types of sexual acts - anal sex, oral sex etc. We cannot stop these hormonal intuitions. It is part of us and we have been created that way. Of course, not all of us desire sexual acts which are regarded ‘unatural’ such as ‘anal sex’ and ‘oral sex’. But the mere fact of wanting to ‘screw someone’ plays a part in our lives CONSTANTLY - especially in youths and earlier stages of life.

So therefore, why is the desire to have sex with someone you are not married to a sin?

ISN’T IT NATURAL TO THE HUMAN BODY???!!

What do you mean by ‘attraction leads to sexual desires’?

 

[PePPaR]

What do you mean by ‘attraction leads to sexual desires’?

If people are attracted to someone they are either attracted to them through their BODY initially, or their PERSONALITY initially.

If attracted through personality initially - they are more than likely to ‘like’ or ‘love’ this person so much that they wish to engage in intercourse with them. And most likely they will continually desire the thought of having sex with this person.

A person may also be attracted to someone by their LOOKS. They will feel attracted to their beauty and through instinct they will wish to have sex with them.

 

[JRKH]

It is natural for humans to desire the opposite sex. It is our instinct to be attracted to them. Attraction leads to sexual desires (it cannot be ceased). Constantly in our lives, we see the opposite sex and desire to make love to them; even in all types of sexual acts - anal sex, oral sex etc. We cannot stop these hormonal intuitions. It is part of us and we have been created that way. Of course, not all of us desire sexual acts which are regarded ‘unatural’ such as ‘anal sex’ and ‘oral sex’. But the mere fact of wanting to ‘screw someone’ plays a part in our lives CONSTANTLY - especially in youths and earlier stages of life.

So therefore, why is the desire to have sex with someone you are not married to a sin?

ISN’T IT NATURAL TO THE HUMAN BODY???!!

Very Little of what you said above is actually true.
Yes we are naturally attracted to the opposite sex. This is as it should be, however from that point on you are wrong.
The Fact that we are “Attracted” does not automatically translate into a “desire to make love to them”, nor does the desire to make love, if it occurs at all, translate into some of the acts you have indicated.

Natural attraction is not sinful. “Wanting to Make Love”… to any woman you are attracted to, that is fantasizing about it - desiring it, is a sin. Also trying to justify it as you do above is also a sin.

My assumption here is that you are younger and therefore are dealing with hormonal issues. These are very difficult to control; even more so today with the permissivness of secualr society. I strongly suggest that you find a spiritual advisor who can help you with these feelings and put them into better perspective.

May God Bless you and Keep you from Sin

Peace
James

 

[joeybaggz]

It is natural for humans to desire the opposite sex. It is our instinct to be attracted to them

Yes, it is natural, in fact the attraction between the sexes is God given. However, our reason, will, and inherent understanding of the dignity of all human life is natural too. And that is God given too.

Men do not have instinct. Reason and free will are the exact opposite of instinct. We live by choice, not by some preordained irrestible biological response. We choose our actions. We choose to respect or abuse another. Our sexual drive in not something over which we have no control. We are human, made in the image and the likeness of God. Think about it, we are made in the image of God. Is irresponsibility an attribute of God.

As to "all types of sex, a___, oral … I think you are a little out in right field on that one.

Best wishes to you

 

[PePPaR]

As to "all types of sex, a___, oral … I think you are a little out in right field on that one.

I’m 17 years of age. I don’t think I’ve ever come by another male around the same age as me who did not like the thought of oral sex or other sexual positions; doggy style or whatever. In reality, a youths mind is revolved around sex. Life itself is revolved around sex, and even my life is somewhat revolved around sex. Even at the dinner table with my parents - what are our topics indirectly about?..yeah…sex. Funny…But that’s what society is like now.

I might be raising a few topics which aren’t highly appropriate to speak of here. But I use them as examples.

I guess the reasonable explanation to these desires of sex is that we’ve been brought up in a society which believes these things are right - and therefore we grow up to like them; or in other words we are brainwashed to enjoy such things. I’ll be fully honest here and say that once I found ‘anal sex’ as completely discusting. I thought to myself… how could someone ever do such a thing? Now I know that at that time my mind was still innocet in a sense…I was not brainwashed by society and others at that time. Now, I do not find the act discusting even though it’s imoral. But now I know it is my moral duty to deal with these sexual desires myself, and restrain from ever committing such actions.

In a documentry called ‘What the Bleep Do we Know’ it states that we can actually make our mind LIKE something if we continually repeat it, or think about it, or want it. It’s a long time since I’ve seen this movie but thats just the general gist of it. But nonetheless I see it as quite valid.

 

[JRKH]

I’m 17 years of age. I don’t think I’ve ever come by another male around the same age as me who did not like the thought of oral sex or other sexual positions; doggy style or whatever. In reality, a youths mind is revolved around sex. Life itself is revolved around sex, and even my life is somewhat revolved around sex. Even at the dinner table with my parents - what are our topics indirectly about?..yeah…sex. Funny…But that’s what society is like now.

I might be raising a few topics which aren’t highly appropriate to speak of here. But I use them as examples.

I guess the reasonable explanation to these desires of sex is that we’ve been brought up in a society which believes these things are right - and therefore we grow up to like them; or in other words we are brainwashed to enjoy such things. I’ll be fully honest here and say that once I found ‘anal sex’ as completely discusting. I thought to myself… how could someone ever do such a thing? Now I know that at that time my mind was still innocet in a sense…I was not brainwashed by society and others at that time. Now, I do not find the act discusting even though it’s imoral. But now I know it is my moral duty to deal with these sexual desires myself, and restrain from ever committing such actions.

In a documentry called ‘What the Bleep Do we Know’ it states that we can actually make our mind LIKE something if we continually repeat it, or think about it, or want it. It’s a long time since I’ve seen this movie but thats just the general gist of it. But nonetheless I see it as quite valid.

Trust me, the world only seems to revolve around sex. It really revolves around money … Sorry, couldn’t resist.

I noted from another thread that you go to an all boys school.
Please try to remember that your “World” right now consists of predominantly other boys around your age who are all dealing with the same Hormonal issues you are. Thus you are being unundated by “peer pressure” as well as your own changing body. I wish I could tell you that things will get easier soon but I cannot.
Please recognize that the Church teachings of 2000 years are sound. They will stand you in good stead as you mature. Also recognize that we are all of fallen nature and sinners, but that God’s forgiveness is infinite to those who call upon Him.

Peace
James

 

[kage_ar]

Walk away from those coarse conversations. Be a man of dignity and a man of virtue.

Pray for the women you come in contact with, pray for your future wife.

Read scripture, read good books, watch good movies, listen to good music -

Phil 4:8

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Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

 

[LilyM]

If people are attracted to someone they are either attracted to them through their BODY initially, or their PERSONALITY initially.

If attracted through personality initially - they are more than likely to ‘like’ or ‘love’ this person so much that they wish to engage in intercourse with them. And most likely they will continually desire the thought of having sex with this person.

A person may also be attracted to someone by their LOOKS. They will feel attracted to their beauty and through instinct they will wish to have sex with them.

Umm … I’m very attracted to my siblings, parents, same-sex friends and a lot of other-sex friends as well, for their personalities. I happen to think that some of said family and friends are good-looking as well, opinion which is echoed by others who know them so I know I’m not biased.

I can honestly say I’ve never had the remotest hint of **sexual **attraction with any of 'em though, either as a result of being attracted to their looks or their personalities.

So your initial premise is untrue, that attraction necessarily leads to sexual thoughts. And your premise that sexual thoughts are thus somehow beyond our control or natural is also untrue.

 

[joeybaggz]

I’m 17 years of age. I don’t think I’ve ever come by another male around the same age as me who did not like the thought of oral sex or other sexual positions; doggy style or whatever. In reality, a youths mind is revolved around sex. Life itself is revolved around sex, and even my life is somewhat revolved around sex. Even at the dinner table with my parents - what are our topics indirectly about?..yeah…sex. Funny…But that’s what society is like now.

I might be raising a few topics which aren’t highly appropriate to speak of here. But I use them as examples.

I guess the reasonable explanation to these desires of sex is that we’ve been brought up in a society which believes these things are right - and therefore we grow up to like them; or in other words we are brainwashed to enjoy such things. I’ll be fully honest here and say that once I found ‘anal sex’ as completely discusting. I thought to myself… how could someone ever do such a thing? Now I know that at that time my mind was still innocet in a sense…I was not brainwashed by society and others at that time. Now, I do not find the act discusting even though it’s imoral. But now I know it is my moral duty to deal with these sexual desires myself, and restrain from ever committing such actions.

In a documentry called ‘What the Bleep Do we Know’ it states that we can actually make our mind LIKE something if we continually repeat it, or think about it, or want it. It’s a long time since I’ve seen this movie but thats just the general gist of it. But nonetheless I see it as quite valid.

PeP

I’m a lot older than you, but I was once 17 myself, and sex was a constant preoccupation for me, much like it seems to be for you. You’re not “abnormal”, take it from me.

You might want to look at it from this angle. The fact that all of this is something that you have to work through is a good thing. You are not the only one dealing with these issues, even if others won’t admit to the same preoccupations you face. If you choose to build a strong character with a respect for the dignity of yourself and the women in your life, eventually you will live with a far stronger sexual ethic than those who never came to grips with the problem. After all, you can’t solve a problem if you never face it.

Take the advise of any number of the other posters, and remember, that which doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. Spiritually and physically.

 

[Zarathustra89]

It is natural for humans to desire the opposite sex. It is our instinct to be attracted to them. Attraction leads to sexual desires (it cannot be ceased). Constantly in our lives, we see the opposite sex and desire to make love to them; even in all types of sexual acts - anal sex, oral sex etc. We cannot stop these hormonal intuitions. It is part of us and we have been created that way. Of course, not all of us desire sexual acts which are regarded ‘unatural’ such as ‘anal sex’ and ‘oral sex’. But the mere fact of wanting to ‘screw someone’ plays a part in our lives CONSTANTLY - especially in youths and earlier stages of life.

So therefore, why is the desire to have sex with someone you are not married to a sin?

ISN’T IT NATURAL TO THE HUMAN BODY???!!

God is such a loving God he creates us with the feelings and then tells us to not act on them. Believe me I am still a virgin but I have given up the struggle for purity. My advice? indulge in it as long as you can and then when you resign yourself to hell with me.
Besides as a great philosopher once said “there are no intresting people in heaven”

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

 

[Zarathustra89]

Trust me, the world only seems to revolve around sex. It really revolves around money … Sorry, couldn’t resist.

My life really does revolve around power and money its not so empty as some people would have you think.

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

 

[Flopfoot]

Ah come on Zara, enough of the despair already, what is it about “No one is beyond redemption” or “while I breathe I hope” that you don’t get? And no need to spread it to others.

To the OP - Committing a sin IMO takes more than just thought and feeling. You’d have to wilfully act on it for it to become a sin. (This coming from someone who on the one hand thinks about hot girls quite often; on the other hand, doesn’t masturbate etc. and still a virgin).

 

[Zarathustra89]

Ah come on Zara, enough of the despair already, what is it about “No one is beyond redemption” or “while I breathe I hope” that you don’t get? And no need to spread it to others.

To the OP - Committing a sin IMO takes more than just thought and feeling. You’d have to wilfully act on it for it to become a sin. (This coming from someone who on the one hand thinks about hot girls quite often; on the other hand, doesn’t masturbate etc. and still a virgin).

Ah what I speak the truth.

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

 

[puzzleannie]

news flash
there are actually people who can go an entire hour, day, week or year without experiencing a temptation to sexual sin.

yes there are brief periods where the sexual urge is high, they don’t last long in the normal human being, but rather are cyclical. We have all kind of instinctual drives that derive from the animal part of our nature, to eat, to drink, to flee danger, to reproduce etc. In the normal animal as in the normal human, these drives are present at appropriate times. In addition the human possesses the ability to regulate the drives and instincts, to repress or redirect these impulses, and to express them only when appropriate or healthy. The human who lacks this ability probably needs counselling.

for you 17 yr olds sitting around fantasizing about abnormal sex with your friends, consider getting new friends.

 

[Zarathustra89]

news flash
there are actually people who can go an entire hour, day, week or year without experiencing a temptation to sexual sin.

yes there are brief periods where the sexual urge is high, they don’t last long in the normal human being, but rather are cyclical. We have all kind of instinctual drives that derive from the animal part of our nature, to eat, to drink, to flee danger, to reproduce etc. In the normal animal as in the normal human, these drives are present at appropriate times. In addition the human possesses the ability to regulate the drives and instincts, to repress or redirect these impulses, and to express them only when appropriate or healthy. The human who lacks this ability probably needs counselling.

for you 17 yr olds sitting around fantasizing about abnormal sex with your friends, consider getting new friends.

After all you women are so superior!!!

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

 

[LilyM]

After all you women are so superior!!!

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

Only in that we don’t delude ourselves that our sexual sins aren’t sins, and we don’t delude ourselves that our sexual impulses are irresistible or uncontrollable (and yes, I’ve committed too many sins and had too many sexual impulses in my time to be hoodwinked on either count )

 

[Zarathustra89]

Only in that we don’t delude ourselves that our sexual sins aren’t sins, and we don’t delude ourselves that our sexual impulses are irresistible or uncontrollable (and yes, I’ve committed too many sins and had too many sexual impulses in my time to be hoodwinked on either count )

I know I am sinning i’ve given up trying not to because it is impossible.Don’t give me any of that “there is always hope” nonsense I know myself.

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

 

[LilyM]

I know I am sinning i’ve given up trying not to because it is impossible.Don’t give me any of that “there is always hope” nonsense I know myself.

Thus Spoke Zarathustra

Total rubbish. You’re only saying that because you want to believe it.

Especially in regard to sexual sins - I’m living proof that it’s not impossible to stop. It’s been about a year now

 

[Zarathustra89]

Total rubbish. You’re only saying that because you want to believe it.

Especially in regard to sexual sins - I’m living proof that it’s not impossible to stop. It’s been about a year now

You speak nonsense woman,

Thus Spoke Zarathustra