Father, can you explain to me the following? I’ve been having a hard time understanding this and haven’t gotten a conclusive answer from my RCIA director or others. I’m currently in RCIA and will come into the Church this coming Easter and thus, do not have access to the Sacrament of Reconciliation yet. I’ve seen other threads and comments that state that Protestants (or those outside the Church) *can *be forgiven
IF and ONLY IF they express perfect contrition (the part you underlined) and make it seem as if that standard is lower for a Catholic who can just go to confession and be absolved of their sins. They make it seem as if the bar is somewhat lower for Catholics and that they may not have to express perfect contrition to be absolved
Is that true?
First of all, every best wish to you as your journey towards being in full communion comes to fruition. My prayers accompany you. I know it must seem a far way off and yet you will make your first confession ahead of the Easter Vigil and soon the steps will really begin to unfold.
Yes, in essence this is correct. If one went into the confessional and said they were sorry for their sins, not because God was offended but solely because they did not wish to go to hell, that sorrow would be the barest minimum that would allow the sins to be absolved and the absolution would forgive their sins. Such a Catholic soul, however, is in no way to be envied. It is actually in a most sorry situation in terms of how it should be relating to God who is that soul’s Father; to God who redeemed that soul; to God who indwells in that soul in order to sanctify it and infuse virtues into the soul. It is a most ungrateful and unloving creature.
The confessor therefore should be working with that soul in order to understand the nature of sin and its horror on the one hand (look at the crucifix) and to understand the expression of infinite love on the part of God to achieve redemption on the other (again expressed in the crucifix) in order to motivate the soul to rise from its utter selfishness, self-centeredness, and self-interest. It is not a credit to say that one in such a state is “better” off. It is one step from eternal damnation.
Also, I should add that there are Churches not in communion with Rome which validly have the Sacrament of Penance and so they would experience sacramental absolution in their lives in a way, let us say, Baptists do not. So it is not only Catholics who actually experience this sacrament.
I would certainly think that ALL of us (Catholic or otherwise) need perfect contrition and that saying the words may not necessarily indicate perfect contrition of the heart, correct?
Perfect contrition is operative in a soul that has matured such as to understand the real horror of sin and appreciates the reality of sin vis-a-vis God and vis-a-vis the human person. It is a response of love from the human person toward God.
You are correct that it is not enough to say the words, of course…you must really mean them. I pull back, however, from the use of the term “heart”. We are operative at the level of the intellect and will – not emotion and not the affective part of the human person.
If it was something that had to be deeply “felt” or evocative of an “emotional response”, then this would be a different threshold. We may or may not feel deeply affected in an emotional way by something we confront or ponder. The love of perfect contrition is not that sort. It is in the intellect and will. I prefer the Lord to everything and everyone else as a free choice of my will.
If a person simply walks into the confessional, confesses, and leaves without the firm resolve to actually turn from their sin, have they expressed perfect contrition? Of course, none of us are perfect and we often do return to our sin habits, but is that bar really higher for non-Catholics than Catholics in this regards?
I am astutely aware of all of my faults and shortcomings and sin habits and I have cried out to God for forgiveness and would LOVE to be able to walk into a confessional. How can I know if I have expressed perfect contrition or not?
Contrition for sin is one aspect. The resolution not to sin again is another aspect. Both are need for sacramental absolution. If one is in a situation in which there is no will to turn from sin, then the absolution should not be given.
The answer to whether or not one has perfect contrition is the answer to the question I posed earlier. If one can say “I am sorry because I dread the loss of heaven and the pains of hell” that is attrition at a level to be validly absolved. If one can truthfully continue “But most of all [or more than that] because they [my sins] offend you, my God, who are all good and deserving of all my love”, the contrition is then, by that fact, perfect. To attain the heroic degree that marks the saints is another aspect beyond the level we are discussing here.