Being a victim of torturous gang-rape at gunpoint myself I would have to say that Very few Rape Victims are ever going to be thinking about their rape assailant(s) using a condom when faced with the heightened fear and prospect of being raped in a traumatic moment such as rape assault. Particularly any rape that involves torture and violence.
Rape and survival, both are related. What happens to someone who has been raped? What happens to any women, man or child who has been raped during their life? How does a rape victim get over that single traumatic event that changes their entire life? How does the rape victim get past that roadblock that stands firm in the middle of their entire existence? How does a rape victim live, even one day at a time, after an event that is one step short of murder? Rape has often been called (“Soul Murder”). Those who have never been raped (“do not”) understand the “full mental impact” that rape has upon the victim.
Some see rape as a one-time crime that is ended the moment the day is over. Others see rape as an act of sex. Still others see rape as something that does not exist. But only those women, men and children who have been raped or those who have been victims of attempted rape know the full impact of this illegal act. Rape affects the mind, body, and soul. It changes the victim and their very life existence from the very instant that it happens. Yet, because of the nature of the crime and because of the way society acts towards the victims and criminals, the real truth rarely comes out about rape or about rapists.
Rape is not an act of sex and will never be an act of sex.
Rape has nothing to do with sex. Rape is purely an act of violence and control. Plain and simple, violence and control are the key goals of most rapists. The criminal wishes to control the victim and, most times, the criminal exerts that control through violence or threats or both at once. Only once one realizes that rape has nothing to do with sex can one finally come to understand what rape really is.
Rape has never been about sex. When you hear a rapist claim that the act of rape was sex or consensual sex, right off the bat, you can pretty much guess that the criminal is fabricating a story. Rape is not about sex. Rape is not sex.
There is nothing sexy at all about rape, and anyone can fall victim to it. Rape does not discriminate on the basis of physical appearance, clothing, nationality, age, religion, ability, status, class, or nationality. Rapists are criminals and they will rape anyone that they want to rape. However, there are things that you can do to lessen your chances of being that next victim. There are no guarantees—just preparations and warnings.
Rape is not about asking for it.
No rape victim asks to be raped nor wants to be raped. When society does not understand the crime of rape, society ignorantly states that the victim asked for it. No one would want a violent crime committed against her, and that includes rape victims.
When we judge or stigmatize the victims of rape and when we allow rapists to go free, we allow society to think that is okay to rape.
Anyone can be a rapist.
All that is necessary is a violent nature and the wish to control another human being. A rapist can be a 18-year-old or a rapist can be a 78-year-old. Rapists do not fall into a particular category, description, or stereotype. Rapists know no limits and transcend all ages, professions, religions, classes, neighborhoods, ethnicities.