Confession before communion...bothering me so

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pink8888 said:
know what? i am afraid that i might acquire this habit. like i have acquired the habit of going to daily mass and daily visits to the blessed Sacrament. then it would be too much for my heart to handle. whenever i go to confession, i get so terrified and while waiting for my turn, i ask Jesus to please just forgive me and allow me to go home.
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Actually, there is one more way to combat that fear. Remember: in this thread you did confess your sins. The difference is that you didn’t receive the absolution (although you did get lots of advice). Thus the real confession is far better! It is irrational to fear it more. When you will start to fear again, go through this argument - maybe that will help a little…?
 
pink8888 said:
seems like you’re trying to convince yourself too.😃 good luck with your confession.
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Thank you.
I went this morning. 🙂
I think confession causes fear in quite a few people, isn’t it? While really it is such a love filled thing.
I think personally I am mostly afraid because of my scrupulous tendency - that soemthing during confession might cause a fear thought to arise.
And so yes I also need to remind myself that God is Love and where is there space for fear in true love? :))))))
 
so today will be THE day.

i will be going to confession in a few minutes. my heartbeats are erratic. i am in panic mode.
this is torture.

hopefully i will be able to finally receive communion again by tomorrow.

one question though, are there any one of you who goes to confession with ease and eagerness? like they are just going to attend mass or something? how do you do it???
 
Be bold and strong Pink…you can do it! Just trust in Jesus who saves and loves you.
 
pink8888 said:
so today will be THE day.

i will be going to confession in a few minutes. my heartbeats are erratic. i am in panic mode.
this is torture.

hopefully i will be able to finally receive communion again by tomorrow.

one question though, are there any one of you who goes to confession with ease and eagerness? like they are just going to attend mass or something? how do you do it???
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Congratulations, and thankyou for posting a follow up.

I always feel a little bit nervous before confession, but remember that is it Jesus waiting for me and that he wants to hear my sins and forgive me. There have been times when I’ve been very nervous, because of embarrassing sins, and I try to think of a way to avoid saying them, but in the end I just decide to tell it straight - and afterwards the peace and relief is even greater than for regular confessions.

Thanks again, and best wishes.
 
pink8888 said:
i know. and that is the reason why i do not want to confess that particular sin over and over again. but in time, (when i can prevent myself from doing the act) i will

and with regard people thinking that i did not fast…i very much doubt it. they’d most probably think that i committed adultery. and again, yes, not justified.
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pink8888 said:
i know!! so that knowledge makes me more self righteous in thinking that i need not tell the priest or anyone else about it. it’s not like He doesn’t know about it already. but of course there’s the teachings of the Catholic church and all…

wow. a prayer for me!! thank you so much. i guess the only way to thank you is to do the same for you.
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He does not ask us to confess for His sake but our own. It is difficult and humbling, but ultimately rewarding, to make the examination of ourselves and our lives that confession requires. And then to admit our failings - be accountable for them - to another person as well.

It is of such benefit that people such as John Paul II and Mother Teresa went more than once a week. Not necessarily because they were continually committing mortal sins (one would hope not). Because it’s a bit like a medical checkup or a car service - sometimes necessary as a preventative even when you are not ill and your car is running OK.
 
pink8888 said:
why do i feel like a pervert when i read statements like this. i don’t blame you guys really, it’s just that… well i’ve thought about this thing - and have thought that God maybe wouldn’t be disturbed by such “trivial” matters. He’s God! He’s larger than life. worldly things are insignificant.

that the most important thing is to love God above all else and love your neighbours as yourself

BUT i made a resolve to stop. good luck to me:D
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This is a long topic and I’m sorry to chime in at this point but I just want to say don’t lose hope. First I’m so glad to hear that you are going to try and you are humble enough to listen to all this and take it to heart. God bless you and these posters even the ones that seem rough. They love enough not to lie to you.

You think it’s impossible now. You probably think the temptation is just not going to go away because you like it too much and you’ll never break the habit. That’s a lie. With God nothing is impossible. He can heal you. I know. He has healed me and He is still not done with me.

What I mean is you’re not alone. I and many of us, I’m sure, face this struggle for purity. Worrying, doubting, despairing etc about it doesn’t help either. I think that’s just another form of temptation at times.

Listen, when this is all behind you, you will grow more and more closer to God and you’ll look back at this sin with great regret and think, “Why did I do this to myself?”

You may not believe that but that’s because for now you are still growing spiritually. God loves you so much and He made you and knows what you are capable of and wants you to reach your full potential. He challenges you because He loves you and these actions are beneath your beautiful dignity as His child and impurity corrupts you heart, your soul and your mind. You have a void that you are trying to fill with the wrong things but only God can satisfy your heart.

You can’t do it on your own. You need God’s grace. I will tell you what helped me and continues to help me. Praying the rosary every day. Please consider it. Mary will pray for your purity. You will be amazed!

PS I hope you keep going to daily mass. I think that is a wonderful sign of your devotion. You love God more then you realize.
 
confession…over and done with!! haha

i’ve been smiling more now.

have received communion again after a month of abstinence. was eager to receive communion right after confession since i don’t know for how long can i receive communion worthily. 😃

thanks all.
 
Wonderfullllllllllllll !!!:):):):)🙂

May God give you the strength to remain in this state of wonderful grace.
When temptations come, pray, and remember how you feel FREE now and how afetrwards you will not have this wonderful feeling anymore if you give in…

also look at this reflection from the Ask An Apoligist Forum!!!
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=723782

And if the temptations are strong in the beginning, don’t give in anyway, and as longer as you don’t give in, I am quite sure they will become weaker and weaker and then it will eb NORMAL not to give in to them and easy. :))))))))))))))) (meaning: Don’t think they will stay strong, and get discouragredm if they are strong in the beginning still. YOU CAN MAKE IT!!! ) 🙂 🙂 just trust Jesus.
 
pink8888 said:
one question though, are there any one of you who goes to confession with ease and eagerness? like they are just going to attend mass or something? how do you do it???
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Not me. :rolleyes: Even attending Mass makes me nervous; Confession is really scary! But I’m so glad that its available!
pink8888 said:
confession…over and done with!! haha

i’ve been smiling more now.

have received communion again after a month of abstinence. was eager to receive communion right after confession since i don’t know for how long can i receive communion worthily. 😃

thanks all.
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Woohoo! :extrahappy:
 
TheRealJuliane said:
Why don’t you just stop masturbating?

You think it’s difficult. It’s not that difficult. Just stop, and when the temptation arises, say a rosary instead.

Don’t give in to the temptation. Change your habits.

Confess with a repentant heart. Try with your whole being not to sin again. It’s what you promise in the act of contrition.
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I understand the sentiments, but the answer to your question is that he/she can’t stop, or he wouldn’t be here asking the questions, he would have stopped the behavior.
The conscience may be corrupted, although it appears that is not the case here. The will becomes corrupted through practice. Real physical cravings set in. You say it’s not that difficult, but the reality is it is extremely difficult once a certain level of corruption is breached (addiction).

That’s why it is important for younger people to realize, if you have a developing problem, do not try to rationalize it away or believe you can just stop doing it whenever you want. Some people may be able to (you will be the exception), most will not. You may get to a point where you cannot use your free will to extricate yourself from undesireable behavior, and that is big trouble. People lose wives and families and jobs over lust behaviors they really want to stop, but they become trapped.
 
clem456 said:
I understand the sentiments, but the answer to your question is that he/she can’t stop, or he wouldn’t be here asking the questions, he would have stopped the behavior. .
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I see this much more optimistically. With God everything is possible… overcoming addictions is quite challenging, but not impossible 🙂 🙂 🙂
 
Kathrin said:
I see this much more optimistically. With God everything is possible… overcoming addictions is quite challenging, but not impossible 🙂 🙂 🙂
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I’m not saying it’s impossible. Quite the opposite.
An addict can’t stop, -as they are currently constituted-. The opinion I was commenting on was that one merely has to make the decision to stop. An addict, in almost all cases, cannot simply make a decision to stop, because their virtue and will are corrupted. They can’t refuse the addiction like you and I can refuse a pepsi. Even those who say “I want to stop” usually cannot stop of their own efforts. Sobriety is possible, but only once one admits the need for God’s help. THAT takes a lot of work for an addict, it’s a matter of repentance, surrender to Christ, conversion, working on virtue and usually requires a plan like 12 step.

One of the biggest issues that keeps one addicted is the deception of self reliance.
 
I do look forward to Reconciliation. I don’t know if “enjoy” is a term I’d use, but it is certainly a positive thing. The hardest part is going back to the same priest with the same list of sins every week…:eek::rolleyes:😊

Father Kevin Michael Magee in his excellent audio course on the new Missal points out that confession is positive because it forces us to own up to our failings and actively try to do better, rather than just acting like some passive victim or conceding hopelessness.
 
pink8888 said:
confession…over and done with!! haha

i’ve been smiling more now.Awesome!

have received communion again after a month of abstinence. was eager to receive communion right after confession since i don’t know for how long can i receive communion worthily. I usually make it at least 10 or 15 minutes. Sometimes longer if I drive straight home and nobody cuts me off or tailgates me on the freeway.😃 😃
thanks all.
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clem456 said:
I’m not saying it’s impossible. Quite the opposite.
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I hope I did not insult you. Maybe I misunderstood you. I was just afraid your reply may have discouraged the OP, but maybe I read it totally wrong. Sorry.
 
Kathrin said:
I hope I did not insult you. Maybe I misunderstood you. I was just afraid your reply may have discouraged the OP, but maybe I read it totally wrong. Sorry.
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No not at all. NP whatsoever.
Words like “powerless” and “surrender” can be confusing and contradictory in this area. They don’t mean what we use them for in the non-spiritual realm.

For many people admitting addiction is not discouraging, it causes a huge sigh of relief.
Big topic…
 
I am also guilty of having the sin of lust in my life and what I have found to really help and pretty much overcome this sin is confession on a weekly basis and pray the rosary every day! And ask our dear mother Mary to pray for us that we would be able to stay Pure. And she does pray for us and her prayers are most heard, I can promise you that! Praying for you my friend!
 
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