Confession/Communion scrupulous dilemma

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Hi,

I finally got to Confession today, but I didn’t feel better afterwards (scrupulous here). The thing is, something happens in there, that I just don’t find a way to say what I want to say, or if I do, the fear of saying it just freezes me, and the Priest just assumes that I don’t remember anything else (even though I do, but, as I just said, I get like frozen, or I remember something but I just forget it instantly) and gives me absolution. And I receive it, still don’t saying what I want to say, and thinking deep in my mind “Is this absolution I’m receiving even valid?” And then I go out and think something like “Why didn’t I say that?”

The things I didn’t say are not mortal sins (at least, I think I wasn’t 100% sure they were), they are doubts that have been adding up since my last Confession months ago, but as some of them are just embarassing for me to say, I didn’t find the way of telling them to the Priest.

That’s my story, I don’t even know if I’m in a state of grace or not. Can I go an receive the Eucharist tomorrow?
I don’t want to talk to the Priest before Mass (he’s usually busy and I don’t think he has the time to listen to me carefully) and I want to receive the Eucharist so bad, but on the other hand, I don’t want to commit sacrilege.

Hope I made my point clearly. I find it somewhat difficult to express myself concisely about these situations. Guess I’m in need of a psychologist.

Prayers, please. God bless you all.
 
Sometimes just writing what is troubling me and need to confess before confession does help.It helps me reflect on what the issues are,on my mistakes and how I can avoid them if possible.I do not mind going to confession with my piece of writing if necessary.
May be you can add that you “freeze” while in confession just t o remember to ask the priest for some help.Surely the priest will help you out.God bless you.
 
JL2011 said:
Hi,

I finally got to Confession today, but I didn’t feel better afterwards (scrupulous here). The thing is, something happens in there, that I just don’t find a way to say what I want to say, or if I do, the fear of saying it just freezes me, and the Priest just assumes that I don’t remember anything else (even though I do, but, as I just said, I get like frozen, or I remember something but I just forget it instantly) and gives me absolution. And I receive it, still don’t saying what I want to say, and thinking deep in my mind “Is this absolution I’m receiving even valid?” And then I go out and think something like “Why didn’t I say that?”

The things I didn’t say are not mortal sins (at least, I think I wasn’t 100% sure they were), they are doubts that have been adding up since my last Confession months ago, but as some of them are just embarassing for me to say, I didn’t find the way of telling them to the Priest.

That’s my story, I don’t even know if I’m in a state of grace or not. Can I go an receive the Eucharist tomorrow?
I don’t want to talk to the Priest before Mass (he’s usually busy and I don’t think he has the time to listen to me carefully) and I want to receive the Eucharist so bad, but on the other hand, I don’t want to commit sacrilege.

Hope I made my point clearly. I find it somewhat difficult to express myself concisely about these situations. Guess I’m in need of a psychologist.

Prayers, please. God bless you all.
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I find writing my sins down help. Plus I can be fairly ‘detached’ from emotion when reading them and don’t freeze etc. Though I do know I skip the odd line. I can’t answer about whether you can receive the Eucahrist because I’m Anglican and we do things very different here.
 
you need regular help from your priest. You must tell him of your scrupulosity.
 
If you approach the sacrament of reconciliation with a sincere heart and contrition you are forgiven. We are creatures of a merciful and understanding God. Don’t worry about absolution being valid or invalid. Relax and know that God is present. God is not a vengeful God. You will be given all the grace and forgiveness you need.
 
You need to have a** “regular confessor”** who can direct you and with whom you can work against your scruples.
 
Thanks be to God for going to confession.

Must please God immensely. He is the one who established this wonderful Sacrament where the guilty are forgiven/acquited and we are made clean again:

Mk 1: 44
'Mind you say nothing to anyone, but go and show yourself to the priest, …
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Always choose and go to a good shepherd.
 
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