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I have a yearning to go to confession but it has been so long and I am not sure what to do. My sins tend to be the same over and over. I try my best to be the person God wants me to be but I slip up in the everyday life of the world we live in. Do we confess such things as gossip / impatientness / selfishness each time we go to confession? Or do we wait for a serious sin? It’s almost like “am I wasting the Priests time” with my confession?
 
I try my best to be the person God wants me to be but I slip up in the everyday life of the world we live in.
So you’re human. If you never slipped up I would assume you are divine.😃
Do we confess such things as gossip / impatientness / selfishness each time we go to confession? Or do we wait for a serious sin? It’s almost like “am I wasting the Priests time” with my confession?
You’re certainly not wasting the priest’s time. He’s there for you. I encourage you to confess those sins. In fact I should probably confess those sins as well. You don’t have to give too much detail, but don’t be too general either. For each one give an example to the priest. Like gossiping about a friend and how she doesn’t dress well or something. How you get impatient and selfish with your parents when they don’t do things the way you want it. Hope this helps.
 
Linda, I went back to confession after 13 years away from the church. I told the priest how long I’d been away and he said welcome back. That gave me heart to continue.
 
Confession forgives mortal sin and helps us overcome venial sin.

So yes, feel free to go often and confess gossip, selfishness, impatience etc.

Scott Hahn has an excellent CD on the healing power of confession. I highly recommend it. 👍
 
We are recommended to attend regular confession. Many sources recommend monthly confession (with additional confession ASAP if you have committed a Mortal Sin and need to repent).

We are all suffering the consequences of Original Sin.
We all have significant attachment to sins. We all have habitual sins. Some of these we are aware of and are struggling to repent of. Others we are not event aware of being sins in our lives, but they are doing damage tu us and those around us anyway.

As we are more successfull in purging one habitual sin or attachment to another, we will becomen aware of the need for repentance in other areas.

I think of the word Repentance this way.

Repentance is not so much being sorry for some big sin, that you automatically regretted. that’s easy. That’s contrition. You may have never, or only momentarily have wanted to commit that sin, or that big action may have been the inevitable consequence of a path of attachment to venial sins.

Repentance is the process of identifying our habitual sins and struggling to over-come them. It is the process of identifying our attachments to sins or tempting situations and making the painfull decisions to repent of those thoughts actions and behaviours…
A drunk isn’t going to get sober by going to the pub every night and saying he’ll only drink Coke… Staying home or going to the cinema or gym instead would be a much better thing to do.
similarly we can be attached to the pub, knowing that we are at risk of drinking but unwilling to give up the pub because of the group of friends we have there.

Attachment to many sins works in the same way.

Playing a computer game isn’t sinfull, but being addicted to them and not doing your work is. but the attachement to the addictive game needs to be repented of in order to put asside the procrastination and failure to do ones work or other duties.
 
One is obliged to confess all mortal sins in number and kind (and that which changes the kind).

Venial sins are recommended to be confessed --but not required. Venial sins can also be forgiven in many other ways (do not wait for confession…prayer, contrition, etc etc and even if one commits a mortal sin seek to make an act of perfect contrition right away)

If say there is a mortal sin of detraction (gossip) then one is to confess it. If there is a venial sin of detraction (gossip) --one may confess it.

1456 Confession to a priest is an essential part of the sacrament of Penance: "All mortal sins of which penitents after a diligent self-examination are conscious must be recounted by them in confession, even if they are most secret and have been committed against the last two precepts of the Decalogue; for these sins sometimes wound the soul more grievously and are more dangerous than those which are committed openly."54

1458 Without being strictly necessary, confession of everyday faults (venial sins) is nevertheless strongly recommended by the Church.59 Indeed the regular confession of our venial sins helps us form our conscience, fight against evil tendencies, let ourselves be healed by Christ and progress in the life of the Spirit. By receiving more frequently through this sacrament the gift of the Father’s mercy, we are spurred to be merciful as he is merciful:60

scborromeo.org/ccc/p2s2c2a4.htm#VII
 
I have a yearning to go to confession but it has been so long and I am not sure what to do. My sins tend to be the same over and over. I try my best to be the person God wants me to be but I slip up in the everyday life of the world we live in. Do we confess such things as gossip / impatientness / selfishness each time we go to confession? Or do we wait for a serious sin? It’s almost like “am I wasting the Priests time” with my confession?
The only complaint I’ve heard from my priest about confession, “No one comes, or very few come.”

Go. You’ll make that priest’s day.

God bless you.
 
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