Confession-different advice

[roseb]

I was wondering what one would do if they go to confession and get advice on a problem they are dealing with and then ask the same question at a different confession and get different advice. The first time I was told what I asked about was not that serious and not to worry while the second time that it was serious and maybe mortal. I also don’t know if I explained the situation well either time as it is a hard to explain situation. It has to do with medical things so someone who doesn’t work in that field might not understand what the exact issue is. Thanks for any help.

 

[EasterJoy]

Trying asking the confessor(s) first, and see what he says. Then you’ll actually know the knowledge base from which the answers came, the differences perceived, and so on. After that, if the knowledge base doesn’t seem to be sufficient, seek spiritual counsel from someone who does understand all the issues involved.

Having said that, it is legitimate that there is a range of responses open to a confessor in response to any single confession, including no advice at all.

 

[jpjd]

The confessional is for forgiveness of sins and spiritual guidance.

If you are seeking advice on a situation, especially one that requires detailed knowledge about an issue as pertains to your particular situation, you need to make an appointment with the priest so that you can have a real discussion. He may even refer you to someone with appropriate expertise (i.e. a counselor).

So, to answer your question, I would make an appointment with a priest and tell him I am seeking his advice for a problem (as opposed to seeking a confession).

 

[Bookcat]

Trying asking the confessor(s) first, and see what he says. Then you’ll actually know the knowledge base from which the answers came, the differences perceived, and so on. After that, if the knowledge base doesn’t seem to be sufficient, seek spiritual counsel from someone who does understand all the issues involved.

Having said that, it is legitimate that there is a range of responses open to a confessor in response to any single confession, including no advice at all.

and of course who is faithful to the Church…who “thinks with the Church”

Another source is to contact the “National Catholic Bioethics Center” they deal with medical things all the time…and are a good resource (CA recommends them).

Call and ask to speak with an ethicist.

 

[Joe_Kelley]

One of my Jewish bosses once told me that in Judaism if one is in doubt on a spiritual matter one may ask a rabbi and follow his advice without sin. However, it is forbidden to ask two rabbis and take the answer you prefer.

 

[MissRose73]

If you have an issue that needs more time than a few minutes in the confessional, its best to make an appointment with a priest either with the parish you belong to which is preferred or another one. Let them know the basics of your issue so they are prepared to help you. No need to burden the priest in the confessional if you will take more than a few minutes especially if there many waiting and often confession times are limited in many areas.

 

[Mrs_Sally]

Other posters are correct that you should make an appointment with your priest to discuss this more fully. In confession you are telling your sins and getting absolution. If the first priest told you the situation wasn’t sinful, why did you bring it up with the second priest? If it involves a medical condition, than your free will or consent may be impaired. Speak to your priest.

 

[roseb]

Thanks for all the replies. I brought it up with the other priest because I thought I didn’t explain it well the first time. Now I think it’s just better to only bring it up once.

 

[fred_conty]

Try a catholic doctor who is familiar with what you are talking about. His opinion would be important since a priest may not be up on the medical practise you need to have help on.