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poche
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Can you be more explicit about your dating relationship with this guy?
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Izzy1
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So I met him a few months back and I really like him. My parents are really strict and are overprotective since I’m their only daughter. They know that I’m really good friends with him but they forbid me from dating anyone till I’m 18.
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Izzy1
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I live in the heart of a very booming city…Mumbai , India to be precise. The thing is that it’s a rule all over mumbai that before confirmation we have to go for confession in our parish at a fixed time. So that’s what’s stressing me out. If it wasn’t for me receiving confirmation I could have gone anywhere for confession. But since it is mandatory to do it in my parish I’m scared
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TomH1
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But, it’s not mandatory because the law of the Catholic Church says otherwise. Your local diocese cannot overrule laws made by the pope.
You do live in a big city if you live in Mumbai; however, because it’s in India I don’t know how many Catholic churches there are.
If going to confession scares you this much talk it over with your parents and show them this thread to see that your parish or diocese are forcing something on you that they should not.
You do live in a big city if you live in Mumbai; however, because it’s in India I don’t know how many Catholic churches there are.
If going to confession scares you this much talk it over with your parents and show them this thread to see that your parish or diocese are forcing something on you that they should not.
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Hope1960
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If this makes you feel any better, and it might not, but I’m going to Confession too, this Saturday. So in addition to any others going before Confirmation, know your’e not alone and I’m going, too, as are probably other posters here.
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Elf01
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If there is any sin in particular you are nervous about confessing maybe try to go during the week to confess your mortal sins and confess venial sins on Saturday.
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poche
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In that case I think you can be friends (if your parents don’t disapprove of him) but you shouldn’t be dating him or anyone else until you are 18.
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poche
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Why not go to confession to another priest and then when it is time to go to confession for your confirmation go then too.
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Hope1960
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When I’m not sure something is a sin or not I confess it and start by telling Father, “I don’t know if this is a sin or not, but…” Then I just tell it to him.
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TomH1
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I do not understand why you say this when the Church permits 14-year-old girls to marry.
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s.cono
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I attempted to get this app just now for Android, but Google Play Store acts as though it doesn’t exist. Any Android users have luck getting it?
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Elf01
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A minor should obey their parents.
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TomH1
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I heartily agree and would that mine always had.
However, the comment to which I was replying said that one should not date prior to the age of 18; the comment was not about obedience to one’s parents.
The Church permits girls as young as 14 to marry because of different cultural circumstances throughout the world. We in the West should not be imposing our cultural norms on other cultures.
I would not allow my daughters to date until they were in their mid-thirties and I had fully vetted their potential dates if I could get away with it
. But, fathers are always very protective of their daughters.
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poche
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She is a minor who lives in her parents house. S has to do what they tell her to do.
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TomH1
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This is true but in the case of this boy we do not know her parents’ position. Because she has not told them there is an implication they would not approve of him. The reasons for that may not be because of her age.
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UpUpAndAway
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The OP herself has said her parents won’t allow her to date until she is 18.
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TomH1
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So their relationship is not entirely prohibited. Perhaps I am not full conversant with the American idiom ‘dating’. My daughters had boyfriends before they were 18. If they had been anything other than good friends the lads would still be running for their lives now 
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otjm
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It is a sin of disobedience. It is up to your confessor as to how serous it is.
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HeDa
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If you are residing in a country where the legal age to marry is higher than 14, then the higher age is the lowest age possible that is allowed for Catholics residing in that country. Catholic Church laws are for all Catholics regardless of country and written with exceptions if there is something that is specific to country of residence then that secular law takes priority.
There will be problems when people are moving from one country to another, for example a legally married 16-year-old moving with spouse to a country where the legal age to marry is 18. If they have a child or the couple is expecting a baby then you can imagine all the problems that arise.
There will be problems when people are moving from one country to another, for example a legally married 16-year-old moving with spouse to a country where the legal age to marry is 18. If they have a child or the couple is expecting a baby then you can imagine all the problems that arise.
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YoungCatholicGuy
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The Catechism does state: mortal sins must be confessed ‘aloud’ by name, and number (if known).
So writing down one’s confession, means it must still be read aloud by the one confessing,
So writing down one’s confession, means it must still be read aloud by the one confessing,
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