Confession Question

[CatholicGirl017]

Regarding Confession. In the past I confessed to having an IUD, I will be getting it removed when it expires, as I wasn’t aware of the birth control laws of the Catholic Church before I took RCIA. My husband and I do not plan to have children, due to our severe mental health issues and I am taking medication that could be harmful to the baby, benzodiazepines and blood pressure medication. If I were to be taken off these medications it would be a risk to my mental and physical health. I know there’s natural family planning for this issue, so we will be looking into that. My gyno said it wasn’t a highly effective method, but I don’t have any other option. Looking back I probably shouldn’t have become Catholic. My priest said due to ignorance about the IUD, it didn’t affect me becoming a Catholic. I have since taken communion. I am not in an abstinent marriage, as my husband would divorce me. I know it’s considered a sin to continue relations with my husband while I have the IUD. I asked my priest this, and he said it was a gray area, as it’s a sin to deny sex in a marriage. Should I still be taking communion? Do I have to confess that I’m continuing relations with my husband? I wanted to ask my priest this, but I don’t want to bother him, as he has since left our parish. He did say I could email him, but he’s very busy. He’s very well versed in canon law, so he’d be the person to ask. I feel uncomfortable bringing this up with a new priest face to face. I was also not aware that sexual acts outside of intercourse with my husband was a sin, till recently. Do I confess this as well? I’m thinking of just not taking communion, till I have my IUD removed. Except that it’s required at least once a year. I’ve heard of Catholics that take birth control taking communion. Thanks for the advice on these matters. God bless!

 

[poche]

If you already have it scheduled to have the IUD removed then tehre is no reason for you to refuse to have relations withyour husband. I think you should be able to recieve Holy Communion also.

 

[otjm]

Regarding Confession. In the past I confessed to having an IUD, I will be getting it removed when it expires, as I wasn’t aware of the birth control laws of the Catholic Church before I took RCIA. My husband and I do not plan to have children, due to our severe mental health issues and I am taking medication that could be harmful to the baby, benzodiazepines and blood pressure medication. If I were to be taken off these medications it would be a risk to my mental and physical health. I know there’s natural family planning for this issue, so we will be looking into that. My gyno said it wasn’t a highly effective method, but I don’t have any other option. Looking back I probably shouldn’t have become Catholic. My priest said due to ignorance about the IUD, it didn’t affect me becoming a Catholic. I have since taken communion. I am not in an abstinent marriage, as my husband would divorce me. I know it’s considered a sin to continue relations with my husband while I have the IUD. I asked my priest this, and he said it was a gray area, as it’s a sin to deny sex in a marriage. Should I still be taking communion? Do I have to confess that I’m continuing relations with my husband? I wanted to ask my priest this, but I don’t want to bother him, as he has since left our parish. He did say I could email him, but he’s very busy. He’s very well versed in canon law, so he’d be the person to ask. I feel uncomfortable bringing this up with a new priest face to face. I was also not aware that sexual acts outside of intercourse with my husband was a sin, till recently. Do I confess this as well? I’m thinking of just not taking communion, till I have my IUD removed. Except that it’s required at least once a year. I’ve heard of Catholics that take birth control taking communion. Thanks for the advice on these matters. God bless!

Your gynecologist is inaccurate.

China uses Natural Family Planning becasue of its accuracy; other Theresa taught it to illiterate Hindus (and it worked very well).

Ask your priest to put you in contact with someone who is very familiar with NFP as it comes in several variations.

And please, speak with your priest; and when you do, tell him that if he is uncomfortable speaking about it, to refer you to another priest.

God bless! And understand you are never bothering a priest; they are here to help us all.

 

[e_c]

There are a lot of things going on here. One of the serious items I see is your decision to marry with no intention to have children.

You should have a meeting with someone in person about this, perhaps the priest you suggested.

Realize that we must carry crosses… and they are not necessarily light. But in no way does the thought that it would have been better to remain a non-Catholic help. You have the truth, which will free you if you let it.

Go see someone reliable in person.

 

[mVitus]

There are a lot of things going on here. One of the serious items I see is your decision to marry with no intention to have children.

You should have a meeting with someone in person about this, perhaps the priest you suggested.

Realize that we must carry crosses… and they are not necessarily light. But in no way does the thought that it would have been better to remain a non-Catholic help. You have the truth, which will free you if you let it.

Go see someone reliable in person.

^This. Your situation is unique and filled with many details, details few of us here on CAF are able to accurately guide you through. And those on CAF who could give you good advice are not privy to everything they would need to know. So talking to someone knowledgeable in real life, perhaps your priest or someone he recommends, will be your best course of action.

 

[Casilda]

A holy priest is the one you should be asking these questions of. He was the one ordained to feed and care for Peter’s flock. No one else can help you. We are all just fellow sheep in the fold