Confession stipend?

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Blessedwithfive said:
Catholics shouldn’t pay for sacraments but our church does bill for Sacramental fees for Baptism, First Communion, First Reconciliation, Confirmation and Matrimony. This is an extra fee on top of the sacramental prep fee for classes.

It is not a nominal charge and it does rub me the wrong way. Especially when we already support the church to the tune of thousands each year in the weekly collection, special collections, maintenance collection, capital campaign collection, (you get the idea).

I can afford it but I know others we decided to leave instead of asking Father for a pass. It is pretty humiliating to have to ask for the fee to be waived. Father always says yes, but some people are just too proud to ask.

As far as the OP, I would write a little note thanking him for his time, add that you will be praying for him and maybe a gift card for coffee (20.00 max). If I enjoyed his comments or had other questions, I would invite him over to dinner with the family and get to know him better. That is what I would do…
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Yeah. That’s not legit and should be brought to the attention of the dioceses.
 
That’s not permitted in our Archdiocese, unless it’s for an off campus retreat.
 
buc_fan33 said:
In general, it’s customary to offer a “stole fee” for baptisms and weddings. Typically, though it varies from parish to parish, this is done at the discretion of the family of the baby being baptized, and the couple being married. Speaking personally, such a gift is appreciated, but not expected. For a funeral, an “honorarium” is customary. But, I’ve never received a gift for having heard a confession. Such would certainly not be expected.
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Same here.

For confession, that’s very unusual.
 
TechieGuy said:
Sounds like Simony.
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That’s not simony. Simony is when the priest expects it or demands it or when the person asking for a sacrament offers money as an enticement (perhaps for something the priest declined the first time).
 
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