Perhaps you could bring your concerns to the priest and see if some kind of arrangement can be made or general advice on how to proceed with this delicate matter. I am sure they would have experience with this sort of things before. In some non-Christian countries, Christians may have to keep a very low profile to avoid beheading for turning their back on the mandatory official religion. Protestantism to Catholicism is not as major a step as Islam/Buddhism/Hinduism/Paganism to Catholicism.
Ask for his prayers too.
Thank you all for taking the time to reply to me. I appreciate it; I’ve been waiting a long time
to join these forums and have this kind of discussion because for a while I have had to meditate and pray about it alone. For a long time. I have made an effort on more than one occasion to contact a local RC priest, but whenever I did they were not in the office. I’ll make a reminder to try again.
I may have to proceed on my own, however I don’t want to do it necessarily as a secret. If I keep it as a secret from my wife, it may cause a division between us and create a trust issue. My wife is japanese, and the japanese community is important to her. It has helped with issues of depression and homesickness, and we recently moved further away from them so it has caused marital problems and fear with her that I am drawing her away from the community(I wasn’t; I moved to be closer to work). They are also our friends and have helped us a lot, especially when it came to us having our son. Converting to Roman Catholicism, I suspect, may cause our protestant japanese friends to feel I may be trying to take her away from them and the community. My wife may think that too. In fact, my wife confessed to me about her fear of going to a protestant church in our area(for example, my brother’s) that should would be attending services in english that she would feel difficult to understand(english isn’t her first language) and she would feel more depressed and alienated due to her being away from her parents who live in Japan, her friends from Japan and our friends in the japanese community in our area, and how she would consider divorce.
She confessed how the japanese church and our foundation in Jesus as christians with our current church has kept us together and if I take that away from her…
Anyway. Me converting to Roman Catholicism? Our japanese christian friends may not receive it well. I can’t be a member of that church congregation and the RCC, so it will create a division with my wife remaining a member without me. Converting to RCC is like me saying in action that they follow possibly heresies and are in error.
Unity is important to my wife. Unity of the family; Unity of having the same friends, eating at the same times, going to bed at the same times, going to the same church and events. She can’t even drive, let along really get to the japanese community on her own unless I drive her. And in our area, she has very few friends and there is almost no japanese people.
I’ve decided to not force her to become a Roman Catholic nor my son. This is a completely personal decision if I do this, and it has to be respected. But, I have concerns. Where does that leave me and the japanese church we attend as being both our friends and community, especially that my marriage has been built upon it too. As I understand it, I have obligation to attend the RCC on Sunday, especially on certain days of the year, otherwise I’m committing grave/mortal sins.
I thought it would go well for me to convert, but still remain active and a participant with the japanese church we currently attend for her sake and out of love for her, and to avoid any divisions, lest my marriage be destroyed and her faith along with it.
I can barely get her to understand the Apostles Creed and the gosp and she is a baby in Christ, so how can I even begin to feed her solid food and 2,000 years of church history, the reformation and so on.
My situation is difficult. I’ve even searched for a japanese catholic or orthodox community in my city region. There is none, unfortunately.