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Hello,

I’m afraid you might think I’m a basket case with so much sin to confess, but I do need to humble myself and reach out when I sin–not hide it.

I sinned in the area of masturbation this morning. I didn’t even “need” to do it. God clearly gave me a choice and a way out, but I chose not to take it. Thankfully, I didn’t even feel much pleasure when I did it, so hopefully it won’t feed the addiction that much.

I do want to ask for prayer to make the right choices when God gives me the opportunity (I’ve been told that He always does). I also want to ask for prayer that I would do something to fight the same-sex fantasies I sometimes have.

Again, I’m sorry if these confessions and details are painful to read. I just know from experience that it doesn’t help to hide things or hold them in…but to humbly confess them and seek God’s strength to change.

Dan
 
Mother Mary, I commend Dan to you. Please help him to love our Lord with all his heart, mind, soul and strength; and help him to live solely to please Our Lord, to comfort Him and to save souls. Please help him to look upon those members of his sex to whom he is attracted as children of God and brothers in Christ. I pray that the moment he begins to feel SSA that he turns to you with thanks for your maternal love and continued assistance and protection. I pray that he detests sin with all his heart and is resolved never to commit another sin for the rest of his life. I pray that he prays ceaselessly for the graces he needs to persevere in sanctifying grace. Amen.
 
Dan

I have struggled… I still struggle with these issues, and have posted similar topics myself.

I have learned to pray daily (or at least every day that I manage to make the time to pray) for Gods Grace of repentance to be poured out in my life.

Yes I ask for these specfic types of sin, but I do not restrict it to that. I Just ask for repentance. More and more of it. It has be hugely helpfull, and I am finding myself being convicted of and wanting to repent of (and making progress on) sins in may areas - not just the ones that are most on my mind.

I have come to a realisation. Repentance is not saying sorry for past sins… it is the painful and difficult process of tearing yourself away from the attachment to sinful behaviours. some of these are addictive, like the masturbation you mentioned - others are habitual - like my swearing - I’ve often been only aware of it if someone pointed it out to me… but I’ve become aware and been wanting not to do this. Those around me have noticed the change!

Let us pray:
Jesus send your spirit upon us. Give to Dan, to me, and to all who need it a special, and renewed outpouring of the Grace of Repentance in our lives. Help us to ask for more and more of this grace. help us to co-operate with it. Help us to Want to be totally free from sin and attachment to sin.
I so want to be closer to you. I so want to be rid of these things that keep me from knowing you more and being filled with your spirit.
Please help me. Please Teach me. Please fill me with your spirit. help me to be rid of all these sins and vices, and instead be filled with your virtues. Bring me closer and closer into union with you.
I ask this in your name Jesus, our Lord
in union with the Father, and the Holy spirit, one God for ever and ever for the Glory of your magnificent Name. May your name be glorified forever and ever AMEN.

I ask Mary our Mother:
hear this prayer and present it to your Son. Ask him to help us. Ask him to send us His Spirit.
Remember Oh most gracious Virgin Mary
That never was it known,
That anyone who fled to thy protection,
Implored thy help or sought thy intercession
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, we fly unto thee
Oh Virgin of Virgins, Our Mother.
To thee do we come, before thee we stand, sinful and sorrowful.
Oh Mother of the Word Incarnate despise not our petitions, but in thy clemency hear and answer them
Amen
 
A Benedictine Monk once told me to repeat “Its a lie” (from Satan) everytime I feel the urge to commit a sin of the flesh or have impure thoughts or lustful thoughts / desires

and to say a Hail Mary to ask the blessed Mother for her intercession to pray for me

I pray for your intentions! :gopray:

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
 
Talk to a priest about this man to man openly. You sound like you have a bad case of the ‘scruples’. Also with masturbation the ‘habit’ may lessen the amount of true control over yoyr behaviour. It’s very wrong to beat yourself up over this issue. Is there a guy on earth who hasn’t?
 
Jimmygill88 said:
Talk to a priest about this man to man openly. You sound like you have a bad case of the ‘scruples’. Also with masturbation the ‘habit’ may lessen the amount of true control over yoyr behaviour. It’s very wrong to beat yourself up over this issue. Is there a guy on earth who hasn’t?
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it is quite unwarranted to magnify the act of masturbation, which medically is normal, into a grievous sin, which it is unlikely to be…
 
wisedom said:
it is quite unwarranted to magnify the act of masturbation, which medically is normal, into a grievous sin, which it is unlikely to be…
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Masturbation is against the natural law. I must note that “natural” here doesn’t mean “environmental” or “anti-technological”. The natural law here refers to something (such as an act) reaching its natural ends and its natural purpose.

For example, lying is morally wrong (in part) because it defeats the natural purpose of communicating (which is man’s social nature). Likewise, a bulimic who vomits his food up every time he eats defeats the natural law of the digestive system, which, by it’s name, is to digest food. By vomiting, this purpose is abusing the natural law.

With that in mind, the reproductive system’s natural purpose is - again, by its name - to reproduce. The penis and vagina are naturally made for each other to procreate. If one uses the genitalia for any other purpose, then he/she is abusing the natural law of these organs. This is why masturbation is wrong; what purpose is it serving? Masturbating certainly doesn’t lead to procreation. In fact, in most cases, it serves simply as a way to self-pleasure oneself for their own instant gratification. That’s pretty selfish, if you ask me. I personally would rather share that pleasure with the wife I love than in my own room by myself.

This same argument (natural law) can also be made for the issue of artificial contraceptives.
 
The_Scott said:
Masturbation is against the natural law. I must note that “natural” here doesn’t mean “environmental” or “anti-technological”. The natural law here refers to something (such as an act) reaching its natural ends and its natural purpose.

For example, lying is morally wrong (in part) because it defeats the natural purpose of communicating (which is man’s social nature). Likewise, a bulimic who vomits his food up every time he eats defeats the natural law of the digestive system, which, by it’s name, is to digest food. By vomiting, this purpose is abusing the natural law.

With that in mind, the reproductive system’s natural purpose is - again, by its name - to reproduce. The penis and vagina are naturally made for each other to procreate. If one uses the genitalia for any other purpose, then he/she is abusing the natural law of these organs. This is why masturbation is wrong; what purpose is it serving? Masturbating certainly doesn’t lead to procreation. In fact, in most cases, it serves simply as a way to self-pleasure oneself for their own instant gratification. That’s pretty selfish, if you ask me. I personally would rather share that pleasure with the wife I love than in my own room by myself.

This same argument (natural law) can also be made for the issue of artificial contraceptives.
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While in some cases all this may be correct. The only answer for the guy who posted the question is to have a full and frank discussion face to face with a priest. Spiritual scruples are dealt with carefully by the Church. Which is why I really wish he wouldn’t post the question here because I fear we are destined to make the situation worse rather than better
 
Jimmygill88 said:
While in some cases all this may be correct. The only answer for the guy who posted the question is to have a full and frank discussion face to face with a priest. Spiritual scruples are dealt with carefully by the Church. Which is why I really wish he wouldn’t post the question here because I fear we are destined to make the situation worse rather than better
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it is my opinion, that excessive scrupulousness often or sometimes, masks outright unscrupulousness!
 
The original poster is not describing a problem of excessive scruples… he is describing problems of purity, which are so common that modern liberal medicine tries to ignore or normalise them.

Just because these problems are common does not make them not sinful. The Catechism says these issued are always gravely disordered… Those of you who belittle the nature of these sins are out of place. While there can be reduced culpability in many cases it is the job of the priest in Confession to advise the penitinet sinner who is genuinely trying to rid himself of these sins if individual instances are likely or unlikely to constitute grave sin.

In my life I have been advised “Keep up the fight. If you fall, make an act of Contrition, and keep recieving the Eucharist… Don’t let it keep you from Holy Communion. Keep coming to regular Confession”

That advice, and similar advice has been given to me by several priests. I still struggle with purity issues. i have done since before I reached visible stages of puberty, and I’m in my mid 30’s now.
But I would point out that there are multiple caveats in the advice I’ve been given. Each penitent should consider himself to be under obedience to his own Confessor. Advice will vary depending on both the Priest and on the Penitent.

It is vital to never call evil “good”, or good “evil”. It is vital to never tell someone that it is OK to sin. it’s not… Keep up the struggle. Ask God to help you. He Will.
Use Confession. Take the advice of your priest. Talk to him both in the confessional, and in separate advice sessions. (e.g. spiritual direction).
 
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