confession..

[arcd_71350]

ok, i’m having a slight bit of a dilema. last time I recieved the sacrament of Reconciliation, The priest kind of gave me a “confusing touch” if you know what i mean. He didn’t molest me or anything, but it could have gotten that way if I wouldn’t have left as quickly. The thing is, since then I’ve been kind of scared to go to Confession because I’m afraid it’ll happen again, and get worse. What should I do in this situation?

 

[baltobetsy]

Confess behind the screen. According to Church law, you must always have this option. If it is not available in your parish, complain. In the meantime, go to confession somewhere else.

Betsy

 

[latinmasslover]

ok, i’m having a slight bit of a dilema. last time I recieved the sacrament of Reconciliation, The priest kind of gave me a “confusing touch” if you know what i mean. He didn’t molest me or anything, but it could have gotten that way if I wouldn’t have left as quickly. The thing is, since then I’ve been kind of scared to go to Confession because I’m afraid it’ll happen again, and get worse. What should I do in this situation?

Stay behind the curtain, or
Go to another priest.

In either event, report it to the head pastor, and if he’s the head, go to the bishop…that is if you’re sure it was an inappropriate touch and not just misinterpreted. i don’t mean to imply anything on your part, my former spiritual director was affectionate (nothing impure, just very fatherly) and some took it the wrong way.

Oh, keep him in your prayers.

 

[Joyousguard]

1.First and foremeost make sure that there was no misunderstanding on anyone’s part or it was not something completely accidental. This is not to suggest in any manner that you were imagining things or seeing thing sthat aren’t there but simply the first step to make sure that there is no possibility of another explaination. Again, not knowing the exact circumstances, which I will not pry into, it becomes difficult on my part to say one way or the other.

1. If your on step 2 then you are positive that what happened did happen and it is serious. First its serious because of the nature of confession and secondly because if he did it to you in such a blatent manner he will no doubt do it again to someone else. Not only do you yourself to consider but others in the parish as well not to mention the entire Church as whole who are suffering still from these scandals.

This could by far be the most diffcult cross you will ever have to bare in your life. If you come forward with this information, you will no doubt feel a bit embarrased and uncertain. DON"T FEEL THIS WAY. You need to speak with this priests immediate superior. Something must be done to take care of this situation immediately. I believe most diocese have a number that you can call to report such things. This is a serious matter and if the priest did it to you, he may be doing it to other people and I don’t think any of us like to imagine when children get involved.

However, you decide to approach this, I’m sure your name would be left out and you could even do it anonymously.

I would highly advise you to talk with someone who is a catholic that you trust. Their strength and support will serve you very well in such circumstances. If you go to the bishop, bring this person for your own sake.

God Bless

 

[surfinpure]

ok, i’m having a slight bit of a dilema. last time I recieved the sacrament of Reconciliation, The priest kind of gave me a “confusing touch” if you know what i mean. He didn’t molest me or anything, but it could have gotten that way if I wouldn’t have left as quickly. The thing is, since then I’ve been kind of scared to go to Confession because I’m afraid it’ll happen again, and get worse. What should I do in this situation?

I don’t know what exactly a “confusing touch” is, much less whether what he did was truly ill-motivated or simply misunderstood, but I would personally have trouble returning to confess to a priest that made me feel “icky.” You know what I mean? I rarely come across a man who gives me that sort of vibe, but I’ve always stayed away from the few who do. It may be nothing at all, but why put yourself in an awkward situation if you don’t need to?