Confessor of Ex-Girlfriend

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I was wondering if anybody could share any philosophy regarding the following topic:

So, I am discerning a vocation to the priesthood, and I currently am dating a beautiful young woman. Last night, we were talking about it and I asked the question, “If I became a priest, would you go to confession to me, or would that be awkward?” She replied that it would be very awkward, and that she probably would not choose me as her confessor. I was wondering what you think of this. Is this for vain reasons? I think that through the Paschality of the dating relationship we would have a greater mutual understanding of paschality in general and, in a sense, the whole meaning of the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Especially the aspect of the priest representing the Communion of Saints as well as God in the forgiveness of sins. Any Thoughts?
Thought - You’re not ready to study for the priesthood.
 
Thanks! This is somewhat of an eye opener. =)
That is classic! I wonder what would happen if I were to try that (i.e. ask a young lady to be my “vocational discernment partner.” Does that mean that she would have to be both devout and attractive enough to tempt me?).
 
Well I don’t know if I had a daughter and a boy came to pick her up and I asked what are your intentions with my daughter as I was cleaning my gun or sharpening my sword and he said well I might marry her if it works out or I might break her heart and join the priesthood - I think I might wish that boy the best of luck and tell him to come back and date my daughter when he was sure that marriage was his chosen vocation. Until then he has no business dating my daughter and he can see her in group social settings and furthermore - if she were to throw a fit tough it would be for her own good. These are teens. Now - OP flip the scipt and put yourself in the shoes of the father in that situation. God bless,
 
Well I don’t know if I had a daughter and a boy came to pick her up and I asked what are your intentions with my daughter as I was cleaning my gun or sharpening my sword and he said well I might marry her if it works out or I might break her heart and join the priesthood - I think I might wish that boy the best of luck and tell him to come back and date my daughter when he was sure that marriage was his chosen vocation. Until then he has no business dating my daughter and he can see her in group social settings and furthermore - if she were to throw a fit tough it would be for her own good. These are teens. Now - OP flip the scipt and put yourself in the shoes of the father in that situation. God bless,
This kind of threat is unbecoming to a Christian. Remember what Jesus said to the apostles when they start chopping ears. However, he did not say anything about shotguns.
 
This kind of threat is unbecoming to a Christian. Remember what Jesus said to the apostles when they start chopping ears. **However, he did not say anything about shotguns.******Only because they did not exist yet!
 
I absolutely think this would be inappropriate. I have dated many many men and if I found out that any of them had become Priests unless I was on my deathbed I would not willing choose them as a confessor.

I think it is very odd that you would want to hear her confessions. Sounds to me like you want to still have a peace of her even after the relationship ends…which it should right away if you are serious about wanting to become a priest.
 
Is this statement really as bad as it sounds (I am sorry; I could not resist! You obviously do not have to respond.)?
Since I have come to terms with my past and brought the sins commited in some of my past relationships I will be honest and say YES…it is as bad as it sounds. I have dated roughly 50 boys/men. I am 35 yrs old and I have been married for 12yrs (this May) so that makes that 50number seem that much worse.

I will clarify, that just because I “dated” these men does not mean I was “intimate” with all 50 of them. 😊
 
Since I have come to terms with my past and brought the sins commited in some of my past relationships I will be honest and say YES…it is as bad as it sounds. I have dated roughly 50 boys/men. I am 35 yrs old and I have been married for 12yrs (this May) so that makes that 50number seem that much worse.

I will clarify, that just because I “dated” these men does not mean I was “intimate” with all 50 of them. 😊
All right. Thank you for being so candid. It is good that you are now on the right path.
 
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