Confirmation Dress Code

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So I’m getting confirmed in a week and I’m wearing black combat boots with my dress. My mom worked hard to find me shoes since I’m very picky and sensitive. In the end, she decided to just let me wear my boots since they’re comfy and almost brand new. Some girls in my class said I couldn’t wear them because they are against dress code, but I’ve been reading articles on conformation dress codes and they say nothing about not being able to wear boots. So now I’ve come here to ask for your opinion. So should I wear them or not? I’ve been told by family that the dress looks good with the boots. We don’t have the time and money to buy a new pair of shoes, so what do you guys think?
 
It is best to speak to your teacher or pastor. What confirmandi wear is a local matter.

Combat boots seem an inappropriate choice for church.
 
FollowingStJoan said:
So I’m getting confirmed in a week and I’m wearing black combat boots with my dress. My mom worked hard to find me shoes since I’m very picky and sensitive. In the end, she decided to just let me wear my boots since they’re comfy and almost brand new. Some girls in my class said I couldn’t wear them because they are against dress code, but I’ve been reading articles on conformation dress codes and they say nothing about not being able to wear boots. So now I’ve come here to ask for your opinion. So should I wear them or not? I’ve been told by family that the dress looks good with the boots. We don’t have the time and money to buy a new pair of shoes, so what do you guys think?
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Personally, combat boots doesn’t equate to “Sunday Best.”

I think you should speak with maybe your religious edu. teacher about it.
 
Actually, I think it depends on the style of the combat boots. Some look like the lace up boots in the early 1900s and would look quite nice with a dress. However, if the boots look more like something you’d wear in actual combat, then probably not appropriate. If your family can’t afford any new shoes you could go to a second hand store like Goodwill or St. Vincent de Paul and see if there are any shoes there that would work for a day. I once did that to get some shoes with heels for a play I was in.
 
If you really want to follow Joan of Arc then I suggest you pair the boots with some nice chain mail and a shiny stainless steel shield.
 
The day is about so much more than your feet.
Go with whatever your pastor recommends. Likely he won’t care.
The other girls are trying to spare you embarrassment. Likely they are going be dressing more typical “church finery”.
We Confirmed 43 teens yesterday. All I asked of them was to wear something not too revealing or short, and that the shoes be comfy, not too showy or spikey. It’s a long Mass if there are many students.
You could show some maturity by allowing your dear mother to help you select some reasonable flats to wear. What do you think your patron saint would do?
Just something to think about.
Congratulations.
 
pianistclare said:
The day is about so much more than your feet.
Go with whatever your pastor recommends. Likely he won’t care.
The other girls are trying to spare you embarrassment. Likely they are going be dressing more typical “church finery”.
We Confirmed 43 teens yesterday. All I asked of them was to wear something not too revealing or short, and that the shoes be comfy, not too showy or spikey. It’s a long Mass if there are many students.
You could show some maturity by allowing your dear mother to help you select some reasonable flats to wear. What do you think your patron saint would do?
Just something to think about.
Congratulations.
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Yes, flats.

That’s what my girls wear to Church and what my daughter wore to confirmation.

-Tim-
 
FollowingStJoan said:
So I’m getting confirmed in a week and I’m wearing black combat boots with my dress. My mom worked hard to find me shoes since I’m very picky and sensitive. In the end, she decided to just let me wear my boots since they’re comfy and almost brand new. Some girls in my class said I couldn’t wear them because they are against dress code, but I’ve been reading articles on conformation dress codes and they say nothing about not being able to wear boots. So now I’ve come here to ask for your opinion. So should I wear them or not? I’ve been told by family that the dress looks good with the boots. We don’t have the time and money to buy a new pair of shoes, so what do you guys think?
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If that is indeed your best looking outfit by all means wear it. When I was confirmed the boys had to wear suits and the girls long dresses but that was just shy of 60 years ago.

Congratulations and God be with you.
 
baliano said:
If that is indeed your best looking outfit by all means wear it. When I was confirmed the boys had to wear suits and the girls long dresses but that was just shy of 60 years ago.

Congratulations and God be with you.
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Not so long ago (3 years) that was roughly the dress code when my boys were confirmed - suits for the boys and white tea length dresses for the girls. No sneakers, no boots. Of course, since it’s Texas, “no boots” was aimed at cowboy boots rather than combat boots. 😃

OP, ask the person in charge of your Confirmation class. what the dress code is. I have been to some Confirmations where everyone wore robes so the dress code was more lax. Seriously, no one here is going to know what the requirements are for your parish.
 
Corki said:
OP, ask the person in charge of your Confirmation class. what the dress code is. I have been to some Confirmations where everyone wore robes so the dress code was more lax. Seriously, no one here is going to know what the requirements are for your parish.
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I’m really tired and that just brought a picture to mind of everyone sitting in church in their fuzzy bathrobes. Now THAT would be lax. 😃
 
I’m assuming your confirmation saint is St Joan of Arc; hence combat boots. It’s great to honor your saiint in many ways including her attire. However, I suggest to accompany this way of bringing St Joan of Arc to your Confirmation, you also memorize a few of her prayers too.

In today’s culture, we do need strong spiritual warriors who will help the poor unfortunate souls who are being lead astray. May you take up the intense fire to be a leader to your peers with the same determination St Joan of Arc had. Amen
 
Giggly_Giraffe said:
I’m assuming your confirmation saint is St Joan of Arc; hence combat boots. It’s great to honor your saiint in many ways including her attire. However, I suggest to accompany this way of bringing St Joan of Arc to your Confirmation, you also memorize a few of her prayers too.

In today’s culture, we do need strong spiritu

al warriors who will help the poor unfortunate souls who are being lead astray. May you take up the intense fire to be a leader to your peers with the same determination St Joan of Arc had. Amen
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Thank you and by the way, I didn’t mean to pair up the boots so that they’d match my saint, I guess that was all a work of God.
 
Sunbreak said:
Actually, I think it depends on the style of the combat boots. Some look like the lace up boots in the early 1900s and would look quite nice with a dress. However, if the boots look more like something you’d wear in actual combat, then probably not appropriate. If your family can’t afford any new shoes you could go to a second hand store like Goodwill or St. Vincent de Paul and see if there are any shoes there that would work for a day. I once did that to get some shoes with heels for a play I was in.
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Thanks, and they’re not actual combat boots. They’re just black boots that lace up, but I guess in this modern era they would be considered combat boots. 🙂
 
Brianmcg321 said:
Jesus won’t care. 👍
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He will is there’s a stated dress code that this would violate. A person presenting him/herself for the Sacrament of Confirmation is making a public statement that he/she is ready to complete initiation into the Church. Part of being a Christian is obedience to valid authority. Jesus most certainly would care if someone uses the Sacrament of Confirmation as a venue for public disobedience.

But, if there is no dress code, then the parish doesn’t care what is worn.
 
Corki said:
He will is there’s a stated dress code that this would violate. A person presenting him/herself for the Sacrament of Confirmation is making a public statement that he/she is ready to complete initiation into the Church. Part of being a Christian is obedience to valid authority. Jesus most certainly would care if someone uses the Sacrament of Confirmation as a venue for public disobedience.

But, if there is no dress code, then the parish doesn’t care what is worn.
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Exactly, which is why the OP should ask her priest or religious edu. teacher. I’m surprised that dress code hasn’t been a topic if confirmation is so soon.
 
Corki said:
He will is there’s a stated dress code that this would violate. A person presenting him/herself for the Sacrament of Confirmation is making a public statement that he/she is ready to complete initiation into the Church. Part of being a Christian is obedience to valid authority. Jesus most certainly would care if someone uses the Sacrament of Confirmation as a venue for public disobedience.

But, if there is no dress code, then the parish doesn’t care what is worn.
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Agreed.
 
My parish asked all kids to be confirmed to wear some kind of dress shoes with “Sunday Best” modest yet appropriate clothes. Keep in mind, the majority were 8 to 10 year olds not teenagers.

I would say if you have to wear boots for health reasons, that is one thing. If its just a personal style thing, you can certainly forgo them for a few hours to look dignified and respectful.
 
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