confirmation/marriage

[sjmjru]

I was told that if u were a Catholic and wanted to get married in the Catholic Church u did not have to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation. These was supposedly said by a local parish priest.

This doesn’t seem correct to me.

If anyone could help me answer this question I would really appreciate it.

First time posting. Hope I did alright. Thanks

 

[mosher]

sjmjru:

I was told that if u were a Catholic and wanted to get married in the Catholic Church u did not have to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation. These was supposedly said by a local parish priest.

This doesn’t seem correct to me.

If anyone could help me answer this question I would really appreciate it.

First time posting. Hope I did alright. Thanks

Can 1065 P 1 “Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before being admitted to marriage, if this can be done without grave inconvenience.”

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

sjmjru:

I was told that if u were a Catholic and wanted to get married in the Catholic Church u did not have to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation. These was supposedly said by a local parish priest.

This doesn’t seem correct to me.

If anyone could help me answer this question I would really appreciate it.

First time posting. Hope I did alright. Thanks

That is correct Confirmation is not required for a valid Marriage. But highly recomended as is Reconciliation just before the Marriage.

 

[asquared]

Br. Rich SFO:

That is correct Confirmation is not required for a valid Marriage. But highly recomended as is Reconciliation just before the Marriage.

any Catholic conscious of grave sin MUST confess before receiving the sacraments of Confirmation, Eucharist, Matrimony or Holy Orders (Baptism and Anointing of the Sick remit all sins).

Confirmation before marriage is generally, but not absolutely required, as the quote in previous post states, but it is strongly recommended. The priest preparing the couple for marriage has grounds for questioning whether the parties are properly prepared and disposed for a sacrament which carries such graves responsibilities and challenges for the Christian. In general most places require at least 6 months to a year notice before the wedding, and there should be ample time to prepare for Confirmation during that time, even if the actual sacrament might be conferred after the wedding, due to the bishop’s schedule.

A Catholic should certainly be fully initiated before undertaking the burdens of marriage and family, and enjoy the fullness of the gifts of the Holy Spirit to be able to meed the demands of the marriage vocation.

Refusal to accept Confirmation would raise valid questions in the priest’s mind about a person’s maturity and commitment to the Catholic faith.

 

[mosher]

In otherwords … It is required unless there is a grave reason against. 99.997% of US or First World nation circumstances would not find a place in the exception.

 

[rwoehmke]

asquared:

any Catholic conscious of grave sin MUST confess before receiving the sacraments of Confirmation, Eucharist, Matrimony or Holy Orders (Baptism and Anointing of the Sick remit all sins). Refusal to accept Confirmation would raise valid questions in the priest’s mind about a person’s maturity and commitment to the Catholic faith.

I was pleasantly surprised to find that someone else knows that receiving the “sacraments of the living” requires one to be in a state of grace. Like many other bits of knowledge, this one seems to have been lost in the “Great Catachetical Void” that followed Vatican II. The last statement bothers me because it seems to support a current of thought that Confirmation in the Catholic Church is like that in many protestant churches, an affirmation of ones adult committment to the Faith. Why would this be if the Eastern Churches give this sacrament at the time of infant Baptism and depending on the diocese, it is not at all uncommon for young grade school age children to be confirmed. I have always thought that it was a strengthening of the Isaiah gifts received in Baptism as well as further spiritual gifts to enable one to be an effective evangelist, teacher, or defender of the Faith.

 

[Rahwayman]

For those who say that it is necessary, your wrong, My wife and I were married in the United States and she has not yet been Confirmed. To say that it is necessary, would be to invalidate the Sacrament we received.

 

[beckyann2597]

Rahwayman:

For those who say that it is necessary, your wrong, My wife and I were married in the United States and she has not yet been Confirmed. To say that it is necessary, would be to invalidate the Sacrament we received.

You are correct, although the person does have to be a validly baptised Christian. If they are not Christian they need special permission from the Bishop.

 

[mosher]

Rahwayman:

For those who say that it is necessary, your wrong, My wife and I were married in the United States and she has not yet been Confirmed. To say that it is necessary, would be to invalidate the Sacrament we received.

As a matter of law permission must be given if one or both have not received Confirmation as referenced in the Code of Canon Law quoted in a pervious post. Not having the sacrament of Confirmation will not invalidate Matrimony but it could make it illicit if permission is not given or the undue burden clause of the law is not fulfilled.