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Hi,

Since you asked what we thought, I’ll give you my long story in a nut shell.

I’m a Catholic–born and raised (although my parents are not very devout). I fell in love with a Mormon guy, his family, his values, and even started to fall in love with his religion. Looking back, I think his family did not see our relationship progressing far since he was on his way to BYU, so they never encouraged my interest in their fatih. So I did the research on my own.

The whole apostacy thing bothered me at the beginning. We expect captains to go down with their ship, but God jumped ship so soon? But it didn’t bother me too much, I put that concern on the back burner and continued to research.

I went to church with this Mormon boyfriend and his family, but truthfully, the boyfriend wasn’t that into it. I was more interested than he was. I think his parents wish they had taken my interest seriously back then when I was more impressionable.

The lovey-dovey wonderfulness of being “in love” kind of wore off. I saw that I do, in fact, love the BF and his family, but I really needed to investigate the Mormon faith, not just rely on “warm fuzzies”.

This also leads me to reinvestigate my own faith. What a wonderful spiritual walk I had. What did I choose? Catholicism. (Oh yeah, that bf is now my adorable, technically still Mormon, but Mass-attending husband).

I really had to understand the history before I could make the decision. The Mormon church presented their theology to me as brilliant and new (or restored) insights into God, religion, American history–all eminating from God via Smith, the prophet. Then I found out many of the “revelations” were actually human theories that recently preceded Joseph Smith. (lots of info out there if you are interested, but I’ll let you do your own reading–I’m not here to convince you one way or the other) So, although I love many things about the LDS faith, I just found I couldn’t believe in it.

So why do I think Smith did it? I’ve thought many different theories: maybe he was some sort of a fallen prophet, maybe he was a con man, maybe he had a disorder that made him an ego maniac, maybe he was genuinely trying to a lead a flock towards God. I tend to think he was so troubled with doubts about which religion to join, listened to so many revival preachers, spent so much time trying to piece together the answers that he started to believe his own thoughts were divinely inspired. Once you go down that path and bring your family with you, it’s hard to step back, self-realize your mistake & say, “Hmmm, I think maybe I was just dreaming/hypothesizing that. Forget what I said/wrote.”

Why put his family through all the turmoil? That’s an easy one for me. People do this all the time–think of terrible hazing rituals of fraternities. The more pain you experience, the more your brain desires to make it “worth it.” So, if you say, “I heard God talking to me in a grove,” and your friends laugh, you have 2 choices: 1. you think, “That was embarrassing, I must’ve been wrong.” or 2. you think, “They don’t know what they are talking about. Now I’m really convinced it was God and this ridicule is a test of my faith.” The next time your friends don’t laugh, they kick you out of town–now you are more strongly convinced that you are being righteously persecuted, and so on. . .

And about the statue burying–strikes me as wrong, too. But I’ve heard enough Mormon stories about Garments protecting people from fires, missionaries scared of swimming because of some sort of spirits (my in-laws refuse to associate with bodies of water on Sundays???), that I think all religions have to be mindful not to fall into the trap of superstition.

Good luck on your journey. Don’t be discouraged by what you find about either religion. Keeping seeking Him and you’ll come out of this journey better for it.

Peace,
SJ
Thank you for this. You have some great points here. You are absolutely right about every religion having their “superstitions”.

I starting thinking a similar thing about Joseph Smith, that maybe he “translated” the BofM as a get-rich scheme which backfired on him. By then it was too late to back out and he ran with it all the way. I have a harder time explaining why the witnesses would never deny the vision even after being excommunicated.

Regarding the warm fuzzies. Last week in Sunday school the teacher exclaimed that we need to develop our “feelings”. Feelings are more important than head knowledge. I just about got up and walked out.
 
I spent some time reading about the witnesses last night and found (like usual) it very frustrating because both sides put forward such different explanations of the same event that it feels impossible to ever really find out what happened. I suppose what I need to do is concentrate on the foundational questions such as “Was there really a complete apostacy?”, “Is the Book of Mormon an inspired work from God?”, etc.

~Dee
To my understanding no witness ever denied what they saw. Not one ever publically admited that it was all a fraud. I tend not to rely on second hand accounts. The author of this article has written a great book about the witnesses but the title escapes me. But the article is interesting:

fairlds.org/FAIR_Conferences/2004_Explaining_Away_the_Book_of_Mormon_Witnesses.html

Characteristics of the Witnesses
All right, if you go back to the first reaction to the witnesses of the Book of Mormon in The Palmyra Reflector, ridicule is pretty standard; character assassination; you can’t take these people seriously and their claim to be liars or really stupid; easy to convince people and superstitious.

And if you’ve read anti-Mormon approaches to the witnesses in the last five years, many of them are saying–they’re not really many and I’m not… I’ll be glad in questions to name people and so on but I’m really trying to work with issues–but the issue here is that people work with this idea that my approach in the little red book or the big blue book before that, the first edition, Investigating The Book of Mormon Witnesses, that approach says honesty and credibility was the hallmark of these people in their community.

Now I have to back off and say in the case of Martin Harris people said that he was terribly gullible because he believed the Bible and took literally the prophecies. So, credibility had a religious exception: he was credible in business but he wasn’t credible in his religious attitudes.

And, so, anyway I’m told that credibility and character and honesty are all irrelevant, if you’re going to be deceived you can be an honest person and be deceived so we don’t even talk about that.

Well, if Mark Hofmann somehow got out and offered us a new set of documents, credibility might be an issue. If somebody is a known liar, you’re not even going to get to first base in taking it seriously and so I say that these are really big issues and if you’ve crossed that huge chasm of having believable people who are saying “we saw the plates,” “we saw the angel,” or “we handled the plates,” then you’ve really come a long way.

Oliver Cowdery’s law partner said that he had never met anybody that was so well informed and this man went on to have a career in politics, a successful career in law. He did a really fine county history that’s not a bunch of blurbs but real history and wrote two paragraphs on early pioneer lawyers in his county. His name is William Lang, he apprenticed in Oliver Cowdery’s law office, and he said he had never met a person that was so well informed on so many different subjects. He sincerely admired the man’s mind and his capabilities.

Well if I tell you that I’ve seen the northern lights in Utah that’s a fairly improbable statement but it might be true sometime. You might say, “well does Anderson know the difference between the appearance of northern lights and the appearance of Salt Lake City in the distance?” And intelligence, perception is a great issue too. And these are really defined as, out of the way, that’s irrelevant. It’s certainly not irrelevant. We have substantial people bearing substantial testimonies.

A variation of this, their bad character, is quoting Joseph Smith on their bad character. And Joseph Smith has, I have to smile at it because we’ve all been in this mood and some of us have acted on it and others have had better judgment but anyway Joseph Smith says basically judgment for judgment, I mean he puts this at the beginning of this editorial in the Elder’s Journal in 1838 and he’s just had it with people that want to leave the Church and give him a bad time and all Missourians conspiring to throw the Mormons out and he is in a defensive mood and mode for sure. But he calls David Whitmer a dumb *** but he’s talking about Balaam’s *** in the Old Testament speaking the truth in spite of himself and he has an epithet for Martin Harris. I don’t really recall that he says anything about Oliver Cowdery except he does feel betrayed.

And so Joseph Smith did label the witnesses with those labels and so if you quote Joseph Smith it looks pretty impressive: “These people weren’t to be believed, and Joseph Smith said so, so don’t believe their testimony of the Book of Mormon.” Well that’s a neat reversal of reality, just based on circumstances, but that plays into the whole issue.

I’m told in some books that they are impostors; they are part of a conspiracy. Well Joseph Smith went out of his way to alienate them as they left the Church. The Church in Far West went out of their way to alienate John Whitmer, Lyman Johnson as an ex-apostle was along for the ride out, and David Whitmer and Oliver Cowdery and they were told you’re not welcome in town–get out! (It happens in many frontier communities, and Latter-day Saints are not insulated from emotions trying to explain instead of justify.)

If you’re run out of town and told that the people that you were with don’t want you around anymore and some rather extreme charges are made about your honesty on the way out, you would have a pretty strong reaction and so you get into this set and subset of somebody accusing, counter-accusing and escalating a whole argument and these emotions actually went on.

The witnesses are victimized by this and Oliver Cowdery stayed out of the Church partly because he waited for an apology which never came. But in spite of that, he said “I know.” So quoting Joseph Smith negatively is only to highlight the conflict that these witnesses bridged themselves and said for sure they had seen the plates in spite of all that.
 
Thanks everyone. I’ve read a lot of different “anti” material in the past. This is not a new journey for me, I just feel like I NEED to get off the fence and figure some things out. What’s more important in this life than finding the truth, right?

I spent some time reading about the witnesses last night and found (like usual) it very frustrating because both sides put forward such different explanations of the same event that it feels impossible to ever really find out what happened. I suppose what I need to do is concentrate on the foundational questions such as “Was there really a complete apostacy?”, “Is the Book of Mormon an inspired work from God?”, etc.

I tend to think that the Book of Mormon is fiction, due in part to lack of archeological evidence and DNA evidence. Was there a complete apostacy? I don’t know. My wife thinks so. Anytime I mention it she brings up some different evil Popes she heard about during the middle ages as proof to the Catholic church losing it’s authority.

Thanks for the links, it’ll give me some more material to look at.
~Dee
I agree, you should also think about the Great Apostasy and whether the Book of Mormon is inspired.

Whether or not there were “evil Popes” during the Middle Ages is not really a valid argument. We have a prime example with Judas, called to a position of authority, yet we all know how he ended up. For Catholics, we are all human, and thus, we all sin, from the laity, right up to the Pope. The Pope confesses his sins to a priest just like how we go to confess our sins to a priest. However, in this acknowledgment in the human nature of ALL (the Pope isn’t God), we also believe that Popes, Ecumenical Councils, and the Magisterium (the teaching authority of the Church) can never give false doctrines, contradicting doctrines, or change infallible doctrines.

Also, in reading critic articles, don’t only focus on their words, but on the words of the Mormon apostles, prophets, and other leaders that are frequently quoted from their own journals and other sources. These will help you in seeing this side of the argument, as you also look at other quotes from the same sources given by pro-Mormon websites.

Good luck!
 
Thank you for this. You have some great points here. You are absolutely right about every religion having their “superstitions”.

I starting thinking a similar thing about Joseph Smith, that maybe he “translated” the BofM as a get-rich scheme which backfired on him. By then it was too late to back out and he ran with it all the way. I have a harder time explaining why the witnesses would never deny the vision even after being excommunicated.

Regarding the warm fuzzies. Last week in Sunday school the teacher exclaimed that we need to develop our “feelings”. Feelings are more important than head knowledge. I just about got up and walked out.
I think we see this all the time actually. I believe I mentioned the “Messiah” of the Lord Our Righteousness Church as a very recent example. He has Three Witnesses as well. Their leader is in jail, convicted on sexual abuse charges. Yet they have not denied their testimonies. There are MANY other examples of this. Look at Scientology today. SO many people, including many that were at the top of the leadership, stayed with it even after they were beaten, abused on “Rehabilitation Project Force”, etc. They knew that the claims were false, yet they stayed with the beliefs. And even then, quite a number of ex-Scientologists still believe in the “tech”, even after they were booted out. My degree is in psychology, so I have looked into these issues extensively (I wrote an extensive paper on how Scientology and similar new religions attempt to play on “feelings” and just the general human state to gain and retain members, for a senior course), and I see many similarities with Mormonism’s founders and “witnesses”, and others. It really is nothing new, when we look at the Prophets of other religions.
 
Dee, here are a few other sites I find may help you:

postmormon.org/exp_e/
utlm.org/navonlinebooks.htm
mormonchallenge.com/dnavs.html
mormonchallenge.com/liftingtheveil.html
youtube.com/watch?v=G1mFdO1wB08
bookofabraham.info/

Here are a few articles from this website as well:

catholic.com/library/Distinctive_Beliefs_of_Mormon.asp
catholic.com/library/Mormonism_Baptism_for_the_Dead.asp
catholic.com/library/Gods_of_the_Mormon_Church.asp

Now, of course FAIR has answers to many of these critiques, as Catholics have answers to our own critics as well. These will help you see the “other side”, as you so asked for, and you can make a decision.

Let us know if you need any more help with Catholic beliefs and practices!
So should I now post some anticatholic sites and forums sponsored by excatholics? I don’t think so. But they are out there. These days I can find anything on the internet against every faith imaginable. And I don’t think that you would be surprised by the amount of anticatholic material on the internet. But I do not give them that much credibility. And that makes all the difference. I see no point getting my information from anticatholic sources that have negative agendas against the catholic church.
 
So should I now post some anticatholic sites and forums sponsored by excatholics? I don’t think so. But they are out there. These days I can find anything on the internet against every faith imaginable. And I don’t think that you would be surprised by the amount of anticatholic material on the internet. But I do not give them that much credibility. And that makes all the difference. I see no point getting my information from anticatholic sources that have negative agendas against the catholic church.
You don’t get it do you. The POINT of this thread is to show the non-Mormon views of Mormon beliefs and texts. We have done that. Go ahead and point out some anti-catholic websites, we have seen them already. You’ll only be ignoring the whole POINT of this thread. This thread isn’t about you and your anti-catholic websites. If you don’t like it, that’s fine, he asked for Catholics to show the other side.

Now if someone asks for the non-Catholic view of Catholic doctrines, go ahead and post your anti-catholic links. That’s not what the OP asked for. Try reading it again.
 
Regarding the warm fuzzies. Last week in Sunday school the teacher exclaimed that we need to develop our “feelings”. Feelings are more important than head knowledge. I just about got up and walked out.
If/when someone is telling you what your own feelings mean, it is time to leave. The whole, “feel good”, God is with you, “feel bad”, God has left the building, is BS. 🙂
 
I tend to think that the Book of Mormon is fiction, due in part to lack of archeological evidence and DNA evidence. Was there a complete apostacy? I don’t know. My wife thinks so. Anytime I mention it she brings up some different evil Popes she heard about during the middle ages as proof to the Catholic church losing it’s authority.
~Dee
When you begin to believe that the book of mormon is fiction, then, go to the catholic church and enjoy the experience of mass. However, to assume that the book is fiction because of lack of archeological evidence or DNA would perhaps be a mistake. Let me put it this way: if a mark was found that confirmed the book of mormon would you remain a member of the mormon church. Or if DNA proved the book of mormon true, would you rremain a mormon? I think yes. But your faith is depended on evidence and not on unconditional total faith.

I wish that there were evidence that conformed that there is a god or that Christ is the son of god. But I see no conclusive evidence except what is in the new testament or old testament. I have no other witnesses than that which is in the new tesatament that christ was the son of god.
 
Regarding the warm fuzzies. Last week in Sunday school the teacher exclaimed that we need to develop our “feelings”. Feelings are more important than head knowledge. I just about got up and walked out.
What exactly did your sunday school teacher mean by feelings? This does not sound mormon at all. Usually they would talk about the holy ghost and how it is important to listen to promptings of the spirit. But never did I ever hear that compared to feelings. And so what would a sunday school teacher mean by that: develop feelings over head knowledge? Can you explain? Again, I never heard a mormon equate the holy ghost to a ‘feeling’

This would be something that a nonmormon may say but a mormon…? .
 
You don’t get it do you. The POINT of this thread is to show the non-Mormon views of Mormon beliefs and texts. We have done that. Go ahead and point out some anti-catholic websites, we have seen them already. You’ll only be ignoring the whole POINT of this thread. This thread isn’t about you and your anti-catholic websites. If you don’t like it, that’s fine, he asked for Catholics to show the other side.

Now if someone asks for the non-Catholic view of Catholic doctrines, go ahead and post your anti-catholic links. That’s not what the OP asked for. Try reading it again.
I realize you’re still pretty new here, so I’m going to offer you a suggestion.

Look at his posting history, and you will see he has nothing good to say about the Catholic Church. Even though at one time, he said he was mormon, and Catholic.
 
If/when someone is telling you what your own feelings mean, it is time to leave. The whole, “feel good”, God is with you, “feel bad”, God has left the building, is BS. 🙂
I never heard any mormon talk about feelings in mormon meetings. They would talk about the holy ghost and the promptings of the spirit or the pressence of the holy ghost during meetings. But to equate all that to a ‘feeling’ would sound very unmormon to me.
 
I realize you’re still pretty new here, so I’m going to offer you a suggestion.

Look at his posting history, and you will see he has nothing good to say about the Catholic Church. Even though at one time, he said he was mormon, and Catholic.
This is not true. I have repeatedly praised the saints such as saint therese, katherine drexel, mother theresa, Dorothy Day, Mother Cabrini etc. Also, I told the OP that when he believes that the book of mormon is false, go to Mass and enjoy the catholic experience. Why must you always lie about me? But then again, since you are two people in one, I never know if you are the catholic or the methodist. But please don’t lie. 🙂

Now of course, I know that mother theresa is not a saint nor is Dorothy Day. But they are saints to me.
 
You don’t get it do you. The POINT of this thread is to show the non-Mormon views of Mormon beliefs and texts. We have done that. Go ahead and point out some anti-catholic websites, we have seen them already. You’ll only be ignoring the whole POINT of this thread. This thread isn’t about you and your anti-catholic websites. If you don’t like it, that’s fine, he asked for Catholics to show the other side.

Now if someone asks for the non-Catholic view of Catholic doctrines, go ahead and post your anti-catholic links. That’s not what the OP asked for. Try reading it again.
That wasn’t the point of the OP at all. Go back and read the OP. The poster seems confused and searching. He finds fault with the mormon church and with the catholic church. He is searching for the truth. And that is the point of the OP.
 
That wasn’t the point of the OP at all. Go back and read the OP. The poster seems confused and searching. He finds fault with the mormon church and with the catholic church. He is searching for the truth. And that is the point of the OP.
Sorry you need to pay attention here. He first said “what do you think?” in reference to various Mormon beliefs. Then later in this very thread, he even further clarified who the “you” is and what he is looking for:
I know, you’re right.*** But I was curious on how Catholics would explain Joseph Smith’s motivation for doing what he did knowing it was all fake. I’m not asking Catholics whether I should stay in the church. I’m also looking for persuasive arguments on why one should think that the Catholic church has the fullness of truth over other religions***.
So go ahead and post your “anti-catholic” websites. That will go even further against what the point of this thread in the words of the originator.

Stop derailing this thread.
 
The warm fuzzy comment makes me just a little suspicious. Warm fuzzy is a term that is used mainly by exmormons to down play what they felt during mormon meetings. For mormons the feeling of comfort comes from the holy spirit and is not a warm fuzzy. What is a warm fuzzy anyway if you think about it?

And so, to equate what a mormon thinks is the holy ghost to a warm fuzzy might seem just a little offensive to them.

Also if I am attending Mass and I feel the holy spirit during Mass, should I also claim that it is a warm fuzzy?
Ummm, who said anything about “what a mormon thinks”? I said that I was “falling in love” with the religion and it was wearing off on me, and I wanted to base my decision not only on warm fuzzy feelings, but on an intellectual investigation also.

Sounds reasonable to me. For me to convert I needed to feel the Spirit and believe what I was being taught–I couldn’t have one without the other.

I never said feelings weren’t important. I never said the Holy Spirit couldn’t touch one’s soul through “warm fuzzies.” I never equated anything a mormon thinks with anything else, because this was my experience . . . and I’m no mormon.

Read it again. There is a big difference in saying, “I felt in love with a religion, then realized those feelings were not enough and were waning . . . which lead me to question XYZ,” versus “Mormons will tell you they feel the Holy Spirit. They are wrong, it’s just warm fuzzies.” Big difference, eh? Don’t turn me into an insensitive monster. I love my mormon family and although I disagree with their beliefs, I will defend their right to their faith and their sincere belief in it. That church helped raise my husband to be a wonderful man and amazing husband/father. I can disagree with LDS members respectfully and with an ear that is interested in hearing and understanding their experiences–give me the same courtesy.

Peace,
SJ
 
That wasn’t the point of the OP at all. Go back and read the OP. The poster seems confused and searching. He finds fault with the mormon church and with the catholic church. He is searching for the truth. And that is the point of the OP.
Sorry you need to pay attention here. He first said “what do you think?” in reference to various Mormon beliefs. Then later in this very thread, this is what Dee says:
I know, you’re right.*** But I was curious on how Catholics would explain Joseph Smith’s motivation for doing what he did knowing it was all fake. I’m not asking Catholics whether I should stay in the church. I’m also looking for persuasive arguments on why one should think that the Catholic church has the fullness of truth over other religions***.
So stop derailing this thread.
 
This is not true. I have repeatedly praised the saints such as saint therese, katherine drexel, mother theresa, Dorothy Day, Mother Cabrini etc. Also, I told the OP that when he believes that the book of mormon is false, go to Mass and enjoy the catholic experience. Why must you always lie about me? But then again, since you are two people in one, I never know if you are the catholic or the methodist. But please don’t lie. 🙂

Now of course, I know that mother theresa is not a saint nor is Dorothy Day. But they are saints to me.
Are you calling me a Liar? Exactly who do you think you are!?!

I would choose my words much more careful my friend.

Your posts speak for themselves, as many (including myself) have pointed out. Would you like me to post a few for you? As you know, your less than charitable remarks have been bolded for easy review.

My suggestion to you is to back off.
 
“Mormons will tell you they feel the Holy Spirit. They are wrong, it’s just warm fuzzies.” Big difference, eh? Don’t turn me into an insensitive monster. I love my mormon family and although I disagree with their beliefs, I will defend their right to their faith and their sincere belief in it. That church helped raise my husband to be a wonderful man and amazing husband/father. I can disagree with LDS members respectfully and with an ear that is interested in hearing and understanding their experiences–give me the same courtesy.

Peace,
SJ
But if you equate what they feel to a warm fuzzy it could be insulting to them. If they claim that they are feeling the holy ghost and you claim it is not the holy ghost but a warm fuzzy, well, how do you think that they will react?

Now let me give you an example. When I am sitting in a catholic church I can feel something inside me. Is it the holy spirit which dwells in that church or is it just a warm fuzzy? What do you think it is? I think that it is the holy spirit. But will now tell me that it is actually a warm fuzzy?
 
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