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Hi Everyone,
I’m hoping I can get some advice, prayers, and encouragement…
I am feeling sad and burdened because of conflicts with my extended family. My mom has been sending me text messages ranting about my Dad’s siblings (how they are ungrateful, pretentious, etc… & she would rather not face them).
Early in their marriage, Mom was the breadwinner & Dad’s siblings lived with us successively as they pursued their college degrees & started their work careers. So did Mom’s siblings. As far as I know, they did not contribute to the household expenses.
Fast forward to a few months back. My parents were invited to my cousin’s wedding (after I mentioned to my Aunt & Uncle that they would be in the state around that time of the year). At the last minute, my parents decided not to attend because of an opportunity to speak at a Marriage Renewal. My Mom decided to speak at the Marriage Renewal since they were running for a position in the organization that oversees it & she considers the Marriage Renewal thing their “mission.”
Fast forward to this week, another cousin is scheduled to get married. My parents were again invited. I don’t know how, but word spread that my parents would not attend (even thought they said they would). She said that my Aunt (whose kid got married a few months back) told people that they would not be attending. Anyway… My parents fire off a rather angry email to my Dad’s siblings saying they were offended and would rather not attend if they would be treated that way-- Dad’s siblings have been keeping their distance and unfriending them on Facebook in the past year.
Honestly, I feel as though Mom is partly at fault. I told her to just let things slide. I said it might have been a misunderstanding. I told her, just tell them that they would be attending the wedding this week and leave it at that, go to the wedding and keep the peace. Sigh… But at a family gathering in the home of one of Dad’s siblings, Mom felt that she was ignored since she stood at the glass door and no one opened it for her. It wasn’t until Dad was beside her (after parking the car) that a maid opened the door.
This whole thing weighs heavily on me. Mainly because I have to be on the receiving end of Mom’s rants. And also because I am embarrassed by the whole thing. Although, I interact with my cousins and uncles and aunts as though nothing is wrong and I am oblivious to the drama they have with Mom.
I am at my wit’s end. I wish someone could tell me what I can do. I don’t want to distance myself from my Dad’s side of the family. It was tough being at my cousin’s wedding a few months back and being ask where my parents were. I didn’t know how to tell my relatives that my parents decided to go give a talk at a Marriage Renewal weekend instead of attending the wedding.
Sorry about the long post.
Prayers and advice are appreciated.
Thanks.
I’m hoping I can get some advice, prayers, and encouragement…
I am feeling sad and burdened because of conflicts with my extended family. My mom has been sending me text messages ranting about my Dad’s siblings (how they are ungrateful, pretentious, etc… & she would rather not face them).
Early in their marriage, Mom was the breadwinner & Dad’s siblings lived with us successively as they pursued their college degrees & started their work careers. So did Mom’s siblings. As far as I know, they did not contribute to the household expenses.
Fast forward to a few months back. My parents were invited to my cousin’s wedding (after I mentioned to my Aunt & Uncle that they would be in the state around that time of the year). At the last minute, my parents decided not to attend because of an opportunity to speak at a Marriage Renewal. My Mom decided to speak at the Marriage Renewal since they were running for a position in the organization that oversees it & she considers the Marriage Renewal thing their “mission.”
Fast forward to this week, another cousin is scheduled to get married. My parents were again invited. I don’t know how, but word spread that my parents would not attend (even thought they said they would). She said that my Aunt (whose kid got married a few months back) told people that they would not be attending. Anyway… My parents fire off a rather angry email to my Dad’s siblings saying they were offended and would rather not attend if they would be treated that way-- Dad’s siblings have been keeping their distance and unfriending them on Facebook in the past year.
Honestly, I feel as though Mom is partly at fault. I told her to just let things slide. I said it might have been a misunderstanding. I told her, just tell them that they would be attending the wedding this week and leave it at that, go to the wedding and keep the peace. Sigh… But at a family gathering in the home of one of Dad’s siblings, Mom felt that she was ignored since she stood at the glass door and no one opened it for her. It wasn’t until Dad was beside her (after parking the car) that a maid opened the door.
This whole thing weighs heavily on me. Mainly because I have to be on the receiving end of Mom’s rants. And also because I am embarrassed by the whole thing. Although, I interact with my cousins and uncles and aunts as though nothing is wrong and I am oblivious to the drama they have with Mom.
I am at my wit’s end. I wish someone could tell me what I can do. I don’t want to distance myself from my Dad’s side of the family. It was tough being at my cousin’s wedding a few months back and being ask where my parents were. I didn’t know how to tell my relatives that my parents decided to go give a talk at a Marriage Renewal weekend instead of attending the wedding.
Sorry about the long post.
Prayers and advice are appreciated.
Thanks.
She has a habit of digging up the past and giving a list of the wrong & bad things people do to her. She has done that even with me.