Confronting sinful acts

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I’ve recently found out that my mother talks regularly via messenger apps to another man who lives in another city. I don’t know how they met or if they’ve ever met in person. But my mother is married, and I think the other man is too. I don’t believe that anything has happened in person, but photos and videos are exchanged over the phone. If I keep quite about all this and ignore it, am I sinning? Is it a sin to not attempt to correct someone if they are in a state of sin? My family is very happy, and I’m afraid that if I tell my mother or even father about the situation, it could disrupt the whole family and possibly lead to divorce even, which I really don’t want to think about. So is it sinful if I don’t confront someone in a state of sin?
 
Do you know the mans name? What if you just casually ask “Hey mom, how’s Joe (or whomever) doing?!” in front of your dad. However she responds, I’m sure your dad can take it from there.
 
But I don’t necessarily want it to become an open issue and potentially lead to family issues and possibly divorce maybe. I just want to know if I’m sinning if I don’t let anyone know and keep quiet about it?
 
Im sure she is in a state of sin, I’m just wondering if I’m sinning if I don’t confront her about it and the fact that it is a sin.
 
I don’t think so since you don’t have reasonable proof anything inappropriate is going on. But I’m not sure about that. I look forward to seeing what others say. If my husband was messing around (even just regularly talking and texting) another woman, and my kids found out, I’d want to know. It wouldn’t be the kids’ fault if the marriage entered a time of stress afterwards. Who wants to live in a delusional relationship?! Do you think your dad would WANT to know - sin or no sin on your part?
 
@Jono12345, are you the same account as @conor12345? How come you’re not posting with that account?

Perhaps you should talk over your concerns with your Priest, and ask him what he recommends you do.
 
Jono12345 said:
Im sure she is in a state of sin, I’m just wondering if I’m sinning if I don’t confront her about it and the fact that it is a sin.
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You’re sure she’s sinning?! Then why do you want to turn a blind eye? Genuine question. Is it to preserve your own sense of “comfort” from having an intact family?

If you knew your mom had diabetes but she didn’t know it, wouldn’t you WANT to tell her so she could cut back on sugar and get the medicine she needed? It might bust up your comfy concept of having a healthy mom, but isn’t it better for your mom if you take the brave step here??

I have no idea about your sin vs not sin. For me I can’t get past that I think she and your dad deserve to know.
 
It autocorrected my name to Connor when I typed it in, but yes, I am the same account
 
Well I presumed it was a sin. Is it a sin to exchange inappropriate pictures and videos? I just presumed it was? What is the real answer?
 
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Well I presumed it was a sin. Is it a sin to exchange inappropriate pictures and videos? I just presumed it was? What is the real answer?
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You never said anything about the pictures being inappropriate. And how do you know the content of the pictures and videos?
 
I have checked my mothers phone and seen them first hand. Sorry, I meant to state that they were inappropriate
 
Jono12345 said:
I have checked my mothers phone and seen them first hand. Sorry, I meant to state that they were inappropriate
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Forgetting any sin of your mother’s for a moment, what in heaven’s name were you doing with your mother’s phone?
 
Our family is an open family. My mother can check my phone whenever she wants, and my siblings phones as well. My father is also open with his. If the family is open about that, my mother has no right to be secretive about hers and if I’m suspicious about something, there’s no way I can ignore the rule that she herself set.
 
I see what you’re saying with that effective and very relevant example. But you must understand the position I’m in and the decision I have to inevitably make. Either confront my mother directly, or confront my father who definitely could never take the issue well
 
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I’m sorry, I’m not saying
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That’s fine. I’m assuming from the fact that your mother checks your phone, you are a minor. This doesn’t give you the right to check her phone - she is in a position of authority over you, not the other way around. You need to stop checking her phone.

Talk to your Priest and get his advice. You’re in a terrible situation at the minute, and I’m sorry for that.
 
I do respect the suggestion of consulting the priest, I will consider that
 
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