Confronting sinful acts

[Jono12345]

Thank you for your suggestions and views on the matter. I appreciate the concern and advise. But I’ve already seen what I’ve seen, and there’s no going back now. Yes, maybe I should have kept to my own, but if I suspected an issue I couldn’t ignore it. Now I’m ironically needing to decide whether to ignore and go further with this issue

 

[JulianN]

My mother can check my phone whenever she wants, and my siblings phones as well. My father is also open with his. If the family is open about that, my mother has no right to be secretive about hers

Well, that would only be true if a) you’re not a minor and b) your parents are not paying for the phones they are checking.

If you are a minor, the rules are not the same for you and for your mother. And the person paying for the phone has more rights to view it than the person who simply uses it.

As others have said, you should consult your priest about this.

 

[TheLittleLady]

You are not responsible for your mom’s sins (if they are sins). In my life, I would simply ask mom to go out for coffee and say “Mom, I am concerned about the messages you are exchanging with Joe Schmoe”, I would not accuse her of sin, but let her know I am bothered.

 

[TheLittleLady]

If you mom is exchanging inappropriate photos, and you have found them, you need to own up to either snooping through her things or that they are out for anyone to find.

 

[Jen7]

I think you need to find a trusted adult in your real life and go to them for support and counsel. If you’re a minor this is a huge burden to carry no matter what you choose to do. You seem uncomfortable disclosing the issue to either parents and I’m concerned about you carrying this load over the remainder of your life. It also may affect your relationship with your mom for years to come (ie, when your have your own kids one day for example). Also as a minor (esp if you’re considerably under 18) you may have less clear judgement about “inappropriate content” than an adult. I haven’t seen the messages so i don’t know. Please turn to someone you trust in real life and get some understanding, compassion, advise, and support on your side. We can’t fully give that to you over the internet.

 

[QwertyGirl]

Do you know the mans name? What if you just casually ask “Hey mom, how’s Joe (or whomever) doing?!” in front of your dad. However she responds, I’m sure your dad can take it from there.

Terrible suggestion.

 

[Retsel]

If I keep [quiet] about all this and ignore it, am I sinning?

I’ll leave the question of sin or not to others.

I would be concerned about protecting my Mother from one of the most disastrous decisions she could ever make.

Tell her privately what you know and do not tell anyone else.

Listen to her reply. If she becomes defensive with a pop-culture’s “snooping” darling just listen, nod your head and walk away.

 

[QwertyGirl]

Is anyone else uncomfortable with the content of this thread? I don’t think it is appropriate for internet strangers to be giving a minor advice on such a serious subject.

Perhaps the moderators should close the thread?

OP, find a trusted adult in your life (preferable one you aren’t related to…perhaps a priest) who can direct you appropriately.

 

[Lou2U]

Is anyone else uncomfortable with the content of this thread? I don’t think it is appropriate for internet strangers to be giving a minor advice on such a serious subject.

Perhaps the moderators should close the thread?

OP, find a trusted adult in your life (preferable one you aren’t related to…perhaps a priest) who can direct you appropriately.

I agree. It’s way above our paygrade to try and advise a minor on what is best to do here, other than to say speak to a trusted adult. This is a really terrible burden for the OP to carry, and I don’t want them to have more undue pressure piled on as to what they should do.