Confused about gay adoption. Help?

[Benadam]

Hey, woah woah, wait, what about fathers getting full custody? It happens in many cases, and rightly so, I should add. (I’m talking any father, regardless of sexual orientation)

I am one of those dads. Not to change the subject but my fatherhood is violated if my child can be legally murdered in the womb.

 

[kage_ar]

Take every church/faith community congretation in the USA. If ONE FAMILY from each of those congregations would take in one child, there would be no kids left in foster care.

All that needs to happen is for Christians to start acting like Christians, and there would be no need for homesexuals to adopt anyone.

 

[Benadam]

I think the main problem is that the ideal homosexual couple is being compared to the worst of heterosexual situations.

If so many “bad” adoptive or foster heterosexual couples are in the system, then how many “bad” homosexual couples will get into the system?

The thing to do is to get better heterosexual foster parents, *not *to allow people who already have a problematic background into the system.

Not to mention that homosexual bonds are inherently unstable. Few and far between are same sex couples that overcome the evolution of mental crisis that accompanies involuntary movements of a body seeking improper stimuli.

 

[OraLabora]

Not to mention that homosexual bonds are inherently unstable. Few and far between are same sex couples that overcome the evolution of mental crisis that accompanies involuntary movements of a body seeking improper stimuli.

With 50% or so of heterosexual marriages ending in divorce, I am not so sure that heterosexual relationships are any more stable…

I was adopted by heterosexual parents as an infant in the 1950s.

My adoptive father was a great father who had the misfortune of dying too soon.

My adoptive mother… was not so great and I suffer the scars to this day.

The ideal is always a loving father and mother. But we live in a fallen world, and often fall short of the ideal.

 

[Abu]

po18guy
Amen. God, through created nature, required that two opposite parents contribute to conception. Male/female conception is the beginning of the individual life cycle, and this same male/female parentage is how the remainder of life is intended to follow. To fundamentally alter this because of a currently fashionable sense of “justice” does a disservice not only to the child, but also to the same-sex parents by accommodating and enabling their disordered lifestyle. We are called to live the truth and to lead others to the truth, as unpalatable as it may be to us.

Love demands no less.
Very well put and factual.

Benadam
Not to mention that homosexual bonds are inherently unstable. Few and far between are same sex couples that overcome the evolution of mental crisis that accompanies involuntary movements of a body seeking improper stimuli.

Exactly

No Catholic can support the idea of lesbian or homosexual “partners” possessing a child. Those who “are not sure” need to understand that Christ gave us His Church with His authority and that we doubt or ignore Her teaching to our own destruction.

CCC #2358 “This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial.”
We should assist those with this problem to consider the great movements such as *Courage *and Encourage that offer love and compassion to those in need.

 

[shondrea]

No Catholic can support the idea of lesbian or homosexual “partners” possessing a child.

What of one of the partners own biological child? I may not support gay adoption, but i also certainly don’t support ripping children from their mother’s arms either.

 

[Abu]

In the context of the original post the teaching is factual. As has been pointed out, lesbianism and homosexuality are disorders and unnatural. Those who are active promote the life-style thus gravely harming society.

Inability to support does not mean persecution – this is also forbidden by Christ’s Church. So where there is such an unnatural association prudence needs to be exercised in each case, for the good of the child, just as it should be where any child is in an unsatisfactory situation.

No one has suggested “ripping children from their mothers’ arms.”

 

[Alexia2000]

I don’t think the problem is the fact that we have two men or two women. The Church has many cases where childreen were educated by men only community or women (nuns) only community. Even though even in these cases we had some abuses (including sexual abuse) how much sexual and emotional abuse can we have for people who proffess and a different view of reality?

The problem here is that the child will certainly pick up a disordered world view. And this is itself an abuse.

Well, this is what I think

I disagree; same-gender attraction is not a lifestyle choice; it is the way one is

My niece, who has spent a lot of time with us, has just turned 17 and now has a boyfriend. She is completely happy that I live with another woman, but that is not who she is. BTW, she thinks we are too strict about moral values; when she was younger, she was not permitted to stay out late, watch inappropriate televisions programs or movies, wear garments which were revealing, etc, etc

 

[Abu]

CCC #2358 “This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial.”
We should assist those with this problem to consider the great movements such as *Courage *and *Encourage *that offer love and compassion to those in need.

Reality matters:
“Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.” (CC #2359).