Update…I am not happy about admitting this because usually I am persistent and never quit. In this case she has made it quite clear we will not be doing any thing to try and repair our marriage. Although I am sad I have been taking in by Gods loving arms and he has comforted me. I gave it my best shot and I am not allowing her to keep having control over me I will allow that to be Gods job. I am not quite sure I would want her back knowing she fell in love with another guy while being married and not quite sure it wouldn’t happen time and again. Thank you for your prayers!!!