Confused much? Please help!

[SacredHeartFan]

I think you should take down your bit about wanting to be a Priest. You are not called to be a Priest! I am celibate, and know that if God is calling you, it is not that hard to be celibate!

Sorry that I’m going off on this rant, but you have no, absolutly NO room, to decide what is and what is not Gods will for my life. That is a matter between God and myself. There are plenty, of amazing priests that stuggle with same sex attractions and lets not forget that the heterosexual priests have commited just as many terrible deeds as the ones with same sex attractions. So once again, let me reiterate, you have NO room to decide what is and what is not Gods will for me nor anyone else! Thank you.

 

[JamesAnthony]

How is it going with you ?

 

[raaucoin]

My brother, Just came across this thread. Yes How are you?

I’m not far away from you. Living on West Bank of New Orleans, born and raised in Houma. I know Louisiana small Catholic town experience.

You started this thread some time ago. But I’ll respond based on what grabbed my attention. Hope its helpful but pray your better off now. —It was your desperate plea for a response that grabbed me.
Three or 4 yrs. ago (the older I get, the faster time flies and the harder to keep track!!) I turned my little lesbian life back over to God. After almost 30 yrs. I was also abused as a kid.( though I’m not saying that automatically makes folks decide they’re gay)

The bottom line is that Jesus loves you and is waiting for you to quit trying to do this on your own. And reaching out to forums will give you much advice some good and some from way out in left field. Start first with Jesus. If you haven’t been, He’s waiting in the confessional for you and wants to give ya some grace that will strengthen you to be not only the kind of man He wants you to be, but the kind of man YOU want you to be.

Counseling will be helpful, but take it from me. Be carefull where you get it. Call your diocese to find what’s available in the way of sound Catholic therapy.

The evil one is terrified that you were ready and willing to serve the Lord. He’s gonna throw up all kinds of temptation internal and external to deter you. We have entered Holy Week again. Take your anguish to our Lord agonizing in the garden. Let him carry your pain, humiliation, sin, and struggle on through His passion, death, and into the tomb. There He will Rise and return to you the transforming Power of His Ressurection. He makes all things new.—Now, Boy can we put ourselves in a pickle!! I’ve done it too! Most people’s worst sins are hidden in the depths of their hearts. Some of us are to good for that!! We put ours out there for everyone to see or know about!! But remember the love and compassion of Jesus with the woman caught in sin. That Mercy and forgiveness is available to us too.
Now, except in north Louisiana perhaps, we are blessed with a Church in almost every neighborhood in La. Find another one. Our actions have consequences. Maybe for now, for you, that means you leave your home parish. Gonzales, Donaldsonville, Denim springs, or whereever. No need to think about being active somewhere in a bunch of ministries. Right now you just need somewhere to worship and sit a while to let the Lord heal you.-- I did this. I was welcomed, I shared only enogh to say I had been away but was trying to find my way back. Sit in the vicenity of the little old Ladies. Miracles happen when they get together and pray. And I’ll be praying for you as well.

 

[GraceDK]

Ok so heres the run-down of my story:
Last year I “came out” to the world as a gay man. I attempted to keep faith and sexuality bound together. That didnt happen so I dropped faith completely. Then, over the summer I was sent on a youth trip to a Stuebenville Youth Conference and had a moving and powerful experience with the Eucharist. I was faithfully practicing for about a month and fell back into the “gay” image. As it progress, stated bluntly, I became a whore. I slept with two guys. Then a non-denominational friend of mine invited me to her Church and a retreat. So I went. I found God and repented. I was Christian for about, ooohhhh lets say, two weeks. Then I was gay again. This time slept with four guys. Now I’m here. Broken-hearted, rejected by my home parish church, ridiculed at my school, and overall ashamed of my existance. What now? I know everyone on here is going to say “Go to confession!” But after everything I have done that doesnt seem like enough! I miss the Church alot. It gave me comfort. But I felt the need for love so I followed my desires and labled myself gay. Now I’m lost, hurt, confused, and angry. Help?

Brother.

You are a chosen one.
Do not profane yourself by speaking of yourself like dirt.
Jesus died for you, and He created you with the knowledge of the trials and hurts you would cause yourself, and how you would triumph with Him.

Your sins do not define you. You are not the sum of your sins, you are the sum of the Fathers Love for you. Understand?
He is always with you. He doesn’t want you to hurt yourself. He has nothing to do with the causes of your suffering. He is your unconditional father. He wants you. He sees you.

We are all in the same boat… all of us have sinned and lost the glory of God and each day we walk our own ways, we are the scattered sheep who run from the Green Tree, the Shepherd crucified.
But the good news is

He is our justification. “God proves His Love for us therein that He died for us while we were still sinners”. You don’t earn nothing, okay? He is our justification.

If you have sinned, you fit perfectly into our church. The one who says he has no sin is a liar, says the apostle John. The thing that defines a Christian is not that we dont fall, but how we get up after that and keep fighting the good fight. The lie of the devil goes like this: You failed… you don’t belong in the Church. Wrong. Because you fail you belong in the church. You go to the hospital when you need medicine. We all suffer the sickness of sin, thats why we need the grace from the sacraments to strengthen us and make us strong.

Find a really good priest, confess to him, talk to him on a regular basis, and get your hands on this book:

“Shame and Attachment Loss” by Joseph J. Nicolosi Ph.D.

Hugs and kisses to you

 

[GraceDK]

I already know the problem. When I was younger, two of my older cousins took advantage of me sexually. Both guys. That conitnued for about six years. The only way I can think to fix it would be to get laid by a girl. But that would be just as bad wouldnt it? So I’m stuck in this place. There is no way out that I can possibly see.

Do you remember if you had ssa tendencies before the abuse began.
I would assume not, and that your ssa is an effect of the abuse. The statistics that make this connection are very high…

Anyway, I think you should read the book I linked… and maybe you can contact the author to help you.

 

[sea_krait]

I don’t know if anybody has recommended this to you yet, but it certainly helped save me from a (very) consuming habit of lust.

The Rosary

It’s profoundly beautiful, comes with many promises and benefits, which include a reduction and conquering of sin and vice – and it works.

newadvent.org/images/rosary.pdf
how-to-pray-the-rosary-everyday.com/index.html
rosary-center.org/secret.htm

rosary-center.org/joyful.htm
rosary-center.org/sorrow.htm
rosary-center.org/luminous.htm
rosary-center.org/glorious.htm

Edit: I skipped a couple of pages of this conversation without reading all that people are saying, so my post may seem a little out of place, but oh well…I guess.

 

[puzzleannie]

Okt. I was faithfully practicing for about a month and fell back into the “gay” image. As it progress, stated bluntly, I became a whore. I slept with two guys. Th

…I was Christian for about, ooohhhh lets say, two weeks. Then I was gay again. This time slept with four guys.

…But I felt the need for love so I followed my desires and labled myself gay. Now I’m lost, hurt, confused, and angry. Help?

these statements do not compute, they are mutually exclusive

no matter what one’s sexual orientation the way to find love is not to behave in this way so “I was looking for love in all the wrong places” is not an explanation for your choices.

you already know the answer, that the orientation is not a sin, but the behavior certainly is, and the damage you have acknowledged is one proof of that even if you did not know God’s law and church teaching on the matter.

Deal with the damage to your self image that results in promiscuous behavior, and that leads you to identify yourself solely in terms of your sexual orientation, negating all other aspects of your personality and identity. You cannot do this alone, none of us can battle these urges to sin on our own. The only way as that which Christ has given us, his sacraments. Get to the root of the issues behind the promiscuity, which would be violently damaging to your soul, body and psyche even if the contacts were heterosexual.

How do you mean “rejected by your parish?” Did the priest refuse to hear your confession? Did he stand up in the pulpit and kick you out?

how do you mean being object of ridicule by others? why have you asked their opinion, or told them of your activities especially if they have no right to that knowledge?

people are not gay one day and straight the next.
people are not holy one day and sinners the next, either.