Confused (scared)

[LSK]

anne1234:

I’m just so sad all the time, getting up to drink some coffee, come online, and go back to bed to cry and sleep until 5pm.

I’m sorry… I just feel so alone.

You are not alone. You are a beautiful child of God, a bride of Christ and you have a Heavenly Mother that adores you.

And…you gots all of us too!

 

[Ruthie]

Anne, dear, I have a suggestion that’s somewhere in the middle. It’s only applicable if you think it was unfair of your father to leave his money as he did. (It was HIS money, and he had the right to do what he wanted with it.)

I don’t know if you have them, perhaps in your tax tecords? See if you can gather reciepts for what you spent on your father’s care. Add in non-medical expenses such as furniture, loss of income, and a wage for yourself equivalent to what in-home care would have cost.

Subtract that from the total amount your father left to you and your sister.

Divide the result in two, and offer her the difference, if any.

I tend to agree with those that say you owe her nothing beyond what your father left her.

… You could just say that you’ll remember her in your will - but not say how!

 

[anne1234]

Thanks Ruthie… you made me smile tonight and I really needed that

I have been having an imaginary conversation in my head with my sister (I’m sure everyone has had these types on conversations with various people)…

…anyway, one thing I tell her is what you said in your post and…

**" I would do exactly what YOU would do with the will if you were left the bulk and I wasn’t" **

hahaha… we know what that is… I know, I can be such a little devil at times

thanks for the reply Ruthie

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p.s. I have ALL receipts of EVERYTHING pertaining to my dad when he was living with me and up until the day he died.
My attorney is quite impressed btw