Confusing Relationship

[krackatoa]

Oh… as for the comment about suicidal… He isn’t really suicidal-- He’s said he would never do that. He just says he has nothing to live for but me. Partly unconsciously manipulative, maybe. Sign of major depression, definitely. I need to stress more he needs to get help. I do stress it… but I need to stress it more. With proper help to get over the depression, he’ll do better with purpose in life, a job, etc. One thing at a time.

 

[EnglishTeacher]

I agree with the poster who said that you should discontinue living together, regardless of whether you continue the relationship. There is just nothing healthy about the situation. You need the space that separate living quarters would help create. That way, you can take on more of a healthy, appropriate “girlfriend” role, as opposed to filling in as his mother or nurse.

I’m not suggesting immediately kicking him out the door, since it sounds like he currently doesn’t have a place to go; but other arrangements need to be put in place very soon, for your own mental and spiritual wellbeing and his.