Confusion about confession

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I went to daily mass today and after mass I asked the priest if he would hear my confession, because I wanted to unburden myself of some things that were weighing down on me. He said he did’nt have time to hear my confession but he would give me absolution, at which point he recited the formula for absolution. Is this legit, or do I need to go to another priest who had the time to listen to me. Your (name removed by moderator)ut would be most appreciated. Tom
 
I’d go to another priest. What this one did was done merely for his convenience not because you both were on a sinking ship or a falling airplane–about to face death, which is the only condition under which a priest is supposed to give absolution without hearing confession first.
 
Actually his abuse is on the level of sacrelige. It is analogous to saying toa congregation that he didn’t have time to say the whole mass so he would just say the words of institution over a host and some wine. Both instances are invalid.
 
I agree with the others you have posted their replys, what this priest did was an abuse of the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

I too, advise you to seek another priest, not so much to seek forgiveness, I think your attempt to confess is an indication of contrition. I advise to seek another priest, because the Sacrament of Reconcilation is so much more than just having sins forgiven and as you stated there were some things that were weighing you down and even if the Absolution you received, was valid, I think the process was inadequate to your spiritual needs.
All Sacraments are suppose to be outward signs of the spiritual reality taking place and I think that sign was missing.
 
Seek out another priest. I think you will feel much better if you do!
 
Priests have the obligation to hear confessions. If they do not have time they can postpone a confession, but I do not believe they can outright turn you down for confession. Regardless, on the the original point. What the priest did in this situation was inappropriate and you should just confess to another priest. You can even mention your experience to him and he will most likely help explain it further than I can.

matthew
 
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Priests have the obligation to hear confessions. If they do not have time they can postpone a confession, but I do not believe they can outright turn you down for confession. Regardless, on the the original point. What the priest did in this situation was inappropriate and you should just confess to another priest. You can even mention your experience to him and he will most likely help explain it further than I can.

matthew
The code of canon law makes it very clear that no one can be denied the sacraments if they spontaniously ask for them and are properly disposed to receive them. To deny a person seeking confession is a grave violation of the natural rights of a person and is just silly. Everyone has time - all things aside going to give the last rites to someone can be postponed.
 
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TomS:
I went to daily mass today and after mass I asked the priest if he would hear my confession, because I wanted to unburden myself of some things that were weighing down on me. He said he did’nt have time to hear my confession but he would give me absolution, at which point he recited the formula for absolution. Is this legit, or do I need to go to another priest who had the time to listen to me. Your (name removed by moderator)ut would be most appreciated. Tom
What in the heck is wrong with the priests in Rochester, NY.
I think we need a massive exorcism right here.
Call it

The Exorcism of Rochester, NY

No kidding here…

Tom, I will not share my confession stories here in Rochester area simply because I hate to relive the horror.
 
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contemplative:
What in the heck is wrong with the priests in Rochester, NY.
I think we need a massive exorcism right here.
Call it

The Exorcism of Rochester, NY

No kidding here…

Tom, I will not share my confession stories here in Rochester area simply because I hate to relive the horror.
Tom, another Rochestarian here. Sorry for your experience.
I have to agree with Contemplative on this request.
Go back to confession with someone different and pour your little heart out.
 
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jrabs:
Tom, another Rochestarian here. Sorry for your experience.
I have to agree with Contemplative on this request.
Go back to confession with someone different and pour your little heart out.
Yes and we need an

Exorcism in Rochester, NY
 
Getting back to the original question, something similar happened to me. I went to make my confession to a priest I did not know instead of my ususal confessor (just more convenient at the time). Because I am a convert I read a lot, and my book about confession says to say a little about yourself first, just to put your confession in a context, so I started by saying that I was having a lot of doubts about the Church, and had (as well as going to Mass etc) attended a few services at the Unitarian Church. Well, twenty minutes later he was still going on about this, and had even threatened not to give me absolution if I didn’t agree not to go again! I said how could it be sinful to have genuine doubts, and that I hadn’t realised it was a sin at all before I’d come into the confessional. Eventually we compromised, and I agreed I would try not to go again. But the thing is, I asked him (unbelievingly) if this was a “mortal” sin then, and he said (reluctantly) “no”, so even if it had been a sin, it wasn’t one that needed to be absolved by a priest!!
The funniest bit though was at the end. I had gone in the “normal” half hour “confession period” and had been in there twenty minutes. I could tell he was getting ready to wind things up, and so said “But I haven’t told you my real sins yet!!” and he said “There isn’t time, but the absolution will cover them as well”.
I discussed this later with my usual confessor, who said that though irregular, the absolution was ok, but who was very surprised at the threat to deny me absolution. He said when he was at seminary they were taught that this was such a serious thing to do that if you ever found yourself doing it more than once, you should look to yourself and see where you were going wrong.
In mitiagtion though, I do still like the priest who did it (he did say what he did in a very sincere and caring way), and I found out that later that he had only recently been ordained.
 
Very wierd; I’d seek out another priest. Ours is always on the go, but he’ll schedule an appointment for confession, not just rush us out the door!
 
Confession makes me nervous as can be. Am I the one one who would honestly love to be given absolution without actually having to confess my sins??? :o
 
There seems to be some confusion about confession IMHO, here.

The original question poses an act the Priest did, which in my mind short-changed you.

The reason the Church has changed the “official” name of the Sacrament to Reconciliation (although Confession is certainly accepted, not the point I am trying to make) is because the real focus of the sacrament is communication to God, through which we are Reconciled with Him as our sins are cleansed. This communication and reconciliation has to include our chance to say “I am sorry, God!”, which is the act of contrition.

It’s not something we can “mail in” and get our souls cleansed. It is an act of Love between us and God. That’s why the graces returned from Him are so profound.

When you think about this bigger picture of Reconciliation, doesn’t that give you a different picture than “Confess and forgive me so I can be on my way, and could I possibly just get the forgiveness and be done with it?” 😃
 
A friend of mine had a similar experience. He was given absolution on the spot, but told to come within the next few days to confess his sins to the same priest.

As it turned out, he was unable to do so, and went to confession a few weeks later with a different priest.

I argued that the nature of his absolution was conditional, and since he did not fulfill the condition of returning to the priest, that his (first) absolution was invalid. This annoyed my friend a bit, but it seems to me theologically correct. Am I right?
 
I agree - it was conditional and if he couldn’t return to the same priest he should have explained that to him. I hate to say it, but I feel too that the absolution was invalid. I was not given a “condition” quite so clearly, but my “penance” included contacting my usual spiritual director/confessor asap, which I did the same day.
 
But if, as some above argue, such an “instant absolution” cannot be valid at all, then there was no absolution, conditional or otherwise.

My feeling is that such an absolution is irregular, perhaps even illicit, but still valid.

Can anyone provide documentation to support the claim that these “instant absolutions” are either valid or invalid?
 
As I said in an earlier post, my spiritual director (a priest) felt that, though unusual and possibly “irregular” the absolution was valid - and I have never caught him out yet with regard to Church teaching. For him the important thing seemed to be my intention at the time, which was to confess properly, and not on how the priest concerned actually acted. I did check this out quite thoroughly because, like an earlier poster, there were some things I really didn’t want to have to confess and was glad I had not had to!! And as I can’t remember them now (or only very generally) and I have been to confession since, I expect they have been covered anyhow - many of them were “repetitive sins”.
 
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I went to daily mass today and after mass I asked the priest if he would hear my confession, because I wanted to unburden myself of some things that were weighing down on me. He said he did’nt have time to hear my confession but he would give me absolution, at which point he recited the formula for absolution. Is this legit, or do I need to go to another priest who had the time to listen to me. Your (name removed by moderator)ut would be most appreciated. Tom
Please seek the counsil of another Priest. There should not be any “drive through” confessions. Confession to a priest is a necessary part of the sacrament of Penance.
 
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