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Ok a few months ago I went to a very adult chat site, sorry but I was very lonely at the time. I went to the site intending to sin, I was about to give up on this whole God thing, just at a very low point in my life. So I got to talking with a couple men there, I am a lady. At first, the talk was all sexual, and I gave in to self gratification, I know that part is sinfull, and I have stopped taking communion, since going to this place.
But i was drawn to two men in particular, we started talking almost every day, Like I said at first the talk was all sexual, but then I asked these two, for pictures of there faces. The pictures at the website are almost never of faces. But these two men agreed, but only over e-mail. They tell me I am different from the other girls at the site.
The talk has changed, now we talk about life, They live in england, and I in California, Most of our talk now is of our jobs, the weather, what movies we like, I have come to see these men as lonely, stressed, one of them is losing his father to illness, we had a long conversation about his dad, just letting him vent a bit.
I no longer feel the need to self gratify, because I see thes men not as sexual, but lonely, and in need of someone to talk to, just as I am needing someone to talk to.
so I am asking could God have sent me to this place, not a place I normally would go to, to help these men. Or should I run from this, and I know about being careful on the internet, and am not planning any trips to england.
 
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so I am asking could God have sent me to this place, not a place I normally would go to, to help these men. Or should I run from this, and I know about being careful on the internet, and am not planning any trips to england.
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God doesn’t lead us in to sin. But He can certainly use sin and bad situations to bring about good. He may have allowed your poor choices to bring about some good.

You should run from that website, but not necessarily from the friends you made there. Of course be careful…and don’t go to England…ever (the weather is miserable anyway)…and don’t go back to that website, even with good intentions…but if your correspondence with these men is friendly and helpful, and does not lead you or them to further sin, then there’s nothing wrong with it. But you need to be careful. Self-gratification is not a sin to take lightly, and it may be better for you to cut yourself off from anything associated with it. I’d suggest discussion this with a priest.
 
tonild said:
Sorry if this gets offensive. or long

Ok a few months ago I went to a very adult chat site, sorry but I was very lonely at the time. I went to the site intending to sin, I was about to give up on this whole God thing, just at a very low point in my life. So I got to talking with a couple men there, I am a lady. At first, the talk was all sexual, and I gave in to self gratification, I know that part is sinfull, and I have stopped taking communion, since going to this place.
But i was drawn to two men in particular, we started talking almost every day, Like I said at first the talk was all sexual, but then I asked these two, for pictures of there faces. The pictures at the website are almost never of faces. But these two men agreed, but only over e-mail. They tell me I am different from the other girls at the site.
The talk has changed, now we talk about life, They live in england, and I in California, Most of our talk now is of our jobs, the weather, what movies we like, I have come to see these men as lonely, stressed, one of them is losing his father to illness, we had a long conversation about his dad, just letting him vent a bit.
I no longer feel the need to self gratify, because I see thes men not as sexual, but lonely, and in need of someone to talk to, just as I am needing someone to talk to.
so I am asking could God have sent me to this place, not a place I normally would go to, to help these men. Or should I run from this, and I know about being careful on the internet, and am not planning any trips to england.
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Pray for your friends and perhaps remain in contact with them, but use due caution and don’t let your emotion get the best of you. **Stay away **from that website and come back to the Sacraments. NO ONE love you more than God and He yearns to shower His Mercy upon you.

Feel free to PM me whenever.
 
I doubt that you would be “sent” to this website to help these men. You don’t know that they are who they say they are. Anyone can make up stories online and their stories can be made up to get your sympathy. I would disengage from this and don’t have further contact.
 
I agree with Sunbreak in that I don’t believe God would send you to an adult chatroom. Also, you could be getting yourself involved in a “Catfish” situation. Most likely, the individuals with whom you are corresponding are looking for your vulnerabilities. They may try to learn about you personally, they may eventually try to learn about you financially. Most likely, they will eventually exploit you. In a sense, they already have with the trash talk and who knows what else.

You can’t assume they are being truthful about anything, nor can you assume that the pictures they sent are genuine. It is the internet, after all.

There are better ways to meet men, and there are better men to meet! 🙂
 
thank you all, I have left the website, but the one guy I was witing to also left, and we have skyped, with clothes on, So we are writing each other over e-mail, and his father really is dying. I am praying for the guy. It has become more of a brother sister thing, rather then lovers.
 
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