Conquered Impurity? How did you do it?

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As someone who is waging the battle against impure acts, I have received a lot of insight, and good advice, and prayers from others in CAF. Most of us in these “conversations” continue to struggle, and sometimes fall, even as we help and pray for our brothers and sisters and receive their help and prayers in return.

I would like to ask those of you who have won the battle - let’s say, have not committed an impure act in 3 years or more: How did you do it? I know it would be inspiring to me and to others to know from real peoples’ experience that there are those who have actually attained long-term success against this vice and that real victory is possible. (Obviously, we know victory is possible with God, but I think it would mean a lot to be able to read some first-person accounts on CAF).

Thank you, and God Bless!

RonF
 
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The Rosary… 👍
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Ditto. Say the whole rosary every day just before you go to bed. In addition, every time an erotic thought creeps into your mind, say to yourself “Get away from me satan!” followed by “Lord, have mercy on me, a sinner”. You will find out this works. If you can control and/or eradicate erotic thoughts from your mind, you will find it easy to keep away from impurity. Each day you should thank the Blessed Virgin for your success in being strong.
 
I can’t say it’s been 3 years. More like 6 months for me. I was away from the church for 40 years. You name it, I was first in line. I was called back this past Ash Wednesday. I did 40 years of confessions to 2 priest. That was my start. Doing so didn’t stop all actions, thoughts, or sexual vices. The Rosary helped. I’ve prayed the Rosary daily since. I prayed to Jesus, the Holy Spirit, Mary, novenas to the saints. Mary led me to the Brown Scapular. I did research on the Brown Scapular. I bought one and got invested. I continued to pray the Rosary daily. I keep novenas going on to several saints. With the graces of the Holy Rosary, the Brown Scapular, and the Blessed Virgin Mary, Impurities have been Conquered to a point I don’t even think about them any longer. It’s like I have no will or desire to sin for pleasure any longer.

The Blessed Virgin Mary + The Holy Rosary + The Brown Scapular = Sinless-nest

I get caught in stupid sins. Like not reading the bulletin for mass time changes. That’s happened to me twice lately. Sins of stupidity. Not sins of the flesh, or other Impurities.
 
RonF said:
As someone who is waging the battle against impure acts, I have received a lot of insight, and good advice, and prayers from others in CAF. Most of us in these “conversations” continue to struggle, and sometimes fall, even as we help and pray for our brothers and sisters and receive their help and prayers in return.

I would like to ask those of you who have won the battle - let’s say, have not committed an impure act in 3 years or more: How did you do it? I know it would be inspiring to me and to others to know from real peoples’ experience that there are those who have actually attained long-term success against this vice and that real victory is possible. (Obviously, we know victory is possible with God, but I think it would mean a lot to be able to read some first-person accounts on CAF).

Thank you, and God Bless!

RonF
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Went to hell and back. And then quit cold turkey when I realized that I was quickly approaching a spiritual and physical dead end. But it would have been impossible without the sacraments, especially the sacrament of reconciliation. The road to recovery was very painful from a physical and mental standpoint (the withdrawal effects from sexual addiction can rival those of powerful narcotics) but without the spiritual healing and strength that came from the sacrament of reconciliation, it would have been impossible and would have probably ended in self-despair and suicide.

At one key point in my struggle I remember stumbling upon Fulton Sheen’s book, Lift Up Your Heart: A Guide to Spiritual Peace which is a must read for anyone struggling with sins of the flesh. It was an intellectual and psychological turning point.

I remember praying the Rosary like I never prayed before. I remember going to Perpetual Adoration and praying for help. And I remember attending Divine Mercy Sunday services. All these things were spiritual turning points.
 
I’m not certain if you’re seeking advice with addictions to such, or simply struggling as most people do while trying to live God’s way…
I believe you meant more as an addiction, but trust me, it’s a struggle for almost everyone given certain circumstances… It’s a struggle.
I have never really struggled with it as an addiction, but being human, the choice, etc was difficult many times as well as friends poking fun at you for your decision. . . Which still occurs. You learn how to deal with that. 😃

This may not be helpful, but it’s honest, simple and straightforward…
When I decided, the only truly, helpful things were trying to avoid situations where I would be tempted, limiting or no alcohol, ( I would suggest no alcohol to be successful 🙂 ) Also, learning / practicing to say to myself- would God approve?

May not sound like much, but has been successful!
It is possible!
 
Whenever an impure thought comes to me, I always think of Jesus and His Strength puts the temptation out of my reach. If you say His Name, even if only in your heart, it is easier to fight against a temptation.
God bless all who are fighting against this difficult addiction to overcome!
 
I have been free of porn and impure acts for 4+ years. Confession and humility were key for me

I am not talking about humiliation, but humility - a clear understanding of who God is and who I compared to and in relation to God.

Only when one understands who God really is and who they are in relation, only then will they love God more than themself. One can have a burning desire and feeling of love for God but still love themselves more, be unwilling to do what God desires and continue to satisfy themself. Once one comes to the realization of the proper order of magnitued between God and self, then one will be willing to please God and not self.

That and confession.

-Tim-
 
RonF said:
I would like to ask those of you who have won the battle - let’s say, have not committed an impure act in 3 years or more: How did you do it?
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Not me but I am better than this time last year and much better than this time two years ago.
 
Eventually my marriage got so strong I had no need for outside excitement. Why dream about hamburger when there is filet at home?

Having wonderful children together helped, too. It helped me comprehend a lot about male/female roles, and how to love in a very profound way that is not necessarily sexual.

Alan
 
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…And did I mention Mary? 😉 Ask her for the grace of purity and PRAY! She never fails to keep her Word.
 
Thank you all for the great responses. I especially appreciate the many suggestions that I lean heavily on what the Church offers us, and to go to our Blessed Mother and pray the Rosary. I am pleased to say that I prayed my first Rosary today - the Sorrowful Mysteries. (I am in RCIA and so I am a newbie).

God Bless you all, and thank you. If anyone else would like to respond to my question, I would love to read your contributions.
 
I really don’t know how or when it happen, but praying the rosary did it.

Also (and most important), do not put yourself in the position to fail.

I know if I even start to visit a questionable website, it’ll all go down hill.
 
I’m surprised no one has mentioned the most common advice saints and confessors throughout the ages have given for this problem: fast (and pray). By tempering appetites in one area of life, it is easier to grow in virtue of purity because you are learning self-control. When you deny yourself worldly goods (food), you place your body at the service of your will - not the other way around as with impurity.

The Rosary is also critical because it is a source of so much Divine grace.
 
Grace is God’s strength. Prayer begets grace. The Rosary is the prayer
of Mary, most pure, most chaste. The Miraculous Medal is her sign of
her promise to give GREAT graces. These never fail when Mary is asked
for a GREAT grace that of purity and integrety. It is just that simple.
 
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