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“An unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and he is divided. An unmarried woman or a virgin is anxious about the things of the Lord, so that she may be holy in both body and spirit. A married woman, on the other hand, is anxious about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. I am telling you this for your own benefit, not ti impose a restraint upon you, but for the sake of propriety and adherence to the Lord without distraction.” 1 Cor 7:33-35
I do find some truth in what St. Paul is saying. It is a great argument for while priests should not marry, moreover for traditional religious orders with complete habbits. However, I find that the way I view things, if I marry, I would be loving Christ through loving my spouse in much of the same way how as serving any other human being I am serving God. The same with children I may have. How can I say my heart would be divided? Perhaps there is more temptation for it to become divided. YOu don’t want to confuse your spouse with God and there is greater temptation to become worldly and to be concerned with your appearence and what not.
I just can’t imagine me growing the closest I could to God in religious life. I do well spiritually when I have a good leader to inspire me and call me on and when I’m teaching the faith to others and realize that I need to set a good example to those who are directly looking at me. I long to be a mother and I can’t think think of any greater oppertunity to unite your suffering with Christ than to unit with it in labor pains. Maybe I’m being a bit over-romatnic with the whole labor pains thing, but my focal point would have to be on the Cruxifiction. It has such powerful potential for being a time of great prayer and contemplation on the meaning of the human condition and on Christ’s suffering death and ressurection.
But thinking of this, I just can’t fathom how absolute it is that a wife’s heart is divided between God and the world. The two lives need to be one. I want to marry to serve God in the family and I just can’t think its something that would distract me of divide me against God.
Yet, it is the bible? Must I take it that it is absolute, that for everyone it will divide them. Moreover, I don’t feel as a single person that if there would be division in my heart that it is anymore than I experience now as I do long for marriage and isn’t longing for marriage longing for something of this world?
Paul tells those who are single to not look for a spouse, but he also says something about considering the current times.
I will say that I do have anxiety about it ever happening and I find myself uncomfortable about praying for a spouse but instead pray for God’s will. I can’t helpt feelling that my heart is so misplaced that I can’t trust what it longs for.
I do find some truth in what St. Paul is saying. It is a great argument for while priests should not marry, moreover for traditional religious orders with complete habbits. However, I find that the way I view things, if I marry, I would be loving Christ through loving my spouse in much of the same way how as serving any other human being I am serving God. The same with children I may have. How can I say my heart would be divided? Perhaps there is more temptation for it to become divided. YOu don’t want to confuse your spouse with God and there is greater temptation to become worldly and to be concerned with your appearence and what not.
I just can’t imagine me growing the closest I could to God in religious life. I do well spiritually when I have a good leader to inspire me and call me on and when I’m teaching the faith to others and realize that I need to set a good example to those who are directly looking at me. I long to be a mother and I can’t think think of any greater oppertunity to unite your suffering with Christ than to unit with it in labor pains. Maybe I’m being a bit over-romatnic with the whole labor pains thing, but my focal point would have to be on the Cruxifiction. It has such powerful potential for being a time of great prayer and contemplation on the meaning of the human condition and on Christ’s suffering death and ressurection.
But thinking of this, I just can’t fathom how absolute it is that a wife’s heart is divided between God and the world. The two lives need to be one. I want to marry to serve God in the family and I just can’t think its something that would distract me of divide me against God.
Yet, it is the bible? Must I take it that it is absolute, that for everyone it will divide them. Moreover, I don’t feel as a single person that if there would be division in my heart that it is anymore than I experience now as I do long for marriage and isn’t longing for marriage longing for something of this world?
Paul tells those who are single to not look for a spouse, but he also says something about considering the current times.
I will say that I do have anxiety about it ever happening and I find myself uncomfortable about praying for a spouse but instead pray for God’s will. I can’t helpt feelling that my heart is so misplaced that I can’t trust what it longs for.