It’s been especially hard for us as we are not able to have biological children of our own. We don’t have the heart or the finances to try again anytime soon. But God works in mysterious ways and we hope he makes that later come sooner. 
I am very sorry to hear that you lost two and I do not want to bring up bad feelings but did you adopt raise the children for a while and then the parents come and get them. This scares me very much. I will pray for you to have a young one in your life soon.Private adoption is the cheapest way to go, but also one of the hardest. We’ve lost two darlings so far.
This is a beautiful journey, but also a long and difficult one. So please don’t loose heart if you run into a few bumps along the road. Keep it up and realize the destination is beyond worth the difficult journey traveled to get there.
Please don’t let it scare you, most everyone goes through at least one loss during the adoption process. Many couples loose multiple children. Unfortunately it’s all part of the journey. It’s not made for the weak, but the strong of heart. That being said your wife went through so much to bear the two children you have, would you not endure that same pain again (this time emotionally instead of physically) for your next child? It really is a laborious process. It’s a labor of love!
The second one another family was simply chosen over us. The first was obviously the most difficult, but the second still hurt like a child loss. Thanks for explaining. by the way what were you supposed to be more open about. If its personal please do not answer.Please don’t let it scare you, most everyone goes through at least one loss during the adoption process. Many couples loose multiple children. Unfortunately it’s all part of the journey. It’s not made for the weak, but the strong of heart. That being said your wife went through so much to bear the two children you have, would you not endure that same pain again (this time emotionally instead of physically) for your next child? It really is a laborious process. It’s a labor of love!
Our personal story was that we almost adopted the first one, but the birth father stepped in and prevented from going through because we weren’t “open” enough for him.
There are open adoptions which allow the birth parents certain visiational rights with your child either by phone or in person. And closed adoptions do not allow any child contact with the birth parents, but the adoptive parents can still tell the birth parents how the child is doing. Which is what we chose. The birth father of our first child wanted a completely open adoption, he wanted to be able to see his child everyday if he so desired, which we did not want to do to the poor child, so we lost our first darling because we felt it was the best thing to do for him.
Very good information. Would not want open that could turn into trouble. Would be like raising children in split families. I can see how this would work best for a child.
First of all I am embarassed to say that I do not know how to pm. But I would love any information that I can get. I do not care about country of origin as a Catholic I feel that people belong to God not a country.
I know that a lot of people on here would not agree with me, although many of them have not been personally involved in an open adoption. I personally believe it is the more humane and Christian adoption for all involved. IMHO It is NOT like a child is being raised in 2 separate homes, the kids will get it and understand it better than people give them credit for. I know many birth mothers and adoptive families that would share with you their successes.