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MrsLLD
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My niece is 15, she is not doing well in life. She is failing in school. She has smoked pot, drank, and recently taken some pills.
My sister got pregnant from a still-married man when she was in her 20’s. He is a loser whose dream was a criminal enterprise of selling pot. He spent the last year in jail. Thankfully my sister never married him and they cut ties as a “couple” when my niece was 2. He has been somewhat involved in her life although certainly not as a good guiding influence and has never paid child support.
My sister married a very nice man when my niece was 5 and all seemed to go well. He was a very good dad, loving, involved with school and just nice. I breathed a sigh of relief. She makes bad choices, she had an affair, got caught and everything fell apart. They separated and divorced and since then my niece has just gone downhill. There is no discipline in her life. Year after year it has just gotten worse. No consequences for bad grades, not turning in work. Now what I see is a complete lack of connection between them. I honestly think my sister does not want to be a parent. No discipline is one thing, but now I see a real lack of love. They dont have a family life and I see no hope of my niece getting back on the right track. They dont eat dinner together, my sister does nothing to follow up on school work. She is often left at home alone while my sister works or socializes. I think the child is lonely. I am married with 2 boys 5 and 2. We took my niece with us to the beach this weekend. We spent Sat, Sun and Mon there. My sister picked my niece up from us on her way home from work. She dropped her off at home and went to a cook out. She was away from her child for 3 days and does not even spend the evening with her!
My husband and I are hoping to be in a larger house before September and tonight I told him that I want my niece to come and live with us. This has been on my heart for a long time but we dont have room for her yet. He has known this is what I want and he is open to it. We have always talked of fostering children when my boys get a bit older. My niece needs help now! I hope that she wants to come and live with us and that my sister will agree and allow it. I think she will.
Any thoughts or advise you have will be helpful.
My niece is 15, she is not doing well in life. She is failing in school. She has smoked pot, drank, and recently taken some pills.
My sister got pregnant from a still-married man when she was in her 20’s. He is a loser whose dream was a criminal enterprise of selling pot. He spent the last year in jail. Thankfully my sister never married him and they cut ties as a “couple” when my niece was 2. He has been somewhat involved in her life although certainly not as a good guiding influence and has never paid child support.
My sister married a very nice man when my niece was 5 and all seemed to go well. He was a very good dad, loving, involved with school and just nice. I breathed a sigh of relief. She makes bad choices, she had an affair, got caught and everything fell apart. They separated and divorced and since then my niece has just gone downhill. There is no discipline in her life. Year after year it has just gotten worse. No consequences for bad grades, not turning in work. Now what I see is a complete lack of connection between them. I honestly think my sister does not want to be a parent. No discipline is one thing, but now I see a real lack of love. They dont have a family life and I see no hope of my niece getting back on the right track. They dont eat dinner together, my sister does nothing to follow up on school work. She is often left at home alone while my sister works or socializes. I think the child is lonely. I am married with 2 boys 5 and 2. We took my niece with us to the beach this weekend. We spent Sat, Sun and Mon there. My sister picked my niece up from us on her way home from work. She dropped her off at home and went to a cook out. She was away from her child for 3 days and does not even spend the evening with her!
My husband and I are hoping to be in a larger house before September and tonight I told him that I want my niece to come and live with us. This has been on my heart for a long time but we dont have room for her yet. He has known this is what I want and he is open to it. We have always talked of fostering children when my boys get a bit older. My niece needs help now! I hope that she wants to come and live with us and that my sister will agree and allow it. I think she will.
Any thoughts or advise you have will be helpful.