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I’m sixteen. I’ve been a serious Catholic for my whole life. Recently, I’ve been plagued by an overwhelming skepticism about the Church. I’m solid in my faith in God, but my faith in the Church and tradition is weak. Though I am very educated about the Church, a lot of our practices and beliefs fill me with doubts. Often, they seem worldly and superstitious. When I try to confront my doubts and find answers, I get overwhelmed. I pray that God will take away my doubts but they keep popping up. Can I hope to ever reach a solid, unquestioning faith in the Church? How? I feel like a fake to call myself Catholic when I’m so skeptical.
 
First of all, welcome!

What particular practices and beliefs are you concerned about? What is it about them that makes them seem ‘worldly’ or ‘superstitious’ to you, and why?

You will probably find a lot of topics of concern to you have been discussed on these forums. Do a search for each topic and, if you don’t find useful information that way, start threads of your own - a new thread for each topic please, otherwise it gets confusing 🙂
 
You are doing pretty good, you are 16 and you still want to be a Catholic, you are actually concerned that you want to be a Catholic. It actually matters to you to be a Catholic and you are only 16. You are ahead of the race

Remember this you are Catholic despite what any other Catholic is don’t let them ruin it for you. Being Catholic is the best faith you can choose and the right faith to have. Become a serious Catholic and you will see the many other Catholics who may be causing you doubt are not true Catholics. When you meet or become a true Catholic you will be over joyed in being a Catholic.

I strongly encourage you to take your faith seriously for yourself and yourself alone because you will find a treasure that is better than anything in the world, a million dollars will seem like trash and fame and fortune and thing you desire on this earth will melt into a hideous waste and the treasure of your faith will consume you like a man completely intoxicated or a person love struck, you will have the treasure of your faith which will sustain you like a mother sustains her newborn through love care and breast feeding, your faith will sustain you like a rain jacket in pouring rain your faith will sustain you like a strong military defeating an angry foe, completely and utterly trouncing its foe with one sweep. Hold onto your Catholic faith and it will bring you more happiness than a new car, a new house, even a husband/wife, more than winning the lottery or all pleasures on earth are trounced under the weight of true faith.

Don’t waver because around the corner is the fullfillment and more than you can imagine of your wildest dreams!!! Your imagination cannot fathom the happieness you will feel if you keep your faith!!!

Good Luck and you will be in my prayers. 🙂 👍

BTW the Catholic faith maybe the part that you don’t hear about is full of spiritual and mystical mysteries and experiences that will leave you in such a state of awe and wonder you will see and experience things you thought impossible that drive the “WORLD” away from your life 🙂
 
Well, I know one thing. There are Christians your age over in “Bible” based churches (Baptist, Assembly of God) who, despite the lack of Catholic Tradition to have to accept, are nevertheless still plagued by doubts just like you are.

Why?

I think it may be for reasons that are unconscious.

In other words, your doubts are perhaps being driven by some force in your mind or in your feelings or in your environment that you really aren’t consciously identifying as the cause of all this doubting.

In other words, all your doubts may not really be about these aspects of the Catholic Faith.

It might be something else entirely. If you think about this, you might see some clues.

I would advise you to read Scott Hahn’s book “Rome Sweet Home.” It tells the story of his doubts about this Presbyterian Church, and how he investigated the Catholic Church and found it to be the one true Church in its entirely.

But, I really don’t advise that. You shouldn’t be spending lots of time reading books like that. You are at a crucial time in your life. You have lots to do.

My advice: Just stick with the Faith you’ve always had. Just get off the Doubt Treadmill. When the doubts pop in, just “change the channel,” and get on with what Life is really all about.

The grass is not greener anywhere else. It just seems to be. Develop a relationship with God. God will tell you what to do. He will lead you. He is the Good Shepherd. Don’t just have a relationship with ideas, books, belief systems, or even any church. Cultivate a living relationship with God through prayer and worship. Be patient. Things will get better. Things will work out. Trust God.
 
I’m sixteen. I’ve been a serious Catholic for my whole life. Recently, I’ve been plagued by an overwhelming skepticism about the Church. I’m solid in my faith in God, but my faith in the Church and tradition is weak. Though I am very educated about the Church, a lot of our practices and beliefs fill me with doubts. Often, they seem worldly and superstitious. When I try to confront my doubts and find answers, I get overwhelmed. I pray that God will take away my doubts but they keep popping up. Can I hope to ever reach a solid, unquestioning faith in the Church? How? I feel like a fake to call myself Catholic when I’m so skeptical.
there is nothing wrong with questioning the church and certain traditions and practices of your religion, i have always done so, and still do. there are many things i dont understand or dont agree with, but the best thing you can do is ask God to enlighten you, trust me then you cant go wrong, just be openm to his guidence. questioning is a good thing, because it shows that you are intelligent, and free thinker. but you must remain objective in your pursuit of the truth, and not allow emotions to sway you in one direction or the other. however, not understanding a tradition or practice, does not excuse you from it, just remember that.
 
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One thing is certain: Certainty is certainly necessary for a good life.

Let your fellow 16 year olds be full of doubt, if they wish, but not you. An adult will ask: “So, what do you want to do when you grow up?” The 16-year old answers: “Um, I don’t know really.” Ugh! Yuk! Don’t be one of those.

Certainty is an enactment or an endorsement by you.

It is not something you “find.” It is something you DECIDE.

You probably studied this in a class: The root word of “decide” is the same as the root for “insecticide” and “incision.” The Latin root word means “to cut off.” Certainty comes from cutting off doubts and cutting off options.

At times at life, you come to a fork in the road, and YOU must decide. You only get so much time to decide whether to take the road on the left or the road on the right, or whether to turn around and go back down the road you’ve already traveled and find a different fork. You only get so much time. There are no time extensions. She who hesitates is lost, much as in “The Wizard of Oz,” “Alice in Wonderland” or the “Narnia” stories.

Read again the “Book of Job” in the Bible (read an easy paraphrase translation, such as Today’s English Version or The Good News Bible). Notice what God’s final answer is to Job’s doubts about whether God is sensible and fair. In a similar vein to that I ask you:
Do you know how abigenesis occurred? Guess what. NO ONE has any clue whatsoever. Do you know what existed 1 second before the Big Bang that birthed this universe? Again, NO ONE has any clue whatsoever. And yet, Life goes one. We ARE here. Should we worry that the sun might not rise tomorrow morning? It might not. The earth could get knocked out of orbit. Could happen. But worry about?

Scott Hahn, who I mentioned in my 1st answer to your question, has a doctorate degree and is employed as a professor by Franciscan University. He has been married and has about 8 kids. For 20 years he has appeared regularly on EWTN TV to teach the Catholic Faith. He was convinced by massive research, study, discussion, reflection, prayer, meditation, that the Roman Catholic Church, with all of its traditions and teachings (prayers to Mary; confession to a priest; etc.) is the truest of all the churches. You don’t have time at your age to undertake the sort of study that Dr. Hahn did. But wouldn’t it be sensible

I’m going to guess that your Catholic Faith was given to you when you were a baby. Me too. I’ve decided to STICK like glue to the Catholic Faith that my parents bestowed upon me.

I’ve decided that God wants me to spend the quickly passing time of this Life in living it out to the best of my ability, with exuberance, with joyful passion at times and with sorrowful passion at times, and with certainty in Basic Truths of Life.
 
Part 3

What do you REALLY have doubts about? I’m betting that it isn’t some aspects of the Catholic Religion. Even if you switched to a church that omits elements that are bothering you in the Catholic Faith, I think you’d find new things to doubt, some things in the Bible, for example. I’m saying that all the religious doubts may be just “projections” (hope you don’t mind me using a term from the field of psychology) of fears, anxieties, doubts, hurts, wounds that are going on in YOUR personal life of relationships, your school life, your family life, your home life.

Let me propose this: WHO is it that you doubt? What PERSON are you doubting?

I think you aren’t doubting the Catholic Faith.

You are doubting some real, live, flesh and blood person in YOUR LIFE today. Who IS it?

Is it HIM? Is it HER? Is it THEM?

Is it YOU?

Are you doubting that anyone LOVES you?

Are you doubting that anyone will EVER love you?

Are you wondering something like “What’s up with this ‘dying’ business?!”

Were you in a good clique at school before, but now you’re out?

Are you in a good clique at school, but wonder about the injustice of all those who are excluded for reasons that seem trivial, petty, and unfair?

Are you wondering if you’ll ever have a true friend again?

Are you doubting is there ANYONE you can really, fully TRUST? Do you lack someone to REALLY talk to, and its sort of killing you?

Do you feel like a victim because you have lots of problems and no one seems to care, no one is HELPING YOU?

Don’t look in the sky for your problem. Look closer. Look here on earth. Look around you. Look inside you, too.

Don’t become a religious/spiritual wanderer! Do not! Quote the refutation of the sad philosopher Jaques in “As You Like It.”)

Are there some dubious, yucky and creepy people in positions of authority in Catholic parishes, and maybe even at the diocese level? Yes! But they have counterparts in all the churches and religions.
 
Part 4

A spiritual practice for you to try: Everyday, look for and focus on anything and everything and anyone and everyone, or any aspect of anyone, that you can see as being CERTAIN. Look! Look and keep looking! Is there ANYTHING or ANYONE you are CERTAIN about? Make lists of all the safe and certain things, everyday. Make them in your mind, make them in a journal. Look out the window, and spot things you are certain about. Look in your home, and see things that are certain.

The famous stage play “Our Town” (also made into one or two movies that can be see on DVD or online) is about a girl about your age who comes to wonder what life is all about. Clearly the playwright was seeking to address the feelings you feel. Lots of schools produce this play.

Be proactive. Take action. Isn’t that one thing you CAN BE CERTAIN about? Can’t you be certain about your ability to make decisions to act? If you pick of a crumpled piece of paper and toss it across the room, won’t it fly across the room in the direction you tossed it? Try it, right now. Try it five times. Ten times. Won’t it ALWAYS happen the same way. See. That’s something certain. Keep looking for other certain things. Start with simple earthly things. Gradually work your way up to the things of Heaven. But not yet.

I read a new novel last year called Everything Matters! by Ron Currie, Jr., who lives in a little town in Maine. (By the way, I was once totally in love with a girl who lived in that same town. Maine is a cool place!) This author has said in interviews that he is a lapsed Catholic. He’s about 25 or 26 years old, was raised a Catholic, but now has drifted from it. Yet, his book shows that he still LONGS for the certainties of the Catholic Faith. I think this can be seen in many ex-Catholics, such as the singer-celebrity Madonna, who for some time now has been into the Jewish mystical, esoteric knowledge known as Kabbalah. Anyway, in the novel Everything Matters! by Ron Currie, Jr., the main character, when he is a very young child, is told by the voice of God that the WHOLE world is going to end some 20 years in the future. The boy believes the voice. He has no doubt that it is telling him the truth. But he is afraid to tell others. And he doesn’t know what, if anything, to do about this prophecy. And he wonders: If everything I do, and if everyone I know, are going to be utterly and completely destroyed in 20 years, does anything really matter? How can it? What’s the point? (This character, despite hearing God talk to him once in a while, does not believe in an afterlife.) To make a long story short, despite this character’s belief that the end of the world will be the end of everything and everyone forever, he nevertheless comes to a CERTAIN knowledge that everything matters. Thus, the title of the novel is Everything Matters! The character and the author have achieved CERTAINTY. And, to be honest, the novel did help me get rid of my DOUBTS about the value and goodness of this precarious mortal Life. The novel even ends up revealing that modern physics does point to an Eternal Life (Heaven) for human beings. So, I think this author really hasn’t abandoned his Catholic Faith after all.

People will say to you, “You’re young. There’s things you just can’t understand yet.” Well, true. But the situation is more grave than that. We are all “young” when it comes to understanding the Big Things of Life. A person who is 75 years old is STILL too young to understand, really understand, MANY Big Things. And the more you live, the more Big Things you will experience, so there is always more and more to think about, wonder about. Yet, on the other hand, if you pray and try to keep your heart pure, you will, as you progress down the road of life, you’ll get more and more LIGHT from Heaven. You will never see it all. But you will see more.
 
Part 5

Notice how in the Bible, Jesus keeps saying things like, “Your faith has saved you.” “Your faith has healed you.” He stresses that you must exert yourself to have faith, and that you get blessings as a result of the work of exerting yourself to have faith. Faith is a gift, but it also a decision, and is also work. Faith is like lifting that barbell despite how heavy it is. Faith is like pushing yourself to keep running hard around the track for one more minute even though your legs and lungs are hurting you so much that you think you might die. Faith is like that, at least some of the time. It is not always just an easy, warm, fuzzy, comforting thing, though it is that sometimes too.

For now, just decide to BE CERTAIN. Fill in the gaps later. If there is time. Which there probably won’t be. But will it matter? No!

Some people will say that you just must ACCEPT, and submit to certain unpleasant realities. Well, that’s true. But don’t be mislead. There are also things you MUST NEVER accept or submit to. Thus, Life is a strange combination of Acceptance and Rebellion (or Submission and Defiance, or Surrendering and Fighting). The Catholic Faith, and the Holy Bible, provide the best guidance that I know of regarding what things to surrender to, and what things to fight and overcome. A brief outline of this is in the famous “Serenity Prayer,” too.

Even if some elements of the Catholic Religion seem wrong or unnecessary, can you find elements of the Catholic religion that you see as being totally certain and necessary for a Good Life? Well, maybe for a month try focusing on those certain and necessary things, and ignoring the other things. Do that for a month, and see how you feel.

Meanwhile, take the INITIATIVE to get to people and experiences that you long for in this Life of yours. Be proactive. Be an actor on the stage of Life. Be a writer of your own Story. Don’t just accept what happens. MAKE things happen. You can. You do. You will.
 
Part 6

Associate, as much as possible, with people who have lots of certainty about the Catholic Faith, and disassociate as much as possible with people with lots of doubts about the Catholic Faith. One’s environment has a profound influence on us. But is this being mean or prejudicial towards non-Catholics or doubters? Well, you WILL remain or become like those you associate with the most. In picking one’s associates, one is deciding how he or she will become or remain. If you associate with doubters, they will end up enforcing doubt on you. If you associate with people full of certainty, they will end up enforcing certainty on you. There is really little tolerance of differences among close associates. A close group or partnership always becomes a “we.” “We think…we do…we go…”

You make things happen. You are making things happen. You have been making thing happen for year now. You’ve been making choices in your environment.

You can make new and different things happen by your initiatives and choices now. Plant a seed, a new plant will grow.

God makes things happen too. God plants seeds. Love and accept God, and everything He does, and He will bless you.

Love and accept yourself, and accept everything you do out of righteous love for God, neighbor and self, and God will bless you.
 
Part 7

Is it a SIN to doubt any of the doctrines or commandments of God taught by the Catholic Church? Heresy is a sin. But heresy is a denial of doctrines or commandments of God taught by the Catholic Church. Doubt isn’t necessarily denial, though it is often the slippery slope that lead to denial. For that reason, saints have discouraged doubting such matters.

But there are other connections between sin and doubting.

Maybe someone you trusted, or have a right to trust, is committing certain sins, and this has made you want to doubt the Catholic Faith rather than hate or disapprove of tht person.

Maybe you are committing a sin, or want to commit a sin, and rather than stopping your self or condemning yourself, you’d rather doubt that such things are a sin at all. Some people take this route regarding lying, cheating and sexual things. They see lots of people around them doing these things, getting away with doing them, and apparently suffering no harm for doing them, and even gaining pleasures, benefits, and advantages by doing them. So, someone seeing all this can ask, “Are these things really wrong then? Must I refrain from them just because the bishops and priests of the Catholic Church have declared them to be sins? And what if do these things just a little bit, or only when absolutely necessary for some good purpose?”

Sins can be forgiven, of course, if the person who sinned truly ends up seeing their sinful actions as sinful and truly regrets doing them, truly feels contrition. But sinning has an unexpected effect. It causes the sinner to doubt whether the action really was sinful. And that doubt makes it really hard to get to the point of repentance/contrition. So, once a person goes down the path of willing sin, even if only when absolutely necessary to accomplish some good goal, it become hard to ever come back to a state of grace/righteousness. Doubt sets in. Everything because murky, foggy and dark. The Light of Faith is gone, or diminished.

Sinning is one way to help achieve goals, even good goals, like getting good grades, getting into a good college, helping a friend, developing a relationship. But, if we take the time to look and think, there are always non-sinful ways that will work just as well to help us achieve such goals. The non-sinful ways will not have the horrible side affect of giving us a “plague of doubts” about our religion. So, sinning is never a good idea, no matter who good other people or your own imagination may make it look. The first tragedy in history occurred because Eve believed the lie that no harm would come to she and Adam if she and Adam violated a commandment of God. The liar even told Eve that benefit would come to herself and Adam if they broke God’s rule. Our world today is full of people in their middle age years or elderly years who look back on life with bitterness and sorrow, seeing that if they’d only stayed on the straight path in life, starting at age 16, all the tragedies involving themselves and ones they loved would have never occurred. The bitterest part is that they can see that the sinning wasn’t even necessary. They see that they could have achieved their goals or solved their problems very well without sinning. And they see that the sinning didn’t even bring them much pleasure or satisfaction. They feel like fools, like someone who was conned or duped.

The Holy Catholic Church is there as a teacher, a guide, a mother, and God is there as a father, and Jesus is there as a brother, to keep us from ending up that way. Have faith. Keep the Faith. Just decide to be certain about it. In time, your faith will bring you more and more Light from Heaven, and you’ll see. You’ll never be sorry you walked the path of righteousness. Off the path of righteousness there are many alluring enticements but also many thorns and deserts and swamps and cliffs and ferocious wild animals, and no true love. Which would you prefer? God and the Catholic Church and the Communion of Saints want ALL THE BEST for you, now, tomorrow, next week, next year, and continuously. God, the Bible, the Catholic Church and the Communion of Saints say: Do not doubt. Have Faith.

A.M.D.G.
 
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