Hi, funkAYE
I believe you should remember that ‘masturbation’ is very similar to a drug, considering it’s addictive nature, I believe it acts like drugs do. So if you view it like that, there are dozens of resources online to help you quit, very, very effective resources.
Personally, I related it to smoking to help me quit (I have never smoked before btw).
Quit smoking ad: Never give up giving up -
youtube.com/watch?v=FQpcK5gL5W8
Never Give up Giving Up -
quit.org.au/keep-quitting/
If you relate it to alcoholism, drugs, smoking or anything addictive in nature, than you have dozens of fantastic resources out there to help you quit, simply apply them to ‘masturbation’.
I would also like to quote for you what I have learnt from Dr Phil’s book ‘Lifecode’ that I believe is very good, I will use ‘Smoking’ in this case, however all you have to do is simply apply it to ‘masturbation’
A good point in Dr. Phil’s book, is that “If you want different, you have to do different” you have to identify the payoffs you recieve from smoking, then you can change them by changing the payoff’s or removing the payoff’s.
It’s like those who say “Im going on a diet” yet fill their cupboard up with unhealthy food, it isn’t going to work, you can’t rely on will power when it comes to these things, you need to set your environment up so that it pulls for your success.
You need to change your environment so that it pulls for your success, so that especially when you don’t have the will power to quit smoking, you have set your environment up so that the payoff of not smoking out ways the payoff of smoking.
For example when you really want to smoke, yet you have no cigarette’s the inconvieniance of driving all the way into town to buy a packet of cigarette’s might be enough to out way the payoff of getting to smoke a cigarette. Don’t allow yourself to have available resource to your addiction.
Remember using only ‘motivation’ doesn’t work, motivation comes and goes, people cannot rely on just motivation/will power to quit an addiction, they have to make the payoff they get from an addiction no longer a payoff, the payoff of not giving into an addiction needs to outway the payoff of giving into the addiction (That’s why they send drug addicts to rehab, because they do not have available resource to their addiction and that environment pulls for their success) motivation is the first step to want different, but the next step is to do different, most struggle with how to do different when the motivation/will power goes away as it always does.
Keep the following 3 Ds in mind when you have a craving (It was originally 4 Ds. but the 4th D … drinking water, isn’t going to help when it comes to masturbation).
Delay: remember that the worst cravings last for only a few minutes and will become even less frequent the longer you have quit.
Deep breathe: this should help you relax and focus your mind on something else.
Do something else: you could watch a movie or listen to music.
These links contain absolutely fantastic advice (Simply apply it to your addiction) -
quitnow.gov.au/internet/q…ing-strategies
quitnow.gov.au/internet/q…/warning-signs
Motivational Tips to Help You Quit -
1) A slip up doesn’t mean you’ve failed. What’s important is to work out how you can stop a slip up from happening next time.
2) Each craving only lasts a few minutes. Don’t let this be the day that you blow it.
3) Don’t say ‘this is my last time’ say ‘I’m not going to give in today’ and take one day at a time.
4) Once you have quit for a while, the desires to give in will be much less intense and/or frequent and remember, the worst cravings only last a few minutes, so remember the 3 D’s above (Delay, Deep Breathe, Do somthign else).
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It’s important that it’s your decision to quit That you want to quit and that you feel confident you can succeed.
6) Be clear about your reason to quit It’ll motivate you to keep going.
7) **The most dangerous thought you can have is ** I’ll just give in this one time.
8) You may feel as if you have just lost a friend, but really you have lost your worst enemy.
9) Remember the sooner you quit The sooner you will reap the benefits.
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The more time you try to quit The better you will get at it until you quit for good.
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Get rid of provocative magazines/images etc anything that reminds you of giving in.
**12) **Practise saying to yourself “No thanks, I’m chaste”
**13) **Avoid challanging occassions where there may be provocative images, e.g. certain movies.
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If you are feeling tense Exercise, take a walk or go for a jog, do some weight lifting.
15) The most common quitting method for most people is to stop suddenly Go cold turkey.
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When you quit you might feel lots of different withdrawl symptoms This is because your body is re-adjusting to being without, it will pass.
This site also has a Q&A for you -
chastity.org/
Remember, the worst cravings only last a few minutes/seconds and they will become less intense/frequent the longer you have quit, don’t let this be the day that you blow it.
God Bless
Thank you for reading
Josh
Alright so this is pretty embarrassing but i need some support. My biggest vice without question is masturbation and i have been struggling with it for roughly 6 years. I have had certain periods where i have gone a month without doing it but that was only like 2x. the rest i was weak. Anyways, every time I have masturbated and not confessed i am in a state of large peril where i am constantly thinking i am going to die somehow and end up in hell. I am scared to drive like ALL the time especially since i have the highest likelihood of dieing at the wheel since i am a horrible driver. But yeah im generally fearful for my life as well if I am in a state of mortal sin due to masturbation, its like a state of paranoia and it plagues me a lot since it is always on my mind and even when i have confessed and finally feel at peace, it comes to mind right away because i end up masturbating and it starts consuming my mind all over again… I feel like God will somehow make it so that I die and am damned because he’s fed up with me not changing my ways after so long so i must finally pay. Although this is outlandish its what i feel. Is there any possible truth to this? I just want to know if I am damned to hell for sure if i die (i know God is merciful but I assume he’s pretty stern on the not die with mortal sin stuff) / is it good to be thinking im going to die (maybe as more incentive not to do it if that makes sense) / any general advice anyone can give me on the matter? I’m really trying to stop. Sorry if I sound like a total nut right now im just very uneasy about this. I know this is a semi-played out topic but yeah, If anyone could at least pray for my success thatd be greatly appreciated, thanks so much! 
